I wanted to love this book as much as I loved Fix Her Up, but there was something just different in this book. It was not bad in the slightest bit, but something just felt off in this one. 

I wholeheartedly believe that the ending had a pretty big influence on my review. I loved this whole book. I loved Dom and Rosie. I loved Dom's secrets, I loved Rosie's angst, I loved it all. However, I felt like the end seemed a little rushed and that's why I gave this a four-star rating instead of five. I waited the whole novel and rooted for these two and the ending just seemed like...BAM. 

Tessa Bailey knows how to write angst. It really makes me feel for the characters and I can appreciate the writing when that happens. The pain between Dom and Rosie was truly, truly felt throughout the entire book. I could see the story-line as realistic with what they were going through. 

The connection and steam between Rosie and Dom was felt for sure. You could see that they loved each other, but this story was very different from what I've read before. The story of "we don't love each other, but our bodies need each other" was very interesting and I think Tessa Bailey wrote it beautifully. 

Overall, I can't wait for more Tessa Bailey books. She's a fantastic writer that knows how to include all aspects of a perfect romance (love, angst, trust, etc.). She's definitely becoming one of my favorite authors.

I have no idea why there aren’t more romances featuring married couples, but Love Her or Lose Her proves that you don’t have to be single to have a passionate love life.

Rosie and Dominic were once madly in love but they have succumbed to complacency and insecurities and now find themselves at a turning point in their marriage. I’ve been married a very long time so I’m well acquainted with some of the challenges Rosie and Dominic face. The book definitely has an air of authenticity.

Rosie is the one who wants out of the marriage, but happily the story avoids making Dominic a one-dimensional insensitive jerk. Quite the opposite, in fact. He loves Rosie desperately, but he is clueless about her needs. He is willing to do whatever it takes to save their relationship, though. I really enjoyed how love languages – the different ways we show love – are explored.

I have no objection to the book as a whole, but the story really drags. Halfway through it’s fairly clear what Dominic and Rosie’s issues are, as well which behaviors need to change. That leaves a great deal of repetitive thoughts and discussions. I had to fight the urge to skim the second half. I liked Rosie and Dominic but despite their sizzling chemistry, I didn’t find either character to be particularly interesting. This was a nice, but not great, read for me.

Fans of Tessa Bailey- Fans of Second Chance Romance- Fan of Fix Her Up-Fans just coming off the heels of The Bromance Bookclub- fans of home improvement- there is just SO much to love about this one.

I wanted to love this book. I wanted to lose myself in a fun, steamy romance novel. While Love Her or Lose Her was a steamy (like, STEAMY) read, it fell a bit short on the romance for me.

Dominic was controlling, borderline abusive, and Rosie seemed to be completely oblivious to just how manipulative her husband is. I mean, it may just be me, but a man who demands to fuck his wife as a solution to their marriage problems might need to work on some of his own problems before he can fix his marriage.

I know romance is supposed to have a happily ever after endings, but I did not want Rosie and Dominic to end up back together. . I found their relationship to be toxic and unhealthy.

I adored Rosie and Dominic's book! I am usually wary of romance novels about marriages in distress. However, I love Tessa Bailey so I gave this one a shot and am so glad I did. Their story was so heartwarming and I loved watching the two main characters get to know each other again. If you are looking for a quick, sweet, and steamy read definitely pick this one up!

2.5 and mad about it.

Way too many sex scenes, not a fan of the overly-macho possessive husband, and the actual story was repetitive as HELLLLL. I was really excited about it one and it just fell so flat for me! I think I'll still pick up Fix Her Up though since I didn't read it before this one and I've heard nothing but amazing reviews.

I was super excited for Dominic and Rosie's book after reading them in Fix Her Up. I really loved the fact that they were already married, but for me the story as a whole fell short. I liked it, but didn't LOVE it like how I did with Fix Her Up. It was missing that spark for me that kept me from being glued to the pages. To me this didn't even feel like a "Rom-Com" for the category it is shelved in. Needless to say I'm glad for the HEA.

I received this book at my request and have voluntarily left this unbiased review. This does not affect my opinion of the book or the content of my review.

