I'm so excited to add this book to my Library reference collection! This book is a perfect primer for anyone who wants to correctly understand or use they/them pronouns. Bonus: it includes a bit of pronoun history and somehow manages to be funny as heck. I didn't expect to giggle so much reading this!

4.5/5
It’s important that we know how to be inclusive not only by our actions, but with the way we communicate with other people. This graphic novel explains in charming way how we can use they/them pronouns for non-binary folks and other people who might not found he/she accurate as their identity.

I happen to share the same vision as the writer: we should try our hardest to make this world a better, safer place for younger generations that don’t fit into the mold. We should constantly educate ourselves because language, gender identity, gender fluidity and life in itself are always evolving. What worked 50 years ago might be the opposite of what we need right now. So we have to stay with our eyes and hearts open.

That being said, to me the art style + the prose work perfectly because it feels like you’re just talking to a friend, and at the same time, it’s being informative. It explains a lot of terms that we often see in LGBTQ+ books and the way it addresses them is absolutely respectful.

I’m really happy to see that more queer authors are getting the attention they need and I’m glad I got the chance to read this book right now! I would totally recommend you to pick this up it you’re an ally but also, if you’re part of the LGBTQ+ community.

This is an graphic novel illustrating the use of they/them pronouns, when to use them, and other topics on the subject.

While it is a good introduction to the subject, I found it a little dry. The illustrations were cool and it is a book that does a great job at covering the topic, it didn’t capture my interest most of the time. However, it is short so you can read it in one sitting.

Fun and fresh visual guide to they/them, a brief history lesson, and ways to navigate the world and cope with difficulties for nonbinary or gender nonconforming people. I was distracted by the puns and jokes at times, but looking back it made this nonfiction resource more memorable if it had been dry and traditional. Highly recommend for anyone who uses they/them, are thinking about using they/them and who don’t use they/them...everyone should read this book. Thank you NetGalley and the publisher for the eARC in exchange for an honest review.

I read this book as an e-ARC via NetGalley in exchange for an honest review. Thank you so much to NetGalley and Sasquatch Books for the opportunity to read and review this story.

I’ll preface this review by saying that I am cisgendered and I use she/her pronouns. I am one of the highly privileged individuals who’s gender identity and expression (and sexual orientation) has never caused me discomfort for danger. My reading of this book is coming from the perspective of someone who is cis, privileged, and seeking to support and uplift GNC folks.

This book is wonderful. Truly, deeply, powerfully, wonderful.

Concise, witty, and the perfect blend of humor and data this is a great book to serve as an intro to gender identity. I was already aware of many of the topics discussed here, but I also learned some new things — did you know they has been used as a single person pronoun since 1375?!

Even though this work is short, there’s a lot of ground covered and it feels like everything has time and space for exploration.

Again, as a cis person reading this I really loved getting some examples of ways I can support the GNC folks in my life. I cannot wait to purchase a copy of this and share it with EVERYONE I know.

This book was incredible. Not only because it's informative, kind, funny and it's got a great rythm, but also because its author wrote this book for cis people both ignorant on the matter and people part of the LGBTQIA+ community that (always) need to learn more and better.

As a cis she/her lesbian, reading about gender is really important for me. I've read a lot LGBTQIA+ books (fiction, non fiction, illustrated guides like this one, etc) on sexual orientation and whatnot, and gender regarding trans women and men, but not enough on my non binary friends and their struggles, opinions and daily fights. Truth is that even if I didn't read much on the matter (and that's totally my fault for not searching hard enough), I also feel as if the non binary topics are not that present on books no matter the genre (as it might be, for example, on papers), and "How to they/them" came to fill that space (more like one of the spaces! We need more books on non binary topics and folks! They're always welcome!).

Not only I encourage everyone reading this review to read this book, but also double encourage you to do so if you feel like you're really ignorant on non binary folks' issues or have lots of questions. Stuart, the author, has a section on FAQs that were really useful for me-- I for example learnt that the non binary folks fall on the trans spectrum (since we live in a binary-- binaried, kinda? world) from my non binary friend like a couple of weeks ago, and it was a doubt I've had for a long time now. Well, guess what? This book covers it! And many more things! I'm 96% less ignorant on non binary people after reading this book!

(That last part reads as if I'm making fun of it, but I'm serious. There were only a couple of topics I already knew on this book. The amount and first-hand quality of the information is legit)

For real though, it's helpful for cis people and I bet it is for non cis people as well. Stuart invites us all to learn but also accepts us all under their wing and tells us a little about LGBTQIA+ history, a little about their (never ending) journey, a little about everything. We get the chance to be educated while having fun and also shines a light on us all: language is changing, we're changing, society is changing. Hopefully we won't have to wait until ten generations have passed to be a kinder world, but also an empowering, free society in which we'll be able to be authentic, happy and proud without having to explain ourselves.

