Quick read following the "crisis" of Tova. I had not heard of Tova or her blog a head of time. Some topics you could relate to, but a few others were quite extreme and confusing.

Thank you #Netgalley for the advanced copy.

Fcked at 40 is a decent read. On some levels I found it difficult to relate to her writing. The author has an acerbic, witty sense of humor, but she seemed to go on a diatribe about the same topics for pages. She discusses major changes in her marriage but only hints at the follow through.
All in all, this book just wasn't my cup of tea.

This is an interesting fairly light read of Tova's life up to now. As you follow Tova's journey of self discovery I wasn't left feeling that there was a lot to be taken or learned from this book. There is a lot about what worked for Tova and what she wanted and whilst relatable in parts, it's hard to feel that this will help many people find their own happiness. I'm sure this will be a great read for fans of Tova and her work but is quite shallow, I don't think it's likely to inspire much soul searching.

Let me begin by saying that I have not followed Tova Leigh's blog, but the title alone drew me to this book. I'm also in my 40s and was looking forward to her take on what life is like when you're 40 and raising kids and losing a bit of yourself in the process. Well, I got to the 35% mark and she still hadn't had "the crisis", but instead did a whole lot of setting up why it's probably not her fault based on her past. Isn't that the best part of being in your 40s, you start to own it?

Anyway, this is probably a great book if you follow her blog and want to get some insight into her writing. As a book about your 40s though, it's a hard pass.

The title and the titilating description prompted me to read this book, previously I hadn't read any of the author's blog posts.

The story follows Tova as she has something of a midlife crisis, referred to within as "The Crisis" and decides to change her life. Her blog helps her to confess her shortcomings and tell some truths on being a mother and wife. We get to see her thought process and what happens when she stops being the typical mommy and starts spreading her wings.

I enjoyed hearing about Tova's journey but felt that for all her raw truths, as a writer, she's a bit of a tease. She hints at a second book containing more info about her sexual adventures so you'll have to buy that to get into the REAL nitty gritty. Her writing is much more conservative than some of the videos I looked up.

A valuable read for any mommies on the edge.

Thanks to NetGalley and Watkins for the review copy!

This is a light hearted read, a bit like reading a diary that jumps from one time to another. The humour changes to serious at times and to get it you really need to be at the 'forty something' age range, and need to have a lot in common with the author. Overall it is OK but is best suited to the niche market it is intended for.

I think my head may be doing a Linda Blair type of spinning after listening to this one all day. I do my best concentrating on a book when I have physical pages I can turn in my hands, and, although I've requested a paper copy of this book, I still have somewhat of as idea as to what my review may be. Which is, this may be one of the hardest books I've ever had to review.
Tova takes us on a journey through The Crises. She discusses open marriage, sexuality, the reality of being a mom and self-care in the book. It seems like the open marriage and sexuality are about 98% of the book. I have watched some of Tova's videos that have been shared through social media and have identified with quite a few of what I have seen. However, in the book, it comes off as complaining and just an over all b**chfest for however many pages are in the book. Around 58% through she really dives into the idea of open marriage and what that means to her and how she wants to achieve this. At about 59% of the book she lays out a scene of Ken and Barbie that she is playing with her children; trying to teach them the value of themselves rather than dating a boy. Which, to me, was just a wow moment, since I get both aspects of that scenarios but....they just want to play! Then, however, she spells it all out and you're left feeling like, oh, I get it now. it is just in that "in-between" part you're just left with a WTF did I just read (or listen to).
Somewhere in the book, prior to at least 50% of the way through, she states, she should be "free to pave (my) own path; whatever that may be." That's exactly what she did in the book.
I won't lie and say that this is the best book I've read all year. Nor, will I say that it wasn't even "good". I was bored some of the time, angry some of the time, rooting her on some of the time and then I realized I was judging all of the time and hated that too. Ha. This book hasn't even been published yet and at the mention of her writing her second book, well, now I have to read that one too!
To give an actual star rating? I don't even know what to rate it based on the above. I want her to do well, I want her to succeed even if I don't agree with everything she does, but there were parts that I just couldn't wait for the book to be over - so now of course I want to read it again and see if my "on first read" review sticks. I think I would give this at least a 3.5 solid rating so since that's not feasible a 4 it is.
*That is until I re-read it again and find whatever it is I was missing* - a clear reference to the book that you'll have to find out for yourself what it means.

Really 3.5 stars. I would like to thank netgalley and the publisher for an advance copy in exchange for an honest review. I have been reading Tova's blog online for awhile now on Facebook and we are only a few years apart in age so I was interested to see what she would have to say in her biography. The book is a cross between her talking about her life past and present and there are some diary inserts from her teen years as well as instagram posts. The book goes back and forth between a funny and serious tone and keeps you entertained throughout the entire book. An interesting read that took me only a day to finish, can't wait to read the next one.