I really love self help books and I’ve adored similar books about topics such as embracing your divine feminine etc but this just didn’t sit great with me and unfortunately I didn’t love it. It felt like the vibe of the advice was not aligned to what I personally enjoy reading when talking about these kinda subjects sadly!

Very detailed and interesting. Definitely helps create a mindspace to spice up your love life. I was surprised that the content was going to be like it was.

Maybe I'm shallow, but this book didn't strike a chord with me. I'm not sure what i was expecting, but this was something different.

Really enjoyable book! I can't wait to use some of the tips and tricks! (I think m significant other will like that too!)

All about women power. It's a good self help book, talks about healing both spiritually and physically. Talks about the author's own struggles. Definitely not for the faint of heart.

I DNFed this book. I tried reading it for the first 20% or so but I just couldn't get anything out of it for me personally and just skimmed through the rest. I liked the title which sounded empowering and intriguing but in the end I wasn't taking in any of the information that I was reading.

DNF (I received an e-arc from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review)

I did attempt to read this book but I just couldn’t get into the writing style.

CW: rape, disordered eating, self harm

The first 25% or so of this book was pretty hard for me to get through as I really couldn't get into it. The remainder.... well, let's just say I powered through hoping for redemption. I'd say I was let down and this book rubbed me the wrong way on more than one occasion.

If you resonate with the wild woman archetype and are seeking self-empowerment, this book might be for you. I appreciated some of the inquiries and exercises that Ms. Roxo suggests in this book, although I felt that I am not really the target audience. I don’t think I’m quite ready to run with the wolves or the women who swear profusely and use entheogens.

I appreciated what the author had to say about self-worth, body acceptance, and the art of surrender. I found the section on prioritizing moments of surrender especially inspiring. If not for the language, which I found very hard to relate to, this might have been a 4-star read for me.

If you’re willing to sign up for her email list, the author has additional resources available on her website, including a one-month free trial membership in her online community, a short meditation, and a 40-minute embodied breathwork and sound practice. These resources didn’t really resonate with me, but your mileage may vary.

Readers should be aware that the author frequently uses profanity, including f-bombs. In addition, some of her stories may be triggering, including discussions of sexual assault.

I was provided an ARC through NetGalley that I volunteered to review.

Let me save you 217 pages:

How did Roxo heal? Ayahuasca.
Does she recommend you also take psychedelics? Maybe?
Is this book actually ayahuasca? Possibly.

Full disclosure: I’m a self-described skeptical mystic who has never actually taken ayahuasca. Do I want to after reading this book? Not really.

Roxo might be an amazing healer, I wouldn’t know, I’ve not had a session with her and do not pay $44/month to be part of her online community. I do know that she is not a terribly gifted writer.

If you’re looking for true healing and embodied empowerment, read The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor and get some actionable steps toward true, intersectional healing.


This review is devoid of spoilers because I don’t think you can have spoilers without a story. But Roxo’s rambling advice could be summarized as: journal, breathe, and move your body while making sound.

F*ck Like a Goddess includes virtually no storytelling, which is confusing for a book that is at least ⅓ memoir. Instead it is filled with lists of experiences and then summaries of healing, mostly achieved through rituals performed by various shamans, healers, and gurus. In many ways it reads like a very long Instagram caption with very regular references to the creative revelations that are possible at barre class.

F*ck Like a Goddess is also devoid of any concrete advice about HOW to f*ck like a goddess. What I gathered was: take a bath first, wear a silky robe (or whatever makes you feel good), do it with someone you REALLY trust, put away your phones, and don’t try to do it in your childhood bedroom while visit your folks at Christmas.

Here are some quotes from F*ck Like a Goddess that really sum up Roxo’s writing style, and one of my main frustrations with the book:

“Eventually I made a lot of art about that experience as part of my healing.”
“And so, my life is an ongoing spiritual quest.”
“Once I was dating an Adonis-looking neoshaman with a beautiful chiseled body and a lot of spiritual quotes up his sleeve.”
“We were on a trip to experience high tantric Buddhist initiations and meditate in secret Nepali caves…”
“Seminal psychologist Carl Jung said, ‘That which we do not bring to consciousness appears in our life as fate.’”
Sidenote: what is it with witchy white women and Carl Jung?

