Thank you Stan Tatkin and Netgalley for an ARC of this book.

This book was initially aimed at those entering into marriage or a serious commitment but it is highly beneficial to any romantic relationship that you care for.
The writing style is easy and engaging and I found myself nodding along as I read and having many aha moments. I thank you for this valuable book and ensuring that, no matter what stage or age of your relationship you nurture the WE above all.

Thank you for this ARC in return of my honest review.
I highly recommend this book.

Stan Tatkin wrote this book to help couples learn how to have healthy, securely functioning relationships. Although it’s primarily intended to help couples prepare for marriage or a similar commitment and prevent problems from occurring later, most of the book would be relevant for anyone in any stage of relationship. He mentions that the same techniques can be used in open or polyamorous relationships, although the focus here is on dyads in committed relationships. The examples include couples of different genders and sexual orientations, which was nice to see.

This book includes the best description of attachment styles I’ve ever read. If you read the profile of Anchors (secure), Islands (insecure-avoidant), and Waves (insecure-anxious), you will likely be able to determine your primary attachment strategy. There is some helpful discussion of how attachment strategies can change depending on your partner’s style, and also a very brief discussion of the disorganized style that can result from unresolved trauma. I wish he had provided just a bit more information about the disorganized style.

The book was easy to read with a nice mix of research-backed discussion (citations provided in the endnotes), case studies, and exercises. I especially appreciated the discussion of issues such as hypersexuality, sexual avoidance (which is a difficulty tolerating intimacy), and sensory aversions.

I recommend this book for anyone interested in improving their romantic relationships.

I was provided an unproofed ARC through NetGalley that I volunteered to review. Because I have not seen the final published version, I cannot comment on the final editing and formatting.

Committing yourself fully to a loving partnership—a “we”—can be one of the most beautiful and fulfilling experiences you’ll ever have. Yet as anyone in a long-term relationship will tell you, it can also be one of the most challenging. Almost half of all first marriages end in divorce, and chances for staying together go down from there. So, how do you beat the odds? In We Do, psychotherapist Dr. Stan Tatkin provides a groundbreaking system for helping couples create meaningful, enduring relationships.

Commitment is a big deal, especially when it comes to you and another person. This book is designed to help couples by using exercises, questions, and real-world challenges. This will help both of you to ensure you are with the right partner and stop problems before they come up.

I found this book well written and insightful. I think it will help a lot of couples who are trying to figure out who they are as a team, as well as yourself and what kind of partner you are.

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Pub Date: 01 Dec 2018

Stan Tatkin’s “We Do,” is simply a must read for anyone looking for a lifelong partner or committed partners wanting to experience a healthy, vital, and secure relationship. Tatkin is simply brilliant and masterful as he shares captivating insights and life-changing exercises informed by neuroscience, attachment theory, and other cutting-edge disciplines. As a therapist, I am definitely recommending this book to all my couples!

I really hate leaving this type of review for an author who consistently receives 4 1/2 stars on Amazon. Unfortunately, I just couldn't continue reading this book. Tatkin tries to be relatable and knowledgeable, but he comes across as superior and arrogant. If I was meeting with Tatkin and he was speaking to me the way he writes in the book, I would probably roll my eyes and get up and leave. Perhaps for some people this book would be very helpful and insightful. It might have even been that way for me if I could just get past his tone...