I read this book at the perfect time for me. It's hard being in a relationship that isn't healthy or good for you when it's one you don't want to lose. This book is helpful is sorting through the difficulties of letting go.

This book describes different types of abuse and helps women realize tbat what is happening is abuse. Sometimes abuse is more subtle than a bruise. I highly recommend this book to all women.

I would like to thank Netgalley and the publisher for providing me with a review copy in exchange for my honest and unbiased opinion of it.

A valuable and important book I will look forward to having on my shelf. It was well-written and riveting. Like a good novel, I was hooked. So many dog-eared and highlighted pages.

Yes, I chose this book because I have known I live with a bully. I've known there wasn't something quite right early on but, as the author figured, chose to ignore it to honor the investment of time and energy that my family an I have already put into this relationship. And I fear what horrible habits and norms my children are witnessing and experiencing every day.

Though everything was very validating, what I wish Avery Neal had included was something a tad more balanced. She presented case studies that clearly demonstrated what was wrong with the abuser, but I wish I could've learned more about what is wrong with the victim so I know better on how to correct what's wrong with me. Admittedly, the goal for Neal was likely to paint enough for the victim to diagnose and take action to end it.

Folks-- If there are other books more helpful on this topic, I hope someone shares on this forum. There's clearly a need out there for this conversation and support.

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This is a good introductory book, explaining different forms of abuse by giving examples. I think this book can be a real eye-opener for some women out there.

This is an important book on the nature of domestic abuse, types of perpetrators and tools for it's victims. The last chapter, Helping our Daughters, was the most important in my opinion.
I found the book to be too gendered, which the author acknowledges in the preface. The explanation is that the assumption of a male abuser and female victim are for ease of reading. I would rather have had a more diverse (hence, realistic) range of anecdotes. And the last chapter would have been more effective if it explored how both girls and boys could be educated on abuse and provided with the tools to identify and respond to abusive patterns in their relationships.

This book should be required reading for all women, whatever the stage of relationship they are in! When talking about abuse, so many people think that a woman has to have visual bruises on her body, which is not true. Psychological abuse can be far more damaging to a woman’s health. The author of this book lays out how subtle insults are unhealthy in relationships and the damage that they do. I recognized many signs of previous relationships while reading this and am going to purchase this book as a gift for a friend that I believe needs to read it.

Extremely well written, thought provoking book. I highly recommend it. It's very informative while also being super interesting at the same time - couldn't put it down. Packed full of helpful information.

This book was an ok read. The different type of people were well explained. Some of the stories of what various people went through was interesting. It points out things to look for and questions to maybe ask yourself but there was not a straight forward suggestion on how to remove oneself from this type of relationship. Many things are touched on, and some of the advise/suggestions are good,but this was just an ok read for me. Thanks to NetGalley, the author and the publisher for the ARC of this book in return for my honest review.