The issue is not whether this path or that path is better, whether singleness or marriage will bring more fulfillment and good. The issue is God and whether we abide in him and are trusting him every day.

Do not be fooled that this book is for singles. I have been married for over 30 years and these myths about singleness tells me more about the gospel and really about my own marriage then most marriage books. The first question you are faced with is do you value singleness. Not in what the cultural would but in the way God would. Celibacy is big and it is big in marriage as well. How we view sex and the genders reflects on how we view God and creation. I loved his quote on celibacy. Celibacy isn't a waste of our sexuality, it's a wonderful way of fulfilling it. It's allowing our sexual feelings to point us to the reality of the gospel. We will never ultimately make sense of what our sexuality is unless we know what it is for. To point us to God's love for us in Christ.

The comparisons of Singleness and Marriage is another gospel issue that is dealt with. Marriage and singleness both have a place n the gospel. One shows the shape of the gospel and the other shows us its sufficiency. It is sad and hurtful to the body of believers when one is raised above the other. It is important to invite singles into the lives of married couples and in the church in general.

The value of spiritual friendship is key to both married and singles. It deals with intimacy that we all seek and need to grow. Spiritual friendship does not need sex to fulfill the need for intimacy. It is like the notion we can live by bread alone. There are some that have the sex but not the intimacy. The ones that have the intimacy but not the sex are probably more alive and attuned to others than their counter parts. Being known and accepted is part of intimacy that deals with trust and vulnerability that you cannot receive with just sex. The whole chapter on Spiritual Friendship is worth the read alone.

So whatever your martial status, if you are a follower of Christ, this book will bring light into your heart. Highly recommend.

A Special Thank you to Crossway Publishing and Netgalley for the ARC and the opportunity to post an honest review.

If you haven't read a book written by Sam Allberry yet, you're missing out. A clear communicator with engaging writing, Sam writes with a passion for scripture and people that is refreshing. His latest book, "7 Myths about Singleness" is an absolute must read, both for the single person by choice, by circumstances, or for those that have friends who are single (which is everyone). A topic that has been overlooked in many church circles, Sam looks into myths about singleness that far too many people believe. At 149 pages long it is not a daunting read, but it is rich in information.

7 Myths bout Singleness was both enjoyable and tiresome to read.
What I enjoyed:
Learning new theological wording
Reaffirming that God does give me a good life
Hearing from someone who is in that life

What was boring:
Too many chapters concentrated on how singleness wasn't like marriage instead of hos it is good in its own way
The "recent" pop culture reference. (While the Zoolander remark was perfect. To say that 40 Days and 40 Nights was recent implies that the author is a little behind on the pop culture he's trying to add)

Overall, I did learn somethings and felt like God was sending someone to reaffirm my life.

This book was amazing and just what I needed. I struggle with this topic myself and felt so encouraged by what I read. The author was clearly very knowledgeable on this topic, as it is something he experienced too, so he’s able to write from a viewpoint that I can personally relate and connect with. I appreciated the perspectives be brought to the book and think it’ll really help people in the same situation as myself.