Ugh this was so good! I will admit, I was slow to get into it, even put it down. Once I got into it though, I couldn't stop. The chemistry and tension was so good! Such a fun read. Definitely recommending this!

In Not the Girl You Marry, Hannah is tired of men. Her last boyfriend shredded her self esteem, so she has decided she doesn't want another one. She meets Jack in a bar and they hit it off right away, but she still doesn't want to date anyone. Jack, meanwhile, is a journalist for a men's magazine who wants to write "serious" stories, but is stuck doing how to videos and listicles. Hannah is an event planner who wants to move into planning weddings, but her boss thinks she's too cynical. If Hannah can get - and keep - a boyfriend by the company Halloween party, her boss says she'll promote her. At the same time Jack's boss tells him he can start working on more hard hitting stories if he does a "how to lose a girl" story. Hijinks ensue. If this plot sounds familiar that's because it's a gender swapped How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. I haven't seen that movie in a very long time but remember if being fun if somewhat nonsensical. This book is an updated version with more serious issues - including toxic masculinity and Hannah, who is biracial, dealing with racism and feeling like she is never enough. I really enjoyed this book. I loved Hannah (and her relationship with her best friend, Sasha). My only complaint is that Hannah forgives a LOT of Jack's bad behavior. I think that the plot (and her needing to date Jack for work), makes it work, but she talks about how perfect it is despite him acting like a jerk half the time. When he wasn't trying to lose her I did like Jack as a character. He was a lot more interesting and well rounded than men I tend to see in a lot of romance novels. Basically this was so fun that I was willing to forgive and forget a lot of the "there's no way she'd put up with that" stuff. Also, Hannah does speak up for herself and gets mad at Jack a lot, so I respected and liked when she did that. I have been having an ARC reading slump recently and this book pulled me out of that. Two other things I really liked - the author's note in the beginning, in which Andie Christopher talks about why she wrote the book, and the epilogue. I normally hate epilogues but this one was so good - I loved it. Recommended.

I loved the way Hannah was a non-traditional heroine. She knows herself and what she wants. Jack manages to break past all the walls she has erected and they had great chemistry. I didn't love that Hannah's boss claims she was joking about Hannah needing a boyfriend to get the promotion, but I look forward to more books by this author.

This was a great contemporary romance that focused more on the individuals and their personal growth than their relationship. A lot of time was spent on Hannah's and Jack's past failed relationships and what THEY thought had happened, and it was interesting in the end to find out that much of what they had assumed went wrong was all in their heads
The author explained that she had based this story on her dating experiences as a biracial woman. I haven't read many novels at all where the main character is biracial, so I really appreciate how much I was able to learn from Hannah and her experiences.
The heroine was also a self-proclaimed b****, who wasn't afraid to be condescending and speak her truth. I LOVED IT. It was great that she wasn't the demure, kind hearted Disney princess we so often see in this genre. I should also mention her friendship with her best friend was refreshing and adorable.
Jack was...perfect. His honesty and kind-heartedness made for a great relationship, and I'm really sad that he's fictional.
Overall, a great contemporary read with a much-needed diverse heroine and relationships I enjoy reading about.

This book is a modern, gender swapped adaption of the beloved early 2000s rom rom, How to lose a guy in 10 days. Jack is a journalist “how-to” guy who wants to be taken seriously. When he meets gorgeous and feisty Hannah, he falls for her immediately. Except he needs to figure out a way to successfully “lose her” (introducing her to his mom on the second date, being a stage 5 clinger etc) for his last story so his boss will let him cover more serious stories. What he also doesn’t know, is Hannah is also using him. She needs a boyfriend in order for her boss to allow her to take on wedding event coordination.

I also loved that Hannah is biracial and that it’s central to who she is. She’s a great heroine (and is even brave enough to wear moccasins to the bar lol). I’m loving the minority representation in romance lately. I’m also always a sucker for a fake dating trope.

In terms of critiques, I felt the plot dragged a bit. Given it’s a rehash of the film, I also kind of felt like I knew what would happen and how they’d get there. The internal dialogue of both characters was quite heavy.

Either way, the author’s writing style is snarky, fun, and witty. The modern critique of dating culture was subtle but rang so true. It made for a hilarious, relatable and enjoyable rom com read. I would definitely recommend it!

3.5 stars for me! Thank you so much Berkley and netgalley!

This book was so cute and I loved the update on the "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" premise. I wish that Christopher would have leaned even harder into the idea that Hannah was shrugging off all the gross stuff Jack was doing because she was used it as a dating woman. I loved that Hannah was biracial and that it was actually a pretty present thing in the story and how Hannah viewed herself, but I thought it was interesting that for the most part, Hannah always felt like she wasn't black enough in certain spaces, and gaining acceptance in the black community. I didn't feel as if Christopher dug into how Andie didn't feel like she was white enough in other instances, like at work or even with Jack's family to some degree. But I loved the huge romantic gesture at the end of the book, and it was a sweet Happily Ever After moment.

It wasn't my favorite. I wanted to like it, but I'm having trouble keeping these books straight. It is very similar to "The Propsal" and books like that.

I really wanted to like this one, but I didn't think much of either of the main characters. He's kind of a misogynist and she's kind of shrill. I just couldn't root for either of them. Plus the writing was not great.

Story seems familiar. Definitely has how to lose a guy in ten days vibe with some slight differences. However it lacks the humor. Also the main character is not someone you want to root for. Man seems unrealistic. Story is not relatable or a very enjoyable ready.

