If you have lived your life doing what others wanted and ignoring your own desires, Then this book is for you.Not only will you learn about how beliefs, morals, and interests have run your life. You will also learn how to undo the shoulds that others have placed you, Ms Scott told her story. As I read I could only agree and remember how others also influenced me to do things that maybe werent in my interest. I think we all go through this in our lives. The absolutely best thing about Ms Scotts book is there are parts that are workbook oriented and are there for you to begn the healing journey for yourself. It can be done and I found myself remembering in my daily life to stop and think about my actions. Making sure they are mine, not my training.