I was first introduced to this author with her Romancing the Clarksons series. I really enjoyed those books. I have not read the first book in this new series but I plan to go back and read the first one after finishing this book.

Instantly, I loved Rosie and Dominic. I felt the sexual chemistry between them. It was "raw" and "strong". It was nice to see that Dominic was willing to give couples therapy a chance. In fact, they both were committed to the task. It showed that there was still lots of love between them.

This book had me laughing, smiling, hot and bothered. It was a pure joy to read this book. I can't wait to read the next one in the series.

After five years of her husband Dominic barely giving her a second glance (expect for their weekly scheduled hook up), Rosie decides to call it quits on her marriage. Only Dominic isn’t letting her off the hook that easy. Determined to win her back he agrees to go to therapy—where they have four sessions to prove that they can make it work. As they learn how to communicate again, insight into each other’s love languages and being honest about their feelings, Rosie begins to realized maybe it's not as over between her and Dom as she initially thought.

What I enjoyed: Rosie! While reading it I felt like an unofficial member of the Just Us Club (this is first introduced in the previous book Fix Her Up: basically women from the town get together to help support each other). I was rooting for Rosie from page one. She’s kind and caring and after so many years of working behind a perfume counter, she's finally following her dreams of opening a restaurant. She was just really inspiring and I admired her strength.

What I didn’t connect with: Basically, Dom. It was hard for me to ever truly get on board with him. If my husband barely acknowledged me for five years, I think I would need more from him than what ultimately shown. I was constantly thinking that Rosie deserved better. I also wish that we got more into his time in the military. It's hinted that his time serving overseas had a lot to do with why he was closed off and I really wish that was addressed more.

3/5 stars

ok. i have to be completely honest here - i loved fix her up, just like lots of other people. i love tessa bailey's books. i've read several of them and i've loved them all. i added this one to my tbr back in april. i requested the arc as soon as it popped up, i don't remember when that was, but i got the arc in october... coincidentally, the day that i was moving out of my house and into an apartment because my marriage had gone up in a ball of flames.

so. i added this book to my list knowing it was about a marriage in trouble, which has never been a problem for me, before i got married or even when i was happily married. but, uh, separated and now divorced? yeah... probably should not have read it. however, like i said, i love tessa bailey and there are other books i've read recently that hit a little close to home and i ended up loving them anyway. unfortunately, this just wasn't one of them.

i don't know if it was me and my situation, or if it was the book. i think it was a mix of both. i never felt the connection between rosie and dominic, i didn't love the trope - those two things together meant any development or steam just went right over my head and i felt no feelings. which sucks, because that's not the norm for me and tessa bailey. dominic was just a bit too much for me, too overbearing and overprotective for my liking. and again, this is me and my situation, but i thought their problems were just so... seriously? i mean, don't get me wrong, they are problems, but it just felt so silly and contrived to me - but that may be because my own marriage had actual problems and it couldn't be saved by a few changes and a silly therapist. i was super not okay with the guys crashing the girls night in the city, that's not sexy to me, that's controlling. don't get me wrong, i like the alpha guy, a little over protective and possessive, but that's a bit much for me. towards the end, i was skimming/skipping the sex scenes because i felt no connection between dominic and rosie. i did think the ending was cute, how it all worked out. also, super here for the next book, sounds like my kind of jam.

anyway - bottom line. i love tessa bailey. i should not have read a marriage in trouble book after my own marriage fell apart, and so recently too. but on top of that, i just didn't love dominic, which meant i didn't feel anything for dominic and rosie, which meant i didn't care about their development as a couple. which sucks. so i don't quite know if it was me or the book or a mix of the two. i still love tessa bailey and i will still read more from her, i'll just be skipping marriage in trouble books for the next year or twenty....

I love how real and emotional this story was. It depicted a part of love that rarely gets told in romance books. Most of which focus on the initial “falling in love” or “second chance love”. There are very few that focus on what happens after the two characters ride into the sunset. What happens after being together for many years and going through the motions of marriage? I felt like this had the promise of being a really fantastic book for me, but there was a lot that did not sit well with me.

