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The premise of the book is great and the author really delivers. Great read. Highly recommended. .
This has some very good marriage advice! I read this with my husband and I'd recommend it to any couple.
While I'm only JUST married, and nowhere close to kids yet, I found much of this book to be super interesting. I loved how well-researched each concept is, but also appreciated the voice-y-ness of the author, which kept this a quick, light read.
Marriageology looks at what the writer,Belinda Luscombe, calls the 6 fault lines: familiarity, fighting, finances, family, fooling around, finding help. Her book offers research for each chapter, anecdotes including her own, and facts. It offers tips to help your marriage last. I suggest the book for pastors and people who are interested in marriage
I received this book at the very moment I needed it. I love how “fate” does that sometimes. While there is nothing new I really loved the delivery. Thanks NetGalley for allowing me to read this book in exchange for an honest review!
I saw this recommended by Jen Hatmaker on Facebook so duh, it’s good! Loved it and it helped me through some tough times. Unlike some marriage books, this one was positive and had me feeling confident and excited about my love
I've really been on a kick for wanting to read more books about marriage lately. This one was right up my alley. Having been married only 5 years and together for 8, there is a lot I learned from this book and from us as a couple. This really helps you dig deeper into each other, keep you connected, and always keep things fresh. Highly recommended!
Contrary to many other advance copy readers, I didn't enjoy this book.
Marriageology attempts to review the science-based evidence about what makes a marriage work for the long-haul. While I enjoyed the information shared by the author's peers, and their suggestions on "what to do when...." I didn't enjoy the anecdotal stories of the author's personal experiences.
Why? I felt almost like the author was 'beneath' some suggestions, such as how to talk to your partner to diffuse a fight. Instead of following the instructions - even if they seemed odd - the author admits to not only changing the wording but also, not following the recommended cues to stop an escalation.
Perhaps the intention was, "do as I say, not as I do". Or, that they tried the methods and tested in the field, within her marriage, but.... they don't work because.... they didn't feel natural? I don't know. All I know is, throughout the book there are references to the author attempting a device or tool, and deciding not to do it as suggested, and then (not surprisingly) getting the same reaction or outcome as every other time.
Overall, the book is well written, although I found it unnecessarily wordy in places.
3/5 stars, as there's a lot of merit in the information shared, but not as much in the tone or self-deprecating comments to make it a must-read.
*I received an advanced digital copy with the purpose of reviewing this book.
Description by publisher: A smart and concise guide to staying together that draws on scientific findings, expert advice, and years in the marital trenches to explain why marriage is better for your health, your finances, your kids, and your happiness.
Very useful information, and sprinkled with a little bit of marriage humor here and there. I was giggling and chuckling at the various jokes.
The book presents advice from a psycological and sociological standpoint, but also shares anectodal information in the form of personal stories. The author states than names where changed, but the stories remain intact. Is a perfect mix of science, advice, and personal storiles that you can relate to.
Marriageology examines six faults as the main marriage trouble makers, and provides advice to each of them.
Depening on where you are in your marriage, you will be using this book differently. If you're reading this before any major problems, you can use the book to prevent them. If you're already experiencing trouble, then this book can give you advice about how to act, or at least where to look for help. As sometimes therapy will be needed, or marriage counseling that needs to go beyong the teachings of a book, and advice has to be tailored to your speciphic needs or issues.
I would recommend this book to anyone married or about to marry. Don't wait to have troubles, work on them before theiy appear!
An interesting look at the modern phenomenon of marriage. A witty, fun look at the research around marriage.
Many thanks to NetGalley, the publisher, and the author for my ARC. All opinions are my own.
Interesting book and great reading for married couples. I liked that the science behind staying together (facts, figures, etc) was paired with advice on how to make it happen. A good read!
I'm not really one to read self help type books, but I saw this book and thought, why not give it a try. I sure am happy that I did. This book was written in a way that makes it both informative (with statistics and research) and also relate-able (with personal admissions and stories from the author). I feel like this book also offers some great tips and advice on how to achieve a happier union (which who doesn't want that!).
Marriageology was such a fascinating read on marriage and long term relationships. Luscombe's writing was approachable with the perfect mix of scientific research, personal stories, and advice. I found myself nodding along so many times with her anecdotes regarding her own marriage history. She shares a wonderful perspective that is relatable yet also hopeful. Her ability to share the hardships of some of the biggest stumbling blocks of marriage was super accessible.
She points out the 6 major "fault lines" that can fracture a marriage and how to navigate them personally and as a couple. Like many non-fiction books, certain chapters stood out to me more and I especially connected with the commentary and research she shared in the parenting section, it was spot on. I also am so happy she talked about how helpful therapy can be, and not just at times of serious distress but also as a regular practice.
I learned so much from this book and I highly recommend it for anyone that is navigating a long term relationship. Thank you to NetGalley and Random House Publishing for a copy of this book. All opinions are my own.
Casting a witty, candid, and probing eye on the latest behavioral science, Luscombe has written a fresh and persuasive report on the state of our unions, how they’ve changed from the marriages of our parents’ era, and what those changes mean for the happiness of this most intimate and important of our relationships.
In Marriageology Luscombe examines the six major fault lines that can fracture contemporary marriages. She presents facts, debunks myths, and provides a fascinating mix of research, anecdotes, and wisdom from a wide range of approaches—from how properly dividing up chores can result in a better sex life to the benefits of fighting with your spouse. Marriageology offers simple, actionable, maybe even borderline fun techniques and tips to try, whether the relationship in question is about to conk out or just needs a little grease and an oil change. The best news of all is that sticking together is easier than it looks.
I’d recommend this book to anyone who is married or anyone who is getting married. This was a fast and funny read. I went over this book with my husband and it's actually helped our communication skills.
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21 May 2019