When we have unresolved grief, we have unresolved emptiness in our lives, and a loss that can show itself in expressions of anger, compulsive hoarding, incessant talking, and such. We get stuck in the past.


Written pragmatically, I am caught up with how her heart and head dance around the pain she is experienced in the loss of her daughter.

Derksen's daughter Candace was abducted on her way home from school and found dead in abandoned shack not far from her house in Winnipeg Canada.
Her account is very well written. Written with vulernability as she has journeyed through her grief and the reality of what happened to her family. Letting go of what hindered her to live life. To love her family and to find purpose once again. She describes how she reconciled God in the evil that happened as she learned what really happened to her daughter. A crisis faith when reality comes in like a train wreck.

Each chapter touches on what she had to let go and what she discovered about her faith. Her writing was poetic as she brought in Jesus as the Nazarene and pulling in a pragmatic way how the word healed her heart.

A Special Thank You to Zondervan and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review

A book of inspiration...and hope. Thank you for sharing it w/ me.

The Way of Letting Go: One Woman's Walk toward Forgiveness
Beautifully written by a mother who has to suffer the grief of losing her daughter in such a young age and yet she decided to forgive the murderer.
What I love the most about this book is how she honestly shared about her pain and struggle to forgive without patronizing.
Forgive is not an easy or just a one-night decision task, but it takes years and commitment for her to let go.
I learned a lot from her experience. Letting go things that you cannot control is the way to be free and make peace with your life.

Thank you Netgalley for this book

I knew from the description that the author had experienced a horrible loss of her daughter, and that this book was going to use that loss to show us how we, too, could let go of anger, sadness, hate, etc. Ms. Derksen takes at least 30% of the book to describe the loss of her daughter. I appreciate her setting the stage, but as a first-time expectant mother, I am just really not in a position to read all of that right now! She does start to touch on the "monsters" in the "abyss" -- of which I could whole-heartedly relate to, coming from a place of depression in my adolescent years -- I ultimately will have to pick this book back up at a time when my hormones aren't triggering quite so many tears and fears.