How to They/ Them is a book that covers the basics of gender, gender identity and how that intersects with language. If you know a lot about the topic it won't tell you anything new, but honestly its still worth it because this book is so funny. I spent half the time I was reading this book taking pictures of the pages because they made me laugh so much. I think that is a great book to give people who are interested in learning more about the non-binary/gender non conforming/ genderqueer identities, but this is maybe not for people who don't want to listen anyway because they would likely get annoyed at the first couple (very funny) pages. If you have some spare time definitely check it out! Thanks to Netgalley and Sasquatch books for this book in exchange for an honest review.

Perfect!
They/Them 101.
Easy to read, articulate and witty.
Great for kids, adults, queers....EVERYONE.
Just read it!

I found this book on NetGalley on a perfect timing. I had already been looking for more information about nonbinary gender and terms, and found in it a great opportunity to finally fulfill this goal.

The best part of this books is that is really didatic. If you know nothing about the matter or if you have just started to do some research on the theme, this book is just perfect for you (as it was for me). But I dare say that, even if you are already more informed, it can be great to reflect on how to deal with some tricky situations, and how to explain nonbinary to people who are still either not aware of its existence, feeling difficulty to aprehend the concept, or even unwilling to open up their minds.

Also, Stuart makes it clear that it's a serious and delicate matter, that needs to be held up with respect, but their way of explaining is funny and witty, and I found myself smiling a lot during this read. The illustrations and diagramation only add to those feelings.

The concept of nonbinary matches my view and beliefs on the topic of gender, and after reading this book I definitely embraced it.

I want to thank NetGalley, the authors and the publishers for allowing me to read the ARC in exchange for this honest review.

The dates for All the Books have shifted, and this book is no longer eligible for me to review on the podcast, so I wasn't able to finish/review it.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for this eARC in exchange for an honest review.

This visual guide to non-binary vocabulary and concepts is informative yet light-hearted fun thanks to the humorous voice of the author. I felt educated without being bored or feeling like I was being lectured.

The author, Stuart Getty was Assigned Female at Birth, called herself a lesbian (a butch), before finally hearing the term "they" and now Getty most identifies with this pronoun.

Parts of the book are setup as Q and A sessions with all sorts of questions that people wonder and are fearful to ask, so as not to be rude.

They also provide specific language that parents and teachers can use as well as resources at the end that can be used to further educate oneself on pronouns.

I cannot comment much on the visual aspect as these visuals didn't appear well on my Kindle but this is a great starting point for understanding non-binary pronouns!

I think it's great for kids (6th grade+) and adults alike.

An engaging, entertaining and educational resource on how to use pronouns and why it's important to be conscious of asking. 

This book contains so many useful abbreviations, terms definitions and graphics for those cis allies out there. The term gender fluid sounds so beautiful to me whenever I hear it. I just visualize an ocean wave of every shade of blue ebbing and flowing where the beach never looks the same way twice. No two people are the same or feel the same in their skin, nor should they have to.

I will read anything that will help me to become a more understanding human to other humans experiences. I especially loved the references to other cultures histories this is not new. I've been fascinated by two-spirit history.  I will have to read into the others listed in this book. 

Sexuality didn't used to be so rigid and confined. As always it's ruled and constrained by politics and religion.

I've read others reviews and noticed the gender reveal comment. This is a weird practice and I feel has more to do with baby registries, nursery decorations and gifts than the future of the baby. With our first I asked for all gender neutral because we were having two and I didn't want to have to buy more clothes in case the 2nd was the other gender. My answer while I was pregnant when anyone asked what I wanted a boy or girl "doesn't matter as long as they are healthy!" 

Quote:
"And I’m here to tell you that, sometimes, it is healthiest to cut people off if they won’t change their behavior. My only tip? Do this with a lot of heart. Because it can be rough."

I feel this advice can be said for many reasons.

As someone who is still questioning their own gender identity, this little book was like a breath of fresh air. Told in a polite manner and very well researched, this book took us through every thing I could think of asking: from the grammar of using they as a singular pronoun to the history of gender-neutral identities in other cultures. I'll be reccomending this book to all my friends who want to educate themselves from now on.

my review will be published on my blog on September 28, in keeping with the publisher's request!
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Stuart Getty has created a wonderful book about They/Them pronouns and all of the bits and pieces that may go with pronouns. Just for transparency, I'm a cisgender woman and don't really have a pronoun preference. I do, however, always respect the pronouns of others. I work in a Library and we have policies about gender-neutral language so it falls within my wheelhouse.

