SO well researched and relevant! This non fiction is essentially about the extend of domestic abuse in Australia. It includes many anecdotes, data, perspectives of survivors, offenders and criminal justice system employees and support workers. It's just so well rounded that it not only pulls on your emotionally but it's also a call to action. I had no idea how many types of domestic violence offenders there actually are. This was a very necessary read and I would highly recommend to all!

I read this when it was first released in Australia, so was excited to read the US edition after hearing that Hill spent months rewriting it so it would read as if intended for an American audience. I was floored by the level of work that has gone into this rewrite, in addition to the momentous work in the original edition.

One of the chapters that most struck me in the original, Dadirri, was particularly impressive in the US edition also—the nuance and complexity Hill has researched and conveyed in this really grounded the content in US specific statistics and legal commentary, but I also admired how well the content still retained the original Australian-specific material and situated this so well for American readers. So well done and I hope this finds a place in discussions for many North American readers.

This is an amazing book on domestic violence, which focuses on dispelling the common myths, stereotypes, and common misconceptions that cause DV to be shielded from view in society. Most people think DV victims are helpless and are complicit to the abuse because "they should just leave," but fail to realize the complex power, monetary and social forces that perpetrators use to control their victims and make it impossible for them to get out of the relationship.

I thought this book was excellent and really well researched. My big complaint is that I wish the chapters had been shorter. I think the really long chapters hurt the book’s readability. Other than that, I really learned a lot and I think this book is going to be very valuable to a lot of people.

“We’ve got so much awareness. We’re sick of talking about it. This is not a ribbon, it’s not a colour, it’s not a hashtag. Just think: how many women and children this year have had to face the last moment of their life? That terror. That moment of going, fucking hell, make it quick. Yeah, you’re gonna kill me right now, I get it. But please don’t make me suffer.”
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📚Thanks @netgalley @sourcebooks for the ARC of the US version of See What You Made Me Do: The Dangers of Domestic Violence We Ignore, Explain Away, or Refuse To See. Intimate Partner Violence is an epidemic & one that I am deeply invested in. 3 women in the US are killed by their partner every day. It is not the monster in the dark that most women fear most, it is the men we fall in love with. This book won the Stella prize & it deserved it. Of the many books I have read on domestic violence/IPV, many hone in on anecdotal evidence from the POV of the woman. This one went even further & gave many POV’s of the children impacted in familial domestic violence & took focus on colonialism and the institutions that reinforce the violence. Of the 87,000 women killed globally in 2017, 30,000 of them were by an intimate partner & 20,000 a family member. Court costs in legal battles over abuse & child custody, as with the doctor (especially with no universal health coverage), can be astronomical, again resulting in bankruptcy. So physical abuse is only once side of a multi-faceted problem. Many ask the question “Why doesn’t she leave?” Instead of asking “what are the many government & financial roadblocks disallowing her from leaving & why doesn’t he stop abusing her?” Some of the anecdotes in this book are absolutely horrific. It is downright impossible to read without physically recoiling at times. The psychological evidence outlined in the book were mind bending & will no doubt help change be enacted. The ending hits on carceral punishment as the most successful solution & even Hill didn’t fully believe in her words. I wanted more at the end, but it’s unfortunate to say the solutions just aren’t here yet.

I've been interested in SEE WHAT YOU MADE ME DO ever since a passage screenshot about the Stockholm Syndrome went viral on twitter. Wow. This book is a must read for those interested in learning about domestic violence and psychology. Highly recommended.

As someone who has read a number of books about domestic violence, I didn't think I would be shocked by this book; knowing that it discusses the prevalence and severity of this problem, I thought I would simply gain more information. Boy, was I wrong. "See What You Made Me Do" is an exceptional work on the subject not only because it shows just how common domestic terrorism is, humanizes people simply referred to as 'victims' and answers '"why couldn't they just leave," but also because it discussed how the legal system enables domestic violence to thrive.

It was certainly one of the most difficult and important books I have ever read, and by far the most comprehensive book on the subject. While this book concerns the problem of domestic abuse in Australia, a lot of the content is applicable globally. I think it's particularly important for people who never experienced this issue personally and don't realized how common it is - "See What You Made Me Do" sheds light on things that go on behind the closed doors and ways in which we can potentially recognize them before it's too late.

While the subject matter of Hill's book is admittedly daunting, I highly encourage anyone to read it. It is jaw-dropping and eye opening.

*Thank you to the Publisher for a free copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.