I give Roxo credit for acknowledging her privilege and pointing to the fact that much of her healing practices are taken from cultures not her own. However, the book is filled with generalizations about “indigenous cultures” and “western culture” without a lot of specificity. It ends up reading as:

Indigenous culture = only possible way for white women to find healing
“Western culture” = bad with no concepts of divine feminine.

Roxo never defines what she means by “western” or as she calls it at one point “regular society,” but I’m using my context clues to mean the United States, Canada, and possibly Europe.

I think avid fans of Roxo may find some value in these pages, but as she herself states throughout the book, most of it is available on her website, and she regularly directs readers to her resources page throughout the book. However, if you want to know what type of crystal dildo she recommends for your “sacred solo sex practice,” and you go to her website, you’ll be sorely disappointed. You have to sign up to be part of the paid community to receive said resources. You get the first month free though, so if you remember to cancel, maybe the resources are actually free?

(On a personal note, I say skip the crystal dildos and invest in a good suction vibe for clitoral stimulation if you’re going to spend money on your “sacred solo sex practice” and have a clitoris.)

Some parts of this book may be actively harmful for sexual trauma survivors. Other reviewers have already pointed out the problematic nature of asking readers to thank their abusers (yes, there is an exercise about this). I also found some of the ways she talks about sex very patriarchal, especially considering the entire book’s conceit.

When discussing other’s sexualized view of her at 12-years-old, Roxo states that “I hadn’t so much as given a blowjob.” And, sure, many young American girl’s first sexual experience was giving pleasure, rather than receiving pleasure. But the assumption of “blowjob” as the lowest barrier of entry to young, female sexual activity bothered me.

I also might just be burnt out on very conventionally attractive women teaching me how to love my body in all its perfect imperfections. This could have been mitigated slightly if Roxo had even once acknowledged her pretty privilege, alas.

It’s not all bad. I did give it two stars after all. Hidden between the rambling there’s also some darn good advice in this book:
Trust your body, trust yourself, find your people, question the structures you were raised within...but you can already find most of that on Roxo and any of her contemporaries’ gloriously curated IG feeds.

And speaking of IG feeds, respect to a fellow redhead who has fully embraced the color red, I would be lying if I didn’t covet Roxo’s #aesthetic Her red dress collection is #goddessgoals

Finally, I did have a laugh when I realized Roxo and I shared the same voice and speech teacher in college. I, too, am a privileged white former actress who attended NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts and took voice and speech at the Stella Adler Studio and was asked to release my belly and use the syllable “ha” to realize the full expression of my voice. I, too, bring much of my theater training into my witchy work. Much credit to that voice teacher, Alithia. From all of the wildly insecure 18-year-old white girls whose voices you helped unlock, we are eternally grateful.

Should I just stop reading books like this? Maybe.
Am I torturing myself and probably falling into the very shame triggers Roxo talks about, or rather, talks around, throughout the book? Very possibly.
Am I overcompensating for the fact that she got a book deal and I self-published? Definitely.
But thank you NetGalley for the ARC in exchange for this honest, and TBH, somewhat cathartic, review.

This book’s intentions are good but unfortunately it did not touch. I guess I am not in a place and time in my life where I would need this book. I must be f****** like a goddess already ;-)

Not saying this book is bad, just that I am not the right audience.

Thank you Net Galley and the publisher for this e-ARC in exchange for my honest review.

