I’m Buying the Fucking Book
I’m buying my loser sister who never takes advice from anyone this amazingly gentle but direct self-help guide because I think she might just get something helpful out of it (the section on the importance of, steps on how, and pure inspiration regarding Thank You notes is worth the price of admission alone). And it’s funny. I can’t think of a more ringing endorsement.

Wendy Ward
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This was an interesting read with useful tips for pulling yourself out of a fog of procrastination, depression, and general self-destructive behaviour. I enjoy memoirs and I can relate to Tara Schuster's confused transition into adulthood after growing up in a dysfunctional family. Me too! I'm older than Tara, but I appreciate her advice and her having shared with the reader where her journey of self-discovery and self-parenting has led her.

I think everyone could use a friend to remind us things like - not everything is your fault! And, if you constantly put crappy food into your body, you're probably going to feel like crap all the time. Makes sense.

Do I think there's any earth-shattering advice in here that will blow people's minds? Not particularly. It's all pretty practical advice and it helps that she combines it with her own experiences. Did I need to start my year by being reminded off all the things I should be doing for myself instead of staying in the same rut I've been in the last few years? Yes, I absolutely did. Thank you T$.

Fist off, I am not the target audience for this title. I'm twice the author's age, therefore at a ver different stage in life. That said, she raises good points and offers some great suggestions. Overall, I found her a bit flip about her process. While she mentions (repeatedly) having a therapist, she attributes much of her success in becoming a happier person to advice given randomly by friends and acquaintances - advice like, journal every day, and exercise, and Develop an air of gratitude. Again, I'm not the target audience, but there are more thorough, less snarky books in the genre that might serve most readers better.

Being a *bit* (ahem) older than the author and, I suspect, her target audience, I was a little skeptical that I'd enjoy this book. However, much of the hard-earned advice she shares is not only relevant for all ages, but valuable stuff that took me years and years to learn (still practicing). Get your sh*t together, be kind to yourself, take care of yourself, appreciate the little things, give yourself a break and keep going. This is an easy read, and quick, with one star subtracted because so much of the advice was repeated a bit too much for my liking.

I received this e-galley from Random House via NetGalley in exchange for an unbiased review.

By the time she was in her late twenties, Tara Schuster was a sought-after TV executive who had worked with Jon Stewart and launched Key & Peele to viral superstardom. By all appearances, she had mastered being a grown-up. But beneath that veneer of success, she was a chronically anxious, self-medicating mess. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. She realized she'd hit rock bottom when she drunk-dialed her therapist pleading for help. Buy Yourself The F*cking Lillies is the story of Tara's path to re-parenting herself and becoming a "ninja of self-love." This is the book Tara wished someone had given her and it is the book many of us desperately need: a candid, funny, practical guide to growing up and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-it's-so-cheesy way. (Goodreads synopsis)

I really loved this book. I loved the way Tara gave self-help advice, without being too preachy or overbearing. I will admit some of the steps I don’t think I am fully ready to embrace yet, but I will be eventually and this is one book I will continually go back to. Overall I thought this was an excellent look at mental health by someone that has actually gone through the same things and found ways to heal and cope.

The author, Tara Schuster, after years of therapy, spent a good amount of time working on trying to reparent herself, trying different methods. In this book, she shares different methods she suggests, along with her sense of humor throughout. I found it to be a kind of self help book with lots of ideas of things to try for changing the negative voice in your head, and just getting more positive about your life.

If that’s something you are looking for, it’s a decent read, better than many dry tomes of this type. The ideas are creative, possibly even helpful. Advance electronic review copy was provided by NetGalley, author Tara Schuster, and the publisher.

This laugh-out-loud book is part self-help, part memoir, and full of humor and "I thought it was just me!" topics of conversation. Tara Schuster discusses her personal experiences plus gives tips and advice on just about everything, including exercising, dating, friendships, career, self-care, and adulating in general. She is relatable and interesting. This book is written mostly for millennial women, but I think people of all ages could find something to take away from it. Treat yourself right, buy yourself the f*cking lilies.

This was a sort of self-help/memoir mash-up. I wish it had just been a memoir because I didn't think it was actually that helpful. I didn't think she was qualified to help other people and would have preferred just to read her (well-written!) story.

Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is a self-help and half memoir. The book is well written and has some great advice.

**Disclaimer: I received an ARC of Buy Yourself the Fuck*ng Lillies by Tara Schuster from NetGalley in exchange for my honest review. All opinions are my own.**


This Book is considered a self help book which I know isn't for everyone. However, this book should be a requirement for all because it could actually help most people. I'm not one to read self help books. Like, ever! But I was initially intrigued by this book because of the title. It's loud, it's in your face, but it's also honest and it definitely grabbed my attention!

