Dr. Brackett does an excellent job of presenting a case for the emotions that we deserve to feel. Humans experience emotions or feelings (technically different according to Brackett, but used synonymously for those of us who are laymen in the world of these sorts of things) naturally and stifling them is harmful. I read this book because I wanted to hear how dealing with emotions in children is important. I homeschool my own kiddos and wanted to improve my relationship with them and help them learn to deal with their own emotions effectively as they grow and mature. There is some help with that in the one chapter for parents, but the last portion of the book is geared more for school administration.
I rated the book 3 stars because while I liked some of the ideas presented, I felt that there was a disconnect between the ideas presented and HOW to actually implement them.
I received a free advance copy from the publisher via NetGalley. The opinions are all my own.

I enjoyed this practical, pragmatic guide to building emotional intelligence in children.

Many thanks to NetGalley, the publisher, and the author for my ARC. All opinions are my own.

Permission to Feel is a practical book with valuable information. It seems like the world could really use more of what this book has and less of what they've been doing. Life is hard. Learn some tools to deal with yourself and others.

This is a really practical, actionable guide to building stronger emotional intelligence in schools, workplaces, and families. As an educator, I walked away with several tools I want to use in my own life and with my students.

This book was perfect from beginning to end. It is timely and important to anyone who deals with children - or adults! I found the book to be full of supported facts, as well as helpful suggestions on how to move forward . There is a huge increase in depression and anxiety in young people today, and this book can go a long way towards helping to relieve these emotions, if people were to use the recommendations within.

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One of the best books I've read this year.

Thank you for this book!

“But the trigger is inside us, not out there. We have to take responsibility for our actions rather than shift the blame elsewhere. It may not have felt like a choice, but it surely was—we decide how we’ll respond to life’s provocations.”

I find it interesting that so many people are unhappy with the title of this book. The way I interpreted it was that if we really own the feelings we have, name them, and let ourselves feel them, we can then decide how to respond to them. To be able to get to the place of responding it's really important to actually feel your feelings. Lack of awareness, lack of naming, are, in my opinion, all ways in which we don't always give ourselves permission or space to feel the feelings. Maybe I misinterpreted what the title was trying to say but alas this interpretation made the title totally make sense for me.

I've seen Marc Brackett live before when he visited the elementary school my kids attended at the time, I've sent my kids to SEL-heavy schools all the way from elementary to high school. I believe strongly in Marc's assertion that a high EQ is going to be crucial to one's success in life. So I was already a primed audience for this book.

And it didn't disappoint. I think the parts where the book shines are where the author shares his own journey and experiences. I wish there were more of that. I like the RULER framework: recognizing, understanding, labeling, expressing and regulating. I've found journaling can really help me with the first three and I am constantly working on the latter two.

It was painful to read the chapter on emotions at home and understanding how much of my learning comes from my own history and how much I am impacting my children's story. I am grateful that there are opportunities to course-correct but I also am reminded how much more I have to work on this in my home (and in my work!)

Even if the title makes you uncomfortable, or maybe especially then, I would recommend this read. IMHO, emotions are there whether we acknowledge them or not and they have the capacity to wreak havoc when we don't.

thank you to the publisher and netgalley for an advanced copy in return for an honest review.

Bracket provides a compelling argument on educating our children and adults on being emotionally intelligent. I think there could be more practical advice and examples in the book, although I have enjoyed using the mood meter app in conjunction with what I learned in the book.

Regulating one’s emotions is crucial to a happy and productive life. The author realizes and explains how important this is to start as early as possible in one’s life. Skills are taught in this book to accomplish this necessary developmental task.

Marc Brackett does a stunning job explaining many things in Permission to feel. This is almost a memoir of the RULER emotional intelligence program out of Yale. What it also contains is an explanation of the steps that they recommend for emotional intelligence. It is an enjoyable read, filled with facts and stories. Marc Brackett lets you in on his world, the RULER experience, and the world of the future where children everywhere learn about emotional intelligence. I recommend this book for educators, parents, administrators and anyone else who wants an emotionally intelligent future.

As a teacher at a school who has been trained and uses the RULER method, I was familiar with it before reading the book. My biggest takeaway from this book on healthy emotional intelligence and regulation is that it is applicable in all areas of life and more people need to read this book.

I agree with the basic premise of this book, that Americans as a rule are not good at recognizing and dealing with emotions in a healthy manner. I admire that the author took a terrible experience growing up and turned it into his life's mission, to teach others how to deal with their feelings to reduce all kinds of negative outcomes, particularly the one he suffered: bullying. He is living proof that one caring adult can make all the difference in a kid's life; he credits his uncle, a middle-school teacher, with teaching him to feel his feelings. And he did the work: he went to grad school and turned his and his uncle's work into a program that can be taught to anyone over the age of five, particularly in school settings.

