I was first recommended this book by a friend whose therapist told her to read this. This book should be read by everyone, but especially people who may find something lacking in their relationships. This book can help you identify why you aren't making you're relationships work even though it feels like you're trying. I thought the information in this book is important and very relevant to people. I wish I knew about this years ago because this information in this book can really help make you recognize why relationships aren't working and what you can do to help change that. The book is well written and has tons of research and material to provide with evidence based on this theory. It also provides quizzes you can take to identify what type of relationship style you are (avoidant, anxious, or both) as well as your partner. I will admit I didn't take the quizzes, but that is due more to me knowing exactly which style I fall into. The only downfall of the book is that the information wasn't that hard to grasp, so the book could have just as easily been a short essay. I highly recommend this book for anyone who feels that they may need to understand their relationships better.

Thank you to Net Galley, the author and publishers for giving me a free ARC of this book in exchange for my opinion.

"Attached: the New Science of Adult Attachment and how it can help you find-and-keep love" by Amir Levine and Rachel S. F. Heller is a fun, easy to read (and understand), non-fiction book that engages readers to think about their attachment styles and how they affect our romantic relationships. Levine and Heller (influenced by the early research conducted by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth on attachment styles in children) relate the attachment styles individuals form as children to how we show up to our romantic partners in adulthood. The book opens with a general overview of the 3 attachment styles (avoidant, anxious, and secure), then follows with a mini quiz to help the reader identify where they may be situated within the attachment styles. From then on, the authors provide further overviews of these attachment styles and how they relate to one another when people from the same or different attachment styles come together romantically.

Having recently just begun dating after a long-lived dating hiatus, I found this book to be an extremely useful resource. It helped me identify my attachment style (which falls into a nice blend of both anxious and avoidant), and what I can do to formulate more secure attachments moving forward. It is also encouraging me to be more understanding of what others may be experiencing within their attachment style, and how that would work in relation to my own.

Given that this was a very easy to follow and informative non-fiction book that has shaped the way I am currently perceiving my relationships, I would give it a rating of 4/5. I find myself referring to the book with friends and family quite often since having read through it, and it has provoked some interesting talking topics with those around me. The mini quizzes had me feeling some nostalgic Seventeen Magazine quiz vibes, and the interactive “food for thoughts” at the end of each chapter were thought provoking and engaging. The only change I would make is to have added a bit more information on the avoidant attachment style. I would have enjoyed a bit more information on how those experiencing that particular attachment style could transition to a more secure base.

Thank you so much for the read, I am thankful to netgalley and the publishers for allowing me to read through a copy in exchange for an honest review.

Super helpful. book. Definitely worth reading to become more familiar with your attachment style. Will help in all relationships.

This was such a fantastic resource! Learning about the attachment styles was eye opening and interesting. Levine and Heller did a great job not only describing the attachment styles but also giving advice as to how best to navigate when you have a particular attachment style or if you partner has a particular attachment style. Highly recommended, great book!