The author, Stuart Getty is a genderqueer writer and filmmaker. If you're interested in short docs, they have a great one entitled "they/THEM" and it is available to watch here. The writing is accompanied by illustrations by graphic artist, Brook Thyng. The illustrations are fun and help to keep the topic open and inviting. From conversations I've had in my own life, I realize that discussing pronouns can bring out a lot of defensiveness in people... what I love about this book is that it is straight-forward without being at all self-righteous.

"How To They/Them" is a book about pronouns...but it's also a lot more than that. Stuart shares their personal journey through life in an endearing and authentic way. This is a journey to using they/them pronouns that begins with a label of "tomboy" feeling comfortable. 

Stuart's story is told with humor, facts, history, and fantastic artwork. The text in the book is often short and straightforward, sometimes amusing, and packs a "clarity" punch. I learned a lot and I thoroughly enjoyed that. All kinds of topics are covered in simple and direct ways in this book: sex, gender, gender binary, gender identity, nature vs. nurture, socialization, genetics (to name a few). I hadn't even thought about some of the issues in this book. For instance, the author points out how early some people begin down the gender path with "gender reveal" parties. I have never liked the idea of them, but I hadn't thought about how that was the beginning of a new and open soul being put into a box!

As an ally, I learned some useful tips for having conversations about pronouns and other related subjects. My favorite? "Cis" is just the opposite of "trans"! how great is that for a response! And some other great advice, "Weird means growth is happening." Maybe that's why it can feel weird for some people to use the pronouns "they/them"... it's certainly another handy thing for me to have in my toolbox.

This is a wonderful book. It would make a great gift. I think that most people could benefit from reading something like this. It's joyful and positive and still manages to inform.

I received an electronic ARC from Sasquatch Books through NetGalley.
Getty shares information and challenges readers to think, grow and learn. They present the history of the pronouns they/them and provide further information on how the binary designations came to be. Well thought out and researched. Presented in a simple to follow style. Readers are offered directions and steps to take to be more inclusive. Getty emphasizes that it takes practice and offers encouragement to keep moving forward.

I first want to thank NetGalley and Sasquatch Books for giving me early, free access to this book in exchange for an honest review.

This book is very accessible. By that I mean, explanations are concise and worded in easy to understand language, often accompanied by examples to make things more concrete and/or illustrations that help keep the tone of the book light. On one reading of "How to They/Them," anyone who is encountering many of the words in this book for the first time will probably not remember the nuanced differences between all of the words. However, the book is short enough and organized in such a way that readers will be able to go back and reread sections later without it feeling like a daunting task.

While a lot of the book may feel like it is addressing people who don't know or understand people who chose 'they/them' as their pronouns, after reading to the end, it actually feels like it is for anyone who wants to know a bit more about not just the use of the singular 'they/them' pronouns but also some bits of history, encouragement to be you, and examples of how any and all of us can make changes to create a more accepting and comfortable world for others.

Getty's compassion for others really comes through throughout the book and their humor makes the text so inviting that it almost feels like sitting down with a friend.

I cant get over my love for this book! As a nonbinary person often looking for resources for coworkers and family, this little book does a fabulous job at explaining various concepts in a very digestible way.

How To They definitely has an odd format but I love it! The book is informative but also so much fun! I believe this book is perfect for all the people who have questions about gender identity and would make a great gift for those less than open-minded family members.
The only thing that bothers me about this book is the use of slang acronyms since I am not very familiar with them.

[The ARC of this book was provided by the publisher via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.]

What I liked:
• This was such a cute (and funny) book!
• This book explains everything from gender identities to grammar and being an ally to trans people, and it’s very easy and fun to read.
• I think “How to They/Them” will be very helpful for cis allies and also trans people who want to start using they/them pronouns.

What I didn’t like:
• “They is a gender identity” – No!!! They is a pronoun, and anyone (no matter which gender) can use it!
• Some of the definitions for gender identities and sexual orientations were… weird. Not completely wrong, but weird.

Thanks for the advanced copy.

Well written, I love the drawings. The layout is excellent, I found myself having to skip back and re read parts so I knew the abbreviations.
This is an important subject matter and the layout makes it user friendly.