For any LGBTQIA+ friend reading this: we want you here. You have a family within the LGBTQIA+ community. Our arms are wide open (and we give good hugs!)

What an amazing and educational guide to the pronouns They/Them, non binary, lgbtqiaapq, how to talk to younger ones/family members on pronouns , call in or call out when being misgender, dump gender tropes......

Because we're building a better world for the next generation. Or rather, maybe they're the ones building it?

The author uses they/them and I find it so informative even with the beautiful illustrations to grasp.
By using and acknowledging "they" we help challenge gender norms and learned social behaviors for every one.

Totally recommend this book for EVERYONE and wish it receives a wide audience, but especially in schools.

Special thanks to the publishers via netgalley for the eARC.
Expected publication date September 29 2020

are you ever unsure how to ask for someone's pronouns? do you feel like you don't know how to talk about someone, who uses they/them pronouns? this little guide will help you out!

4/5🌟: first of all, i'm glad that these kind of guides exist. i kinda wish they wouldn't have to, but it still is a great chance for people to educate themselves after all! i want to underline that this book was written by a person, who uses they/them pronouns, any other way would not have been okay! while i think the topic is super important, i didn't enjoy the tone of the book that much. it was too humourous for me. this is a very serious subject, people get disrespected and mistreated for being trans every day and a few funny lines here and there wouldn't have been
a problem, but the tone in general just goes too far for me. the guidelines are very intervowen with the author's personal experience, which i, as a non-binary person, couldn't always relate to. i think it would have been best to rather stick to objective matters. one more thing that bothered me was that the author doesn't explain that not every non-binary person wants to be called the word "enby", i wish they would have included that! nevertheless, this might be a good introduction to some, who have no idea how to handle all things non-binary and pronouns! it is so worth reading, please educate yourself.

thanks to netgalley i received an early digital access copy in exchange for an honest opinion.

This book is a great guide to they/them pronouns and non-binary genders. I love the author's sense of humour and how readable this book is. It would be a great place to start to learn how to support friends or colleagues who use they/them pronouns, or prepare for when you meet someone who uses them. It could also be a useful introduction for someone who is questioning their own gender and/or what pronouns feel right for them.

The author themself uses they/them pronouns, so the book is full of real life stories and examples. I liked the way they included answers to the questions people always ask. There's also a useful section on talking about pronouns and gender with kids, for parents/family/teachers.

I highly recommend this book to anyone considering reading or gifting it.

THIS BOOK WAS AMAZING. SUCH A DELIGHTFUL READ.

I wish this book was being taught at schools. It's enlightening, funny, and above all, significant. This book teaches us many, many things including:
- understanding gender fluidity
- explaining the difference of sex, gender identity, gender expression, sexuality, and more
- understanding how to support non-binary and genderqueer
- gender identity in other cultures and parts of the world
- AND SO MUCH MORE.

Gosh, this book is so precious. Everyone should be reading this, most especially straight and cisgender people.

And of course, kudos to the author and the illustrator! You made this book memorable.

It was a bit difficult for me to get into this book because of the tone, I think. It made me feel like it was talking to a little child at the beginning, but after I read more and got used to how Stuart was telling their story, it started clicking and I ended up enjoying it! The illustrations were wonderful, they made the book even more entertaining and gave it an extra touch that really improved it.
I loved how Stuart shared information about their personal life and used it to explain a lot of concepts that would have been difficult to understand without the appropriate context. In the end, this was very good: An excellent guide on EVERYTHING people need to know about they/them pronouns and how to use them correctly.

Stuart Getty's How to They/Them is a brief read that broadly answers a number of questions society has about using they and them as singular pronouns and delves into who can use them, why people use them, and the some of the history behind gender non-conforming pronouns. I would recommend this as a great initial guidebook; it explains a number of acronyms we see used on a daily basis that you may never have understood before, as well as great timelines and charts that I will definitely refer back to in the future. As someone who works with new crowds of people daily, I appreciated the "Some Tips for Professionals" pages as it explained alternative ways of phrasing that makes sure everyone feels included.

What a wonderful, informative and educational read! Stunning illustrations, easy language (as if having a conversation with a friend), author’s personal experiences and a bit of history - it is all in the book.
We should all truly work towards more inclusive world, where everyone can identify as they wish,

A great guide from the basics to more complex matters all around they/them pronouns and the people who might use them.

I liked the way it was illustrated and formatted. There is not much text per page, and the illustrations are simple. Both often cross the lines of where one page ends and another begins, which created a great flow and made it very engaging. It was an easy and fast read because of that which was great.