These characters were complex and diverse. I enjoyed learning and growing with Rosie and Dominic. I feel like at some point in our lives we lose ourself, either with family, friends, or work. I liked how this was a journey of two people getting in touch, first with themselves, for self-betterment for their spouse. Rosie, I felt, was slowly losing herself in her mundane life. She dreamt of more but felt like she wasn’t good enough to pursue it. Dominic was closed off emotionally and as the years went on, though he loved Rosie fiercely, he couldn’t express anything.

At a point, I was so completely engrossed in the story as to what was happening between Rosie and Dominic when it took a huge dive into the sexual parts and my mind didn’t have a chance to catch up. This happened repeatedly. The graphic sexual scenes I felt were out of out of place for this story and in a way cheapened the relationship between Rosie and Dominic. I felt that at this point in their relationship it should have been focused on the emotions rather than the chemistry or sexual connection because obviously that wasn’t their problem.

On the other hand, there were a lot of parts I enjoyed. I thought the side characters were great and brought humor to the dark story. I really felt a connection to this and I was completely invested in how their story would turn out. The whole point of the book was for both characters to be able to communicate, but at every turn they failed. Dominic kept secrets instead of making decisions together and Rosie let her libido guide her. I wanted to love this book but I don’t think a book like this was made for a reader like me.

Thank you so much to NetGalley and HarperCollins Publishers for this eARC.

This book is about a married couple who lost site of themselves over the years. They no longer showed the love they used to do all the time. When Rosie walked out on her husband Dominic it was a wake up call to fix what was missing so they two decided to seek therapy in order to save their marriage.

Tessa Bailey did a great job in building strong characters and a love that was real and unreal. The amount of love the couple had for each other was heart warming. Tessa Bailey did a great job in building strong characters and a love that was real and unreal. The amount of love the couple had for each other was heart warming.

I couldn't ask for more out of a book. It was right up my ally; psychology mixed with love and passion.
This book would teach you that everyone love differently and everyone show their love differently but if you learn and accept your partners love language you can make the relationship work.
Tessa Bailey did a great job in building strong characters and a love that was real and unreal. The amount of love the couple had for each other was heart warming. The passion and sexual tension between the two was breathtaking.
The easy writing flow made it easy for the enjoyment in reading the book.
In my opinion this book deserved nothing less than 5 stars.

Warning if you do not like pet names or dirty talking this is not for you.

I received this book in exchange for a honest review.

I adored this book! To be fair, I love most of what Tessa Bailey writes, but I think this book, like "Fix Her Up," was particularly strong. I felt invested in the two main characters, Dominic and Rosie, from the very beginning and was rooting for them to succeed. The pain and communication issues they were both experiencing was well explored, adding to the book's slow-burn-like pacing. By the conclusion, I felt as though I knew the couple well and felt so proud of their growth throughout the novel. I appreciated how the author explored real life relationship struggles, particularly the concept of love-languages and how necessary it is for partners to communicate clearly with one another.

I cannot recommend this book highly enough; if you like contemporary romance novels and happy endings, I guarantee you will love this book!
Thank you to NetGalley and Harper Collins for providing me with this ARC.

Received an ARC from NetGalley for an honest review.

Yay! After Fix Her Up, I couldn't wait to get my hands on Dom and Rosie's story and Bailey wrote us a doozie. My heart kept breaking for them because of how far they'd let their relationship get, but then I'd get frustrated that they were both being stupid and blind, not realizing how much they still loved each other. And the chemistry between them was exactly what I'd hoped it would be - scorching and fun while also having so much love.

While I was annoyed that they couldn't just see things from each other's point of view, I got it. And after having been together for most of their lives, they fell into a pattern. The ending was so sweet and perfect that I couldn't have dreamed up a better one for them if I tried.

And now...we wait for Bethany...........

I received an ARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review - Thank you!

4 stars

This was a great read. It's a troupe I usually shy away from as it isn't one of my favorites but after reading Fix Her Up, the couple had me intrigued. I was surprised at how their situation connected with me, especially Dominic and Rosie's parents as I've seen it mirrored throughout the lives of family and friends around me as both a Latinx and military family.

The book had me laughing, smiling, and contemplating throughout as Rosie and Dominic worked on their relationship to see if they would make it. As usual, Tessa Bailey's writing was great, making it flow with ease and making it a quick read as she showed the past and present view of the couple. The tension, teasing and steamy parts were all very present which I enjoyed more in this book than the first.