Very well thought out educational background of the they/them pronouns and non-binary people. I was happy to learn that the author is from the same state as me and I was able to see small glimpses of people I know in the stories they shared. Highly recommend to all, ALL that are looking for more info about the NB world

Goodreads Rating: 4 stars.

This was a great guide that is perfect for allys wanting to be more inclusive in their language as well as nonbinary+ people who want a guide that they can give to friends and family to help explain their pronouns and identity. It’s a quick read, but packs a lot of blunt info into it through faq’s, vignettes, and visuals (mainly of the doodled type).

Getty focuses mainly on genders and the breaking of the binary system, how nonbinary folks come in literally all presentations, pronouns, and identities, and touches on how biological characteristics and sexual attraction are their own things not necessarily related to gender identity.

Nonbinary had always confused me as an identity before because it has always seemed so broad but indecisive, but the way it was presented here made it a lot clearer to me. It’s not indecisive, it’s choosing not to adhere to the either/or of the gender binary which is a decision itself!

While pronouns are just one part of an identity, it’s a vitally important part, as it’s almost like a second name for a person. When in doubt, ask politely, don’t assume, and make an effort. Grammar and language is always evolving, and this small evolution–a new definition of the words they & them–is something that can help a huge group of people feel seen and understood.

This was very informative and a great way to educate ourselves on how to respect and support trans people. Definitely a must-read, I really hope this becomes a best-seller cause there's so much to learn still. Some parts were a bit confusing, but I blame the fact that I read an uncorrected proof copy and sometimes the letters were a bit all over the place.

The main reason this is 4 stars and not 5 is cause I expected a bit more depth on certain parts that remained a bit too superficial, but overall I think this is a great book and I'm so glad I read it.

This humorous yet piercing piece is determined to make some real change and bring awareness to this deaf world. This was a two hour well spent.

I became a part of this community three years ago but still, there are a lot of things for me to learn and this book is just perfect for that. It's really educational with child-like illustrations to induce some laughter and giggles, just like when I learned my A, B, C, D's as a child. This is a smart move since we're all still a child when it comes to pronouns. Learning and understanding it would change that. And that is the purpose of this book.

Open your eyes guys and gurls there are THEY, and THEY want respect for their pronouns. Instead of being ignorant and stupid educate your fucking selves, THEY are valid, THEY are humans with feelings and THEY are just asking for you to R-E-S-P-E-C-T THEM and use the right pronouns. It's not hard to replace he & she with THEY, you're just choosing to be a shitty person.

I am very satisfied with this one, I really hope the world would finally change someday and we all would get the freedom to express ourselves, our gender and sexuality without being bullied, shamed and degraded for it. This fight is not just for us but it's for our child, great-grandchild, and their future. We're off to a great start.

*I wanna thank the publisher for providing me with an ARC copy of this book via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review

How to They/Them: A Visual Guide to Nonbinary Pronouns and the World of Gender Fluidity is a gem of a book that is engaging and entertaining as it is important and insightful.

I enjoyed the historical facts and personal anecdotes the author used throughout the book, as well as the line drawings to convey the such an important message in a lighthearted and accessible way, without being condescending or cutesy.

I read this graphic novel / visual guide on my kindle, but I will definitely be buying it in paper copy, because I think that format will do the illustrations justice and keep continuity of flow.

This book / guide should be read by anyone who wants to learn to be a little more inclusive and supportive and to learn the differences between gender identity, gender expression, sex, and sexuality (among other topics).

Thank you to NetGalley and Sasquatch Books for a copy of this book. The thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.

This is a wonderful book for anyone who wants to educate themselves on the concepts of gender fluidity. As a cis-man who uses he/his pronouns, and as someone whose first language attributes gender to nouns, adjectives et cetera, I find it interesting how English is majorly a neutral language, and I love how broad the idea of “they” can be because of it. The author tells us their own personal story with becoming they and walks us through different situations in which we can be more inclusive and, basically, not act like a jerk. I got a copy through NetGalley on Non-Binary Pride Day and it really warmed my heart – I picked it up right away. I was really grateful for the opportunity to read more about an ENBY experience ad educate myself. Also, the illustrations were amazing!

I know that linguistic structures are hard for us to deconstruct the older we get, but after all, as my favorite quote from the book says: Language is constantly evolving. Are you?