My Thoughts


‘I am here to pick over the bones of my mother's life like some sort of domestic vulture; deciding which linen, china and furniture are worth keeping, and which should be consigned to the charity shops’

I love Ruth Hogan’s writing. Her book, ‘The Keeper of Lost Things’ (review HERE) was extraordinary, so I was excited to embark on another reading journey with Ruth at the helm. Her writing is pure and simple, yet leaves you with a full heart. She most definitely has a way with words especially considering it’s not about always about plot but character and relationships. I particularly appreciated her shining a spotlight on mental health in this particular tale.

‘Maybe I am mad, and yes, maybe I will get hurt, but isn't it about time to take a risk? I'm sick of being careful and hiding who I really am.’

This is a wonderful story all about family relationships over time and the impact of being truthful to those you care about. It really is a thought provoking read just from that aspect alone. It alternates (seamless shifts and connections between timelines I might add) between a young Tilly and the grown up Tilda and this provides insightful perceptions of the impact of change over time. Tilda holds onto much resentment towards her mother and only after her mother dies and she is sorting things out, does Tilda come to see events from a different perspective.

‘I can still see her hair blowing in the wind and her dress billowing. She was so beautiful and I was so proud of her. So where did it all go so terribly, irrevocably wrong?’

Tilly was always closer to her father and only upon her mother’s death and with the help of friends and neighbours can she see events of the past through fresh eyes. The diaries she reads help Tilda to understand her mother more as a person and appreciate how it was for her and ultimately form the person Tilda was to become herself. This struggle to reconcile a past she thought she understood, to how things really were is fascinating. Combine that with a fabulous cast of characters and you have an engaging read.

‘I am going to use the best cutlery, the best crockery and the best glasses every day. I am not going to die with my best party dress still unworn on its hanger.’

If you have never read a Ruth Hogan book, I suggest you give it a go and read one sooner rather than later.

‘These days I remember my childhood like an old cine film shot in soft focus mellowed by distance and nostalgia, that jumps and jerks from one frame to another. Some of the characters are just shadows in the background, some have starring roles and others are out of the frame altogether. Bits of the film are missing or blurred and it is shot entirely from one perspective.’

This review is based on a complimentary copy from the publisher and provided through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. The quoted material may have changed in the final release.

I loved this book. Not sure why...possibly busy time of the year, but I took a while to click that Tilly and Tilda were the same person.....silly me.
I actually wish I could've visited Paradise Hotel with all these interesting characters under one roof. Probably fit right in! A glorious mix of misfits and colourful individuals.
But the whole story is not set here. We pop backwards and forwards between the six year old Tilly and the adult Tilda as she tries to make sense of her upbringing, when her mother dies and she works her way through a house of her mothers possessions.
Diaries of a mad woman. A mother. A desperate soul craving her daughters love.
Torn between the love of a man and her strict family, Tilda's mum had made the ultimate sacrifice of first being disowned by per parents and secondly shutting off her husband and Tilda's dad. So many years based on a lie and so many opportunities for happiness lost.
While this is an emotional read, it is often hilarious too as Tilly quite often gets the wrong end of the stick in regard to religious lingo in particular.
I really wished Tilda well in the end....I had grown used to her funny habits and rituals and was fascinated that she could see ghosts......I hope she creates her own happy ending.
Thanks to NetGalley for this fabulous read. I will be on the lookout for more of Ruth Hogan's books.