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This book is very impressive! As I was reading I was saying to myself that I could use so many of this tips .Family life needs rules and organization to function properly, this book basically describes how it is for millons of families and how the different roles in the family make things work.
Mums assume normally the roles of manager moms , losing their identity in the process because what it's at stake is much more important to them: their kids and their families.
Great family book.
I enjoyed this book about the role moms play in households - and how to change it in a healthy way. A lot of books about women rising (eg. Lean In and others) talk about household responsibilities and "emotional burden" for women needing to shift, but give very little practical advice on how to actually do it. Thomas Phelan gives very practical advice on the way forward - that honours women and their families. Great, simple and practical read!
Some interesting ideas, but (although I don't know anything about ODD), I highly doubt that having a kid do homework could cause it. Maybe it could make ODD worse if they already have it? The author just lost me here....
Also, if the rest of the family is busy, too (or just more willing to let things slide than the mother is), then there is no way the mom can delegate to them. Especially for tasks that are "generic" because they apply to the whole family, rather than a kid's own laundry.
Some good suggestions here but overall not a groundbreaking read.
Many thanks to NetGalley, the publisher, and the author for my ARC. All opinions are my own.
The author's painstaking research and attention to detail is obvious in the writing of this book. The author laid out the information in a manner that allowed the reader to form their own opinion.
The book did have some good suggestions, but I felt that the male author was in places talking down to the reader mother and blaming her for situations. There was a big focus on kids' independence, which will work for older kids like described in the book but not as much for early grade school or younger. The book has examples of families where mom passed along duties to dad and/or kids, and some of them go on and on in details. Lots of focus on kids doing their own laundry. I just didn't take away from this as much or what I was expecting.
I received an ARC in exchange for an honest review.
Mixed emotions on this one. I like the fact that the author, who happens to be a man, emphasizes on the daily struggles us moms have. I am a mom of 3, I work and my husband works more hours in a week than he should be allowed to. So yea, that leaves me to do all the necessary housework and fight with my 3 kids about helping out. I could see myself implementing some of his tips. However, when he touched base on ODD, I don't agree with him on this. I don't know if this book is for everyone, but it could be for someone out there.
I was given an ARC from Netgalley in return for my honest review.
When I read the description of this book, I was very intrigued and could not wait to read it. As a mom who is a manager in her job, I wanted to see what kind of information I could use to help me with work-stress and home-stress.
Unfortunately, I did not find any of that information in this book. It is obvious that the author, a man, does not have a true understand of what it is like to be a "manager mom". The suggestions in this book are simply outrageous, such as, making your children do homework causes ODD. As a parent to a child with ODD, I would have enjoyed some research to back up his claim because I find that particular bit of information ridiculous.
Thank you to Netgalley for the chance to read this title as an Advance Reader Copy.
I loved the concept of this book but unfortunately, it didn't live up to my hopes. While I appreciated his understanding of this issue in his own family, I wished there was more research done in general on this important and timely topic.
This book definitely gave some important talking points but I struggled to really connect and relate. I can very much appreciate a male perspective but in this case, I think ultimately it was a big reason why it didn't totally work for me as a reader and mother. Thank you to NetGalley and Sourcebooks for an advanced copy.
As a working mother of Two, married with two paid jobs I often feel like I am only nagging on my family, never satisfied with our life an always questioning what is going wrong.
I already read a lot books on that subject, but this on is special.
In very short chapters the authors shows you how it usually goes and then if you work on yourself and on letting go of the old ways, maybe get the chance to leave the vicious circle, that is so tiresome for everybody.
I really enjoyed reading this book, because it always helps to have someone to hand you a mirror so you can see what's is going wrong in your relationship, and you got the chance to change it.
A much needed book for every mom out there! As a mom of 3 I constantly feel the pressure of all the tasks raising kids and running a household entails. This book spoke so much truth and gave realistic and simple tips to implement in my home to help relieve some of the pressure moms face today!
This book is very impressive! As I was reading I was saying to myself that I could use so many of this tips .Family life needs rules and organization to function properly, this book basically describes how it is for millons of families and how the different roles in the family make things work.
Mums assume normally the roles of manager mums , losing their identity in the process because what it's at stake is much more important to them: their kids and their families.
Great family book, thank you to Netgalley for this advance copy.
I received in advance reader copy in exchange for an honest review
I was all cool cool until I got to the part about making your children do their homework causing ODD
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Seriously though I really related to the mothers in this book. I’m clearly one of them, which is why am reading it. But the book contains an existential paradox: in order for the change to happen, everyone besides the mom needs to be willing to change. And to be real, if moms knew how to make everyone else in their family change, they wouldn’t need this book. The author of this book is not a mother, he’s a dad. He likely has no idea how much work it takes to get a husband and children do things that they don’t want to do. What often gets lost in these discussions is this essential truth – we don’t want to do this shit. We’re not being martyrs because we feel like it. We would so much rather if y’all did that shit. But you don’t. So were pissed. But we have to do it because it has to get done. And y’all know that if you don’t do it eventually we will do it, because it has to get done. And we know that there will be consequences if it doesn’t get done. And the consequences will affect us just as deeply as it will effect y’all. So we do it because we don’t want to get taken under because y’all are trash and lazy. That’s that; that’s my manifesto. Husband and Children are Lazy Trash: Coming Summer 2020. Look for it