1 star
Another DNF for me. This was like, a been there and done that book for me. I was not into it. I gave up and called it a day.

I really enjoyed this one. As it turns out, a gender-bent How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days was apparently exactly what I was looking for. The characters are likeable and enjoyable and, even though they are making some less than honest moves with each other, their motives are clear and you kind of forgive them. Especially since they are both doing basically the same thing for some very similar reasons. The writing is engaging and the sexy times are just hot enough (and explicit enough) without being too graphic. I will probably pick up this author’s next book.

Have you seen How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days? This book a spin-off that movie. It was really similar but the Roles were reversed. Honestly this book was really difficult for me to get through. There is a lot of bad language which usually doesn’t bother me, but In this book it Does. I think that if you like the movie, it’s really difficult to love this book because the movie is so classy and sweet and the book is more provocative and it was harder for me to connect with their love story. It’s a modern take.
If you’ve never seen how to lose a guy in 10 days you will probably love it.

This book is AMAZING. I loved every minute of reading Hannah and Jack's story.

NOT THE GIRL YOU MARRY is a perfect contemporary romance. It will make you laugh and swoon and maybe even get a little weepy.

Hannah is a heroine for the ages, prickly, real, and worth fighting for. If only we could all have a Hannah in our corner.

I read the Author's Note at the beginning of this book and it really set me up for this story, which I loved!

I love when a romance has substance and this one did. Hannah is biracial and deals with the idea of fitting in and where she fits in. I got a much better understanding of the experiences of people in different ethnic groups.

Jack is a journalist and he wants to do something different, so he convinces his boss to let him write a piece on How to Lose a Girl. Hannah needs a guy to show her boss that she is not just a workaholic, but also has a life. I love the Fake Relationship trope and this book mastered it well.

Well developed characters, I learned about the experiences of different ethnic groups, the plot was flawless and the writing was wonderful. This was a great book!

Since Hannah left her last toxic relationship she has vowed to stay away from men forever. That was two years ago and Jack Nolan is at the bar with his friends when he sees a beautiful no nonsense type of girl walk in. Jack convinces Hannah to walk to a taco truck with him and the both leave feeling like they just met someone pretty importunate. Fast forward a few days and Jack is pitching his idea of a political scandal piece to his boss who tell him he should think about do a how to lose a girl article and do everything wrong to get a girl to break up wit him. Hannah is trying to break into weddings at her party planning job and her boss tells her to convince her the guy she started dating is the one because "shes not the type of girl someone would marry"

Hannah and Jack meet in a bar. She is fed up with men and he is not looking for romance. Jack is a journalist looking for an opportunity to write real news rather than "how to" articles. Hannah is an event planner who wants a promotion. He needs to write and article on "How to dump your date" in order to get a chance at an article on political corruption. Hannah needs a date to impress her boss and show her that Hannah is capable to help plan a wedding for the daughter of an important politician rather than the sports events she has been planning. A delightful read.

This was an enjoyable book to read, although stressful at times because I really wanted them to just tell each other, but that is common with plot tropes like these. And I am always excited to read more books written by authors of color featuring characters of color. Hannah is fiercely feminist and unafraid to be strong, I loved that about her. I also enjoyed Jack's journey to discovering that his 'I'm not like other guys' idealistic version of himself was not finding him a true partner and it was only by not trying did he find Hannah, although some of the things he did to 'lose' her was so cringy. There was a scene at the end with Hannah and her boss and I was glad it happened because if it hadn't, the book would not have been believable. I definitely wanted more time with the dog in the story, but that's just because I have dogs! I thought it was a fun spin on the movie and I loved all the discussions of dating/dating apps and the discussion around the two together.

I knew from the moment I first heard about this book that it would be a winner and I’m so glad that my instincts were right!

This book gave me everything I ever needed from a romantic comedy and the fact that it has a biracial heroine (finally a heroine I can truly relate to) was honestly icing on the cake. So many of the things that Hannah, our heroine, talked about were things that I had felt so much growing up and even now and having her talk about those things was honestly so validating.

I loved that this was a twist on “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days” and I love that this book had the “fake dating” trope, except they were both fake dating each other without telling the other and that was so hilarious and fun to read. My one complaint is that I wish that the fake dating plot didn’t last the entire book. I was really hoping that we’d get to see them as a couple (minus the faking it part) for more than a chapter. I wanted to see them get through the angst of lying to each other and then work towards just being together in a healthy relationship, something both of them haven’t successfully done before in previous relationships.

Irregardless, this was a definite win for me and I think that fans of contemporary romance will love this one for sure!

Four amazing funny, snappy, hilarious, heart warming stars!

When it comes to a retelling of one of the entertaining rom-coms, `How to lose a guy in 10 days",I dived in without wearing googles and pallets, thankfully I swam well and enjoyed my time as I started flipping the pages.

The beginning was a little slow but characterization was good. I did enjoyed their love story. Sometimes it was a little frustrated to see the couple making same mistakes over and over again. But at least they're motivations are easy to relate and you may find some parts of your lives and connect with the characters.

Both Hannah and Jack are heartbroken and carry heavy burdens from their past relationships but it was really to good to see how they found each other and their HE!

I love the books make you relax and give your long smile on your face, fresh your mind! This is a soft, lovely, entertaining reading.

Tnank you so much Berkley for sending me this great ARC copy and special thanks to Netgalley !

This is my purest and honest review! I'm a hopeless romantic and I adore romcoms, thankfully this is one of the good ones!

This is a cute twist on How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days with diverse character/perspective. Romance fans are going to love the tension and the games Hannah and Jack play on one another.