I thought this was a good, informative read. Great insights into BPD. If your mother or mother in law has this disorder I would highly recommend this book.

A good helpful book that gives pointers for handling BPD mom ('dad' or 'parents' are not mentioned). Thanks to the publisher for the ARC.

My mom doesn't have BPD, but after reading this book, I definitely believe my grandmother did. As someone who has been in therapy for years and has heard the BPD term many times, I finally realize it was in my family. Just not in the person I originally suspected. This is an informative read. It also gives you advice on how to handle interactions with Borderlines. I feel like I have come across many of them in my life and now have a better idea how to set boundaries and handle them.

If anyone in your life has BPD, you might want to pick up this book and just give it a read through. It's short and easy to read, and the advice is sound. Good luck to you!

5/5 Stars

As someone with a difficult maternal relationship, I hoped this book would give me more tools and techniques for managing that relationship. Dr. Lobel provided such strategies, though many of the strategies in question are easier to describe than to implement. It also served as a reminder that each of us can only work to improve ourselves — that 'fixing' other people is next to impossible.

If you are interested in understanding a Mother with Borderline Personality Disorder, then look no further because this is by far the best book out there. Dr. Lobel clearly and succinctly lays out what constitutes Borderline Personality Disorder and how best to deal with it. What makes this book unusual is that it is written for adults who have Mothers with BPD. In fact, I believe it is the best resource out there if you have a Mother with BPD.

For some, it may be painful to read as it is so on target in understanding this personality disorder and how it affects those growing up in such a situation. I learned so much from this one book and the sections on changing your relationship and healing oneself were very constructive and beneficial.

I appreciated that When Your Mother Has BPD is not bogged down with case history examples. Usually when I read a psychology or self-help book with an abundance of these “stories,” I tend to skip them. But they can be worthwhile in illustrating a point and Lobel has achieved the right mix of them.

There can be no doubt that this book will help those who were raised by a Mother with BPD. It explains not only how it affected you and still does but also how to best deal with your Mother. Even if your Mother is no longer alive, you will gain a greater understanding of how she made you who you are and how to change your thinking and behaving that you learn from her for the better. Furthermore, you will come to know that you are not alone and that there are ways to cope and heal.

Thank you to Callisto Media - Rockridge Press and NetGalley for an advanced reader copy in exchange for my honest review.

Well written for laypeople. The writer doesn’t condescend and use an abundance of medical terms which inspire one to put the book down. This book could be read by any adult child who has a parent with any personality disorder as it affirms that while they themselves may not have it they have learned behaviors from their parent which could be impacting their life in a way that’s making it harder for them. It inspires the reader to push beyond what they saw and learned. This book should move to the top of every therapist’s referral lists and I hope it finds it’s way into many readers hands!

I am glad to see information published about Borderline Personality Disorder because I think there are great number of people with this category of mental illness who have trouble with their relationships and their jobs. As a adult child of parent who probably has BPD, the emotional detachment and anger can be quite damaging. I believe this book is meant for the generation that lived through the Depression and World II, so there is trauma related BPD that becomes a survival skill. I don't think parents that era are as willing to go to therapy or as self-aware (or self-absorbed) as the younger parents are today. The only issue I have with the book is the concept that people with BPD are aware of their condition, or that they can't get better. I listen to Dr. Daniel Fox's videos on youtube, and there are many, many comments there from BPD patients that are very aware of the impact it has on their lives, and they want to try anything to resolve the issues. May be a generational difference, as I can't see my parent changing in her 80s to be a more compassionate person.

I received an advanced reader’s copy in exchange for an honest review

This book is so accurate it’s painful, but I’m glad I forced my way through it because it gave me a lot of insight into who I am and why, and who my mother is and why, and it was a relief to come to terms with the fact that I am not alone and it wasn’t my fault. Definitely recommend it for anyone raised by someone with a personality disorder