It's clear from the references as well as from statements in the text that this work is backed but research, but the author writes in a non-academic way that is thoroughly approachable. I can't tell if this program is possible to work on one's own, outside a program in an organization, but it's worth reading about and trying. There's even an app for that! My one concern is that the writing is a bit breezy and makes changing the culture around emotions sound easy when in reality it is anything but, particularly when one person is trying to change and others around them are not.

Great read! Really opened my eyes to a lot of the reasons some of my students behave the way they do, and how to be more empathetic to those behaviors. I like the authors entwining of personal accounts in it as well.

"And when we can't recognize, understand, or put into words what we feel, it's impossible for us to do anything about it: to master our feelings — not to deny them but to accept them all, even embrace them — and learn to make our emotions work for us, not against us."

PERMISSION TO FEEL is an engaging and informative book about emotional intelligence. Dr. Brackett gives us concrete tools for recognizing and understanding our emotions. He cites studies and research to teach us about the role of emotions in our lives and how our emotions affect others.

There is so really great information in this book that I find very relevant to today's society. I am a mother to a teenage son and I am grateful he is growing up in a time where it is acceptable for men to show emotion and be vulnerable. It's a confusing time as we try to navigate this new territory and this book is a great resource to have. I found that the book was a bit repetitive esp with regards to his personal story. I think the author was trying to make it part memoir but the flow was a bit choppy from his memoir to his research. I still find it a useful book and hope it is read by many. Thank you #netgalley for the ARC of #permissiontofeel.

Rise Up and Let Emotions Reign

A Yale University Child Study professor pens a book about how expressing our emotions is the lynchpin for healthy minds and successful relationships. His work is primarily relegated to the educational field but also crosses over into the corporate business realm. His RULER system is a demonstrated way to understand and apply appropriate emotion for maximum impact and the health of children, parents, and teachers. His strategies are designed to mitigate shame overall seemingly unacceptable emotions and learn to express feelings in a way that builds emotional skills. His system has been tested and purported to work well. His theories are backed by science and data.

My issue is that Brackett uses his own worn childhood narrative to disclose how he was bullied as a child and how his parents did not handle things as well as they could have. It is apparent that the author is still processing old wounds and has some work of his own to do. He often came across as petty when giving personal examples of having to digest the insensitive statements that people in his life made, including his own students. Brackett comes across as sensitive to the point of weakness. In this context, he needs to rise above. There is a place and time for everything.

Though he does focus on a critical need within the crumbling institutions of our country such as our dysfunctional public school systems, he comes off as somewhat needy and whiny. It isn’t a good look and I’m not sure that it will get him to his goal of free emotional expression for all any faster. Another issue with the book is that it’s not very engaging and I found myself bored while reading the material. Since I read the electronic version, I was incredibly relieved to find at 80% of the way through, I had come to the reference section.

I persevered through the book despite not liking it. I would however recommend this book to educators, administrators, and corporate leaders. His method is definitely not mainstream at this point and I look forward to the day when it is.

BRB Rating: Read It.

I wish this book had come out years ago. This is a valuable asset to anyone on their journey to healing. As someone who grew up in a home where my feelings were invalid having a book like this is like finally being heard.

In Permission to Feel, Marc Brackett, Ph.D., provides readers with a set of tools to help build emotional intelligence that can be used personally, as a parent, as an educator, or as someone in a leadership position. The book is broken down into easy to understand sections based on tool and is well-researched, thoughtful, and even though it is presented by an expert in the field, easy to understand. I think the author successfully uses personal examples and anecdotes to relate experiences and express his ideas clearly and effectively to his intended audience.

I have enjoyed this work and recommended it to colleagues and fellow parents alike.

Thank you NetGalley and publisher for the ARC in exchange for my honest review.

I'm not totally clear what an “emotion scientist” does, but have long been interested in the concept of “emotional intelligence” and Brene Brown’s shame-focused research. Dr. Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is a professor in in the Child Study Center at Yale , and the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence.Thanks to Celadon Books and NetGalley, I received a copy of Dr. Brackett’s book Permission To Feel in exchange for my honest review.

As a Child, Dr. Brackett was taught by his uncle that it was all right to FEEL. As a victim of bullying and abuse, Marc was fortunate to learn he wasn’t the only one, and his feelings of fear, anger, and isolation were understandable. His life’s work became looking at how to handle it and to improve the lives of both children and adults, teaching them to understand their emotions and use them help, rather than hinder, their self-worth.

Dr. Brackett’s method for handling feelings is a system called RULER. This book follows his development of RULER and how it has been proven successful. The book combines science and inspiration, and provides a manual for handling our feelings. Four stars.

An important read a guide to how to help children achieve mental health become strong emotionally healthy.A guide that parent teachers anyone who is involved with nurturing guiding children.Would be an excellent for academic studies and discussion, #netgalley#celadonbooks

This a wonderful book at shows us why it is ok to feel or emotions additionally the rule method he discusses is very helpful.