The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend is My Girlfriend by Maddy Court is an advice book for LGBTQ+ individuals. The book is broken down into chapters based on topics. Each chapter has multiple Q&A sections around topics which are answered by different individuals. #TheExGirlfriendofMyExGirlfriendIsMyGirlfriend #NetGalley

The Ex-Girlfriend of my Ex-Girlfriend is my Girlfriend is a book borne out of a queer zine that focuses on advice for LGBTQ+ folks. Organized in different chapters based on general themes with multiple Q&As in each section, this book reads like a compilation of advice columns on romance, identity, sex and friendship.

Reading this made me appreciate being queer in all of its messy, complex, weird and beautiful ways. It also reminded me of all the ways we as queer and trans people have things so much harder than our cishet counterparts. At the same time, it provided me with hope and pride for all the ways in which we re-write the social scripts to find our forms of happiness.

I appreciated how different questions were answered by different people, depending on their identity and levels of experience/expertise. While many heavy themes were explored throughout, the book remained light and hopeful!

Wow, this book truly blew away my expectations. When I read the synopsis I knew I was intrigued and expected a kind, funny and accessible collection of answers to questions that many of us ask ourselves. And it definitely was that but it was so much more at the same time, it was earnest and nuanced, the book very clearly takes great care in its readers and offers them with the warm embrace of an older sister.

A new and fresh insight into what wlw relationships are nowadays as well as the advice needed to navigate them. One of a kind that will surely inspire a new wave of "growing up" books for the LGBTQIA+ community, you won't be able to put it down and once you finish it you'll feel like you were just in a sleepover with your friends.

Definitely the non-judgemental advice that is sorely needed by many.

There is a line from the author that I think sums up the purpose of this book perfectly: "even if you don't share someone's exact experiences, maybe you'll see your own life and feelings reflected back at you."
Reading through this collection of letters from readers, and the intelligent, sympathetic and warmhearted advice from the author and guest experts, it is clear that it doesn't matter who you are or what your life is like - other people recognise your feelings of love, heartbreak and confusion.
Reading this book is like having a D&M with a friend who will give you sensible advice, a warm hug, and a pep talk before sending you back into the world.

a great read for baby gays (and confirmed ones) in need of guidance. reminds me of the teen magazines i used to buy but ten times more inclusive. i loved the guest writers there to takeover some of the more sensitive questions, and the vibrant illustrations. the emphasis on queer community was especially heartwarming, can't wait for the gay bars to reopen <3

I received an eARC through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review

What first attracted me to this book was the humorous (to me at least) title. The book conveys exactly what the author promises: advice on queer dating.

It's divided on six chapters that cover many topics that are usually on everyone's minds like crushes, coming out, heartbreak, family and friends and so on.

A great choice on the author's part was to admit her shortcomings on specific subjects, recurring to guest experts to enrich and fulfil these knowledge gaps for a more complete and informed reading experience. The idea that what is described is based on many people's experiences makes it all more relatable and personable.

The illustrations were very cute and wholesome and the writing was clear and straightforward.

However, despite this book valiant efforts, it falls short in my eyes in a deeply important aspect: Diversity. Don't get me wrong there was a lot of diverse stories, diverse backgrounds, diverse ages, but then again not enough. One or two stories about bisexual women and even so, one wasn't about a bisexual person per se; one story about a disabled woman, maybe three stories about non-binary, gender non confirming people, one or two with trans women, etc. I didn't catch any reference to stories that came from queer women of colour for example. Even if there were too few examples of diversity in my opinion their stories were there and for that I'm very pleased since it shows how diverse LGBT people are and even with shared experiences some struggles are more prominent within a specific group.

Overall was a great experience and I look forward to it's publication and to more books about diverse queer women!

I’m glad this book exists for a number of reasons. It is hard to know what to do in situations where you feel like you’re the only one struggling and that there is nobody who can relate to what you’re going through. This book proves that is not true and there are people out there who have not only been through similar situations, but who want to be there for anyone who is currently struggling. This book deals with complex emotions and sensitive subjects, and it’s the kind of book that I think every queer new adult should have the chance to read. This is a book that I want to have around to reference, and that I will recommend to my friends, since the advice given in it is thoughtful and comes from people with diverse experience.

A fun, snarky, and heartfelt book of advice columns for Lesbians. I'm not the target audience for this book, but besides the fact that it has one of the best titles of any book I've read this year, it works for two reasons. First, it is fascinating to learn more about the social norms, stages, fears, hopes, in jokes, and expectations of a group of people that's different form me. And second, it's a great reminder for everyone that people who are different from you aren't that different from you. We are all human and love is love.

I'm a huge fan of Kelsey Wroten's illustrations, so as soon as I heard that a queer advice book was coming out with them included, I had to pick it up. first off, this book is so well designed, and the color palette is absolutely gorgeous. The questions inside are nuanced and real and the answers so well considered. I loved the inclusion of guest responders with experiences specific to the identities of the question-askers. The advice inside is heartwarming and hits home in many aspects. There are definitely phrases that I'll be saving and going back to at later times.

Mega-inclusive, meaningfully instructive and sympathetic where it matters, a mostly sapphic-specific solution-issuing mission that could surely stretch out into multiple installments. A wide batch of bright-eyed and blunt advice/warnings/words to the wise that a bunch of us will find bookmark-worthy, adorned with bubblegum-hued artwork to boot.

The title is all too real.

This book is like reading one of those magazine advice columns, except everyone who writes in to ask for advice is gay and the advice column writers are also gay and give advice that is both heartwarming and keeps it real.

As a non-binary lesbian, I found this title really affirming and a great resource for queer women and non-binary people. The LGBTQ community is so cis gay male-focused, and this book is a great divergence from that norm that uplifts the unique struggles queer women face—and gives some great advice in return.

In addition to the author Maddy Court, there are also several guest contributors who add a bit of variety to the writing and shows the author's commitment to intersectionality and not speaking over or for groups she does not belong to. Additionally, Kelsey Wroten has beautiful illustrations throughout the book that really adds something to the aesthetic.

I genuinely think this book is a great resource for all ages. As someone in my early twenties and out for over a third of my life, the section about coming out was not as helpful to me, but the sections on dating and heartbreak felt very poignant. This would particularly make a great gift for a young queer person, as I think this is a book someone could keep coming back to as their struggles and questions shift over time.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher, Chronicle Books, for the ARC in exchange for an honest review.

I love this book! i would put this in the hands of every wlw! the advice is so en pointe. the illustrations are eye catching. it’s a book that you will not be able to put down and you will read it in one sitting.

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questions‌ ‌asked‌ ‌and‌ ‌answered‌ ