An important reminder (or introduction, for some) that a good, healthy marriage requires personal transformation by Jesus. It’s always a good thing to purposefully look at our own growth and yieldededness to God rather than focusing on our spouse’s weaknesses and shortcomings.

This is a pretty inspirational christian book on marriage. It contains some useful ideas and insights.

The gradual transformation of our inner landscapes allows us to embrace each other in our flawed states and offer an imperfect, yet oh-so-sweet, love. it's mysterious but true that the very process of loving sacrificially leads to transformation, not only in the lover but also in the one loved.

Making marriage Beautiful is doing marriage sacrificially. It is the same way in living the gospel beautifully, sacrifice. In relationships, there is always a sacrifice. We can sacrifice our sinful desires for our families. It is always a choice. This marriage book focuses on sacrifice of the Godly kind that brings glory to God and transformation to us. Marriage is the example of the Gospel because of the relationship and how we respond to each other. Are we selfish or do we serve?
Our marriage reveals the image of God to the world.

In our marriages we go thru seasons of life- things get hard, live is not fair. Do we focus on what is fair or what is obedient? Because marriage is so much like the gospel, we must always have a attitude of repentance and grace. Is our marriage of redemption or a prison?

The text covers many things that can bring despair to a marriage. Expectations, listening well, addictions, enabling and forgiveness, and our childhood. Each of these items, goes into detail how it can be destructive and how we can take each of these items to make opportunities for making our marriages beautiful that reflect the gospel. Highly recommend.

A Special Thank you to David C Cook and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.

Super Christian. Suuuuuuper Christian.

I read it out of curiousity, thinking that I could get something out of it but unfortunately this book really wasn't for me.

Many people marry so that they could be happy. That is something that is furthest from the truth about marriage. While happiness is an important need, it should not be the key focus of a marriage. For author Dorothy and Christopher Greco, the higher reason is Christlikeness. The problem with many modern expectations about marriage is the presence of perfect expectations and the reality of imperfect people. In spite of these, there is hope. There is a chance to make difficult marriages not only bearable but beautiful. It begins by asking what kind of change we want. How are two persons who are so different going to live together? Are they willing to acknowledge their own weaknesses and brokenness? Do we need Christ only during times of crises?

We are urged to look back at our individual's family cultures to understand how our histories form our worldview and expectations of people. We need to avoid buying into cultural stereotypes surrounding male and female genders, and to shape our worldviews toward a Christlike one. See conflict as a struggle for growth. Reframe disappointment and anger as holy invitations to understand and to grow the relationship. By addressing anger appropriately, we can also avoid making five different responses to anger. Practice listening as a core skill in being a better spouse. Beware of unconscious addictions creeping into our lives. Learning to confess and to forgive are key relationship savers. Suffering despite all its negative connotations can have an upside. We can choose joy and we can move toward making marriage beautiful.


The authors had previously broken off their engagement, only to marry two years later amid a flurry of warnings of repercussions. Their differences could not have been more stark. They felt that the marriage had humbled them, exposed their own pride, and forced them to look straight into the challenge of looking more to Christ. At the end of each chapter, Greco asks herself two questions:
Were these concepts actually helping me love Christopher today?
Historically speaking, have they helped us and our marriage grow stronger and healthier?

Each chapter begins with a personal story or illustration and ends with stories of how other couples had successfully overcome their difficulties. At the end of each chapter, there are valuable discussion questions that can be used by couples or discussion groups. As a reader, I find the questions a helpful reminder of the concepts shared earlier in the chapter. It also makes one pause and reflect on one's own marriage. Overall, there is a hopeful disposition throughout the book that marriage is good, and that there are more reasons for hope in any marriage. The last chapter of the book really drives home what marriage entails: Sacrificial love. This is perhaps the most distinctive Christlike attitude that any marriage could be. After all, Jesus had said that there is no greater love than one who would willingly lay down his life for his friends. What more our spouses?

I know that there are many marriage books already written out there in the market. Knowing that marriage is sacred and deserves to be protected, while there is no lack of resources, there is also no such thing as too much of a good thing. Perhaps, the bigger struggle is not about how much material are there out in the market, but how much have we put into practice whatever we have read or learned. If you are able to practice at least some of the principles in this book, you would have made your marriage a few steps more beautiful. Try it!

Dorothy Littell Greco is a photographer, author, speaker, and pastor. Her website is dorothygreco.com and she lives outside Boston with her husband.

Rating: 4.75 stars of 5.

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A thoughtful offering, especially with the thoughts from the author's husband dispersed throughout. You could sense their passion for marriage. I felt this book offered a lot of truth about how to behave in many of our relationships, not just as husband and wife. There's much to learn here.