The writing fit that style. It was accessible not just from the way it started at the very basics, but also from the casuality of it and the humor it uses to ease you in. I did enjoy that humor, though I did find a couple jokes out of place, or maybe they just didn't hit the spot for me.

I liked the clear line it drew between gender and sexuality, which is something a lot of people still sort of struggle with. My favourite thing was that it repeatedly emphasized that every person is different, and that the same label or term can mean different things, and that it's always important to ask, while also noting that not everyone wants to be asked. It was also good that the author referred to themself and their own experience a lot, to show they are not universal while at the same time providing concrete examples.

I liked the focus on pronoun conversations, and how those can differ when you're talking to an adult versus talking to a kid, as well as that context and surrounding situation matters. It brought up things that I hadn't considered before.

Overall the book was rather on the surface on the most topics though. I would have liked more in-depth advice and examples and such especially on gender neutral language and how to deal with coming out.
Ultimately a great starter for both queer and non-queer people.

This is honestly the best guide to nonbinary genders and the use of they/them that I have read (and I am overly invested in that specific category of books). Stuart puts so much of themself in the book that it feels real and authentic, more than just a how-to-manual. The jokes can get a little cheesy at times, but overall the tone is light and funny. I love how well it's organized, you can easily go to a specific place for whatever you're looking for. The art is adorable. I'll be buying this as soon as it comes out, maybe a copy for some of my family members too. I recommend this to anyone curious about the use of they/them pronouns, anyone who uses them, all educators and medical professionals, and anyone who wants to be a better ally. Thank you, Stuart, for writing this.

I am so thankful I had the opportunity to review How to They/Them by Stuart Getty through NetGalley.
If you are trying to educate yourself about them/they, this is an excellent resource. It was accessible and easy to understand. While the author even states that their opinions/advice are not going to be the same for everyone and apply in all situations, it is a good stating point. I also appreciated all the illustrations and the humor sprinkled in.

This was a truly stunning, informative read! The illustrations were adorable and made learning even easier. I would definitely recommend this to people who know nothing about the topic as they will truly learn everything they need to know about it.

5/5 for a job well done.

This is a visual guide to the use of they/them pronouns and the spectrum of gender identities.
That means that we have a complicated topic broken down in small and manageable chunks which are accompanied by illustrations and graphics to make understanding easier.
This is not a graphic novel in the sense of having a plot that you can watch and read at the same time.

I liked that the very first thing was a pronounciation guide for speaking them, because you know, the English th sound is not found in every language and in my schooling was considered the mark of a top-grade pupil. When speaking to German native speakers in English, sink and think sound the same in many cases.

After the introduction of the words we have an introduction of the author, Stuart, and their journey of self-discovery. In an academic text, this would be the "why the author thinks they have the knowledge and authority to speak on this topic", the introduction of the speaker.
It's important. I came for a non-cis person speaking about this topic because some cis people tell me what they think if I want to hear it or not.

The main part is divided in three:
- theory (sex assigned at birth, gender identity, sexual orientation)
- practise (what to answer upon grammatical questions or questions in general)
- fun observations (queer history) and not so fun observations (things that suck)

Since I am non binary and have had to do my research, this book told me only a few new things, like terms for non binary identities in different cultures. It's always fun to learn more!
But I think that this is a great guide. It's aimed at:
- enby peole seeking validation
- curious people seeking a comprehensible explanation
- teacher's and parents who want to know how to approach this topic with children
- professionals that have non binary clients
- people who like doodles

It feels very inclusive. The history clearly states that the gender binary as we know it is a recent thing white people invented and that became big. The author tells us that when in doubt, just ask. When you make a mistake, apologise and go on. Just try to do your best.
Stuart even tells us that their view is that of a white westerner because that's what they are.

So, if you're wondering now if you should give this a go, I'd say yes.
If you're further wondering what my pronouns are: They/them. If you want to tell me your preferred pronouns, go on, I'll listen.

I recieved a copy of this book in exchange for a honest review.

I was so happy when I saw that the publisher granted me my wish! I immediately started reading this and finished it in one go.

I loved this! It's a really quick read, It's filled with facts, FAQ's and personal background stories of the author. I loved the illustrations and the personal anecdotes of the author really gave context to the information. Amazing. Informative. Important. A must read. Really recommend reading this when it comes out this September.

This book is amazing, educational, didactic and entertaining. Times change and these kinds of conversations become not only necessary, but something that should be mandatory.

Changing our language and worldviews can be a slow process, but it has to start somewhere. This book is perfect for any audience and a must in your bookshelf.