Ugh....I thought this was going to be some kick a$s book, but I was very disappointed. I thought it would a humorous and engaging book about saying you like to fu*k and be proud of it. Not the case what so ever. I didn’t get into the spiritual uplifting or the author bragging about all the the things she has done in every chapter. Ok we get the point you are sooo cool and spiritually connected to your sexuality. I also was very turned off about thanking all the people who you have had sexual encounters with, even if it was abuse! Yes she says that. I live with someone who was sexually abused and it has scared them in every aspect of their lives and you want them to stand there and say thank you?!? That is beyond sick.

The title has really nothing to do with what is inside, it is just an attention grabber. Not for me at all.

This is a book of healing, of taking back one's sexuality, of moving away from trauma.

It's fabulous. I think it's going to make people uncomfortable and good. That's the point.

I received a free ARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

I selected this book because I thought the title was funny and seemed to be about much more than the title indicated. The book was so-so. I didn't find it all that helpful. There were some amusing parts, but overall, I didn't get much out of it.

I think this book is definitely the "different strokes for different folks" type of book. (Literally). This was very much more of a spiritual book than I was expecting. Given that that is not me whatsoever, this book didn't really "click" with me.

I would definitely recommend this book if you think that's your thing and that's why there are so many different types of self help books!

Thanks to NetGalley for giving me an ARC in exchange for an honest review!

I had heard a lot about this book via an online group I am in. However for me I don’t think it was the right fit.
I found the language and style a little difficult and whilst I believe the ethos behind it is strong and powerful and empowering it sadly didn’t leave me feeling like that at the end.

This book is really interesting and cannot be read in one sitting. I would say it's like an activity book - it brings up questions and topics that are relevant to healing but can also be triggering at times and the general aim is to help you heal. I would suggest looking into it if you are interested in non-traditional therapy or if you are interested in self-help books.

F*ck Like a Goddess by Alexandra Roxo is a book that enables an exploration of self that helps you find out who you really are and what you really want out of your life. The book offers readers real talk and honest advice about healing—inside and outside. The author offers personal stories and practical suggestions for how to heal your trauma and become the goddess that you should be. The book offers a unique and interesting read with tips that anyone can apply to improve their lives.

Who doesn't want to read a book titled "Fuck Like a Goddess"?! Especially when you realize that the goal of this book is to empower women to take control of their own desire and pleasure, and to break free from the constraints of what institutionalized mechanisms of society have decided female sexuality should be.

Hell. Yes.

While conveying her own beliefs and history, the author shares her self in order to guide the reader in their journey of growth and understanding. Not a huge fan of the stretches of this book where the author discusses their own therapy experiences, history of abuse, and spiritual journey. I didn't really find it necessary or helpful. But maybe someone else will?

There is much talk of divine femininity. While I have complicated feelings with regards to religion, worship and divinity, I understand that by "divine femininity", the author is trying to get the reader to tap into a larger truth: there is great power in the feminine. The trouble is, we spend so much of our lives being told what that power is: it's limits, it's intention, it's purpose. But what this author is trying to do for us, is to get us to a place of understanding that only YOU can define what your limits, intention and purpose are.

I enjoyed the discussion of breaking generational "norms", of coming from a long line of women who may not have been able to seize their power the way we can. So, in that regard, it can be truly empowering to end the cycle of generational "trauma" and repression. In taking control of ourselves, our bodies, our joy, we create a new order. A new standard. A new "normal". And the goal is for that standard of openness and acceptance to set a better precedent for the generations after ours.

This isn't a book of smut and sex positions. It's a genuine look at the external factors that influence our internal being. And the ways we internalize the external, which we express through our bodies.

I hesitate to call this a "self-help" book, even though that's likely the section where you'll find it in your local bookstore. I'm not big into "self-help", but I can get behind a positive message.

This book is so inspiring and empowering. It encourages you to not be ashamed or to speak of your sexuality. The book goes even deeper to give exercises, examples, daily challenges and mantras to help you explore your sexuality and the uncomfortability that comes with speaking and approaching said topic in our current culture. At the beginning of reading this book I was really thrown off by how freely she spoke of sexuality and then forced myself to really be open and I really am glad I did.