Member Reviews
A mother with three daughters, I am always on the market for a good parenting book. The thing that is most important to me in a how-to style book such as parenting and self help is the actual tangible advice. There is nothing the drives me more crazy then hearing good ideas and keep hearing about them, but never getting to the how to implement them. This book delivered on the tangible advice. This is a must for parents! Thank you, NetGalley, for allowing me to read this book in exchange for an honest review!
‘Parentshift’ is a interesting parenting self-help book for building strong and better relationships with your children. The book was really informative, easy to read and gave me plenty to think about, even though I've been a parent for over 17 years - there are always things you can learn about your parenting style and reflect on things you do or could change.
The book promotes a heart-centred method of parenting as many child-development educators recognise that there are three main parenting styles - often known as Goldilocks and the Three Parenting Styles. The first one is "too hard" so parents set unreasonably high expectations for their kids but give low emotional support (controlling); the second is "too soft" where parents set low expectations though then in turn offer high and unhealthy emotional support (permissive), and finally getting it "just right", where parents set reasonably high expectations but offer high and healthy emotional support (heart-centered).
The book provides great alternatives to those reward or punishment systems that have been peddled by many TV programmes and suggests many alternative and better common sense approaches to parenting which was backed up by research and examples were given throughout the book with enlightenment from other parents or research to back it up.
It also has useful appendices one of which provides ideas on what children should be managing for themselves split by age range.
I received this book from netgalley in return for a honest review.
As the mother of a 3 and 1 year old, this book was so helpful in the methods that I will use in the future. Through "Parent Shift" I learned methods to use and methods to avoid and why. Not only was this book super informative, but it was written in a way that made it a pleasure to read.
Oh, how I wish this book had been around when my child was a toddler! This was an excellent read with sound science to support the writers' premise that many of the things we have been taught about parenting are myths. I felt really good about my parenting in some places and hung my head in shame in others. My child is now 16 and I am still going to incorporate these teachings into my ongoing parenting. This would be an excellent book to give to expecting parents or parents of young children.
Although I have good relationships with my children, I am always open to finding new ways for us to communicate effectively as a family. Parentshift is an excellent book for parents who want to discover more about why their children sometimes act in challenging ways and how they can resolve issues without making them worse. I enjoyed the style of the book and found the author knowledgeable and thoughtful. A great help to any family.