The author of this book, Tara Schuester, has a raw and brutally honest way of connecting with the reader. Part self-help and part memoir, the book took me through the authors journey. Schuster writes casually yet she was able to easily connect with me as well because its raw, conversational, honest and brutal all at the same time. There's something for everyone in Buy Yourself the Fuck*ng Lillies and I highly recommend it.

This is a self help book that will guide you go moving on from things like addictions or a difficult childhood. It was okay and a fairly quick read. I would reccomend.

I would like to thank Netgalley and the publisher for providing me with a copy free of charge. This is my honest and unbiased opinion of it.

I received a copy of this book from Netgalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

So, the elephant in the room. I am disabled. This book was not written for me as evidenced by the suggestion of giving up weed for running.

It's very well-written in an easily accessible conversational tone but the some of theadvice to me personally was thing I could not even begin to relate to.

I didn't really care for it but I think that was because Im not the intended audience.

I'm really glad things worked out for Tara, though.

I loved this book--- thoughtful, funny, and helpful tips to overcome depression and anxiety! Would recommend to my close friends and clients.

This is one of the rare times that I will add a book to my favorites list. Tara Schuster has the right words to cut right to the heart of the matter yet in such a comical way that you learn something new about how to make your life better without the process of doing so truly sucking. She is open and honest about her own life in a way that is both refreshing and sincere. I have a lot of take aways from this book that will help me in my journey to help myself. From journaling to really working to assess your own faults, this book has it all. I highly recommend this book!

A pretty good book that covers addiction, rough childhoods, and how to move on. Was an interesting read.

I wish this book would have existed for me in my twenties. There is a ton of great advice, doled out with a cool, older aunt vibe. Each chapter contains a theme and examples of how to improve your life. A few habits she suggests are journaling daily, exercising not for weight control but for mental health, and to not be chintzy with yourself- if $6 lilies are going to make your day better, then just do it! The author's story is compelling; her upbringing forced her to essentially parent herself and through trial and error (and a really good head on her shoulders), she was able to overcome serious trauma. Learning her story makes her a reliable giver-of-advice. She's been through it and figured out a few tricks along the way to make life better. As I said, this would have served me better in my twenties (lots of good friend/boyfriend tips), but even as a married middle-aged mom I learned quite a few things that will definitely enhance my life.

Remarkably good advise/self help book. Geared towards women in their 20s/30s but applicable to all. Her tone was light and friendly.

Part memoir, part how to guide, this is a lovely book about the journey to heal yourself and pursue a genuinely happy life. The writing is relaxed and conversational. It's funny, touching, and wonderfully honest.

Tara's raw honesty in her own stories inspires deep connection with the reader and banishes shame because she reminds us we aren't alone. She covers every aspect of self care, and looks at every realm of her life from her body to home to work to family to dating and friendships. The book is packed full of guidance from Tara based on her own experiences in many forms: there are journaling suggestions, recipes, and strategies for handing everything from your own inner critic to beginning an exercise regimen.

Tara's guidance never feels preachy or forced. Her tone is 100% genuine and it's clear that by writing this book, she is rooting for the reader to transform her own life and experience the same successes and happiness that Tara has found.

I don't think I'm the intended audience for this book yet I still enjoyed it a great deal and took away many great suggestions. I highlighted a ton of inspiring and funny passages to return to when I'm feeling low. The only thing I didn't care for is that she used abbreviations and hashtags, though I understand why. This book would be ideal for women who are new to the personal development journey or perhaps haven't even started yet. It's geared toward women who are looking for a partner and finding their footing in the work world. Yet it will resonate with any woman who has already gone through these stages. I highly recommend it for readers of memoir and personal development.

BUY YOURSELF THE F*CKING LILIES by Tara Schuster was incredibly funny, amazingly insightful, yet very sad at the same time. Wow, what a ride she had! Talk about pulling yourself up by the bootstraps. Although at my advanced age I am beyond the need for her right-on advice I still admire her spirit and her ability to overcome such a lack of parenting. I highly recommend this book as a gift to anyone you know who makes excuses for not growing up and taking charge of their lives.

This book is the author's memoir. Through her life experiences, she has learned some valuable lessons that she passes onto readers. While I feel the author's personal experiences gave her an expertise in the subjrect. It would have given her more credibility to include the reference to research to support ideas/claims.

This was an honest book. Told in a conversational tone, there were many ideas to think about: how you respond, accepting things, writing how you react to mention a few.