I do believe this book is quite different from Fix Her Up. The feel is different and deals with more than what Travis and Georgie go through in my opinion but still pacing it with a similar vibe. In a sense Rosie is finding herself just as Georgie did in the first book, the difference would be that one is doing so after losing herself.

I do think the book could have ended a couple of chapters before it did as the critical part was prolonged a bit but overall it was a good and solid read. There were some topics that were fully expanded on which would have been nice to see.

It was also great seeing the characters from the last book sprinkled in and seeing the author set into motion her next book. For those keeping score - You'll only have to read "Baby Girl" a handful of times in this book.

The main focus of this story worked for me because it revolves around a married couple finding their way back to each other. This is an underused trope with much potential. Tessa did a great job incorporating the Love Languages that I really enjoyed and provided Dominic with some swoon-worthy moments that warmed my heart. There is some expected wonderful banter, especially among the guys, that I feel Tessa excells at and keeps me coming back to read her books over and over again. (4.5 stars)

4.5 stars!

The second book in the Hot and Hammered series is second chance romance at its best. Love Her or Lose Her is sweet, sexy and hit me right in the feels. I loved it!

Can I say? The connection between Dominic and Rosie is crazy explosive. *Blows out breath* My goodness the sexual tension between these radiated off the pages. Yes, they had many marital problems. However, they definitely did not lack in chemistry. Also, Dominic's dirty mouth...yes, please.

I think I felt this book harder than I thought it would because I felt a kindred connection to Dominic. I grew up in a similar way. I definitely show my love through deeds. And, if your loved one needed something, you just did it. His struggle to verbally express his wants and his reasons felt a little too close to home. So, I could understand how he was feeling. That being said, I love, love love that Rosie took her life back and went after her dreams. I couldn't root for her any harder than I was. The girl power within the Just Us League is still my favorite thing about this series.

I very much enjoyed this book!! If you looking for rom com that will hit you right in the heart, Love Her or Lose Her is right up your alley. I can't wait to read Bethany's story next.

Oh my goodness what a book! I loved Fix Her Up and have been anticipating this one for so long and it did not disappoint!! I LOVED LOVED LOVED this one! It's not often that a sequel is better than the first book, but this one was everything. It was steamy, funny, romantic, and amazing all wrapped up into one. I'm having a hard time putting how much I loved this book into words!

This book is a weird one to review. I like the heroine, but I don't really like the hero. I think it's partly because I want him to be more communicative, which is actually what the heroine wants as well. I do like that they go to therapy, and they try to do the therapy thing together, but I kind of wish we got to see more of their relationship after they fix some of the problems. The denouement was too quick. It made things a little rushed. This is the first one in this series that I read, and it's doable without reading the other book, but sometimes I was just a little bit confused about the friends and friendships of the heroine.

I can always count on Tessa Bailey to deliver heart, humor, and heat in her books and LOVE HER OR LOSE HER was no exception. Romance novels with a married hero and heroine have become more prevalent in recent years. I’m here for authors stretching their creative muscles and writing about love in all its many forms.

Rosie and Dominic are middle school sweethearts who have slowly reached relationship stagnation after ten years of marriage. They both decide to give their relationship one last shot through marriage counseling. While their counselor was wacky and made me laugh more than once, the problems and roadblocks in their relationship felt real and personal. I think it helps that I buy into the love language concept, and I really enjoyed Ms. Bailey tying it in.

Another huge positive of the book is its pacing. While slightly predictable, I enjoyed the ups and downs Rosie and Dominic experienced while trying to communicate after years of just existing together. I was rooting for them the whole book. The little slice of life moments and their robust friend group also added to the entire reading experience.

As I mentioned, you can’t read a Tessa Bailey novel without discussing the superb sexy times. The sexual tension between Rosie and Dominic nearly singed my eyebrows off. But under all the chemistry was true love between two people who have taken that love for granted.

Overall, I had high hopes for this novel. I read it in a single day and enjoyed every minute of my reading time. I can’t wait for the next installment in this series! Bring on the enemies to lovers.

**I received an ARC of this book in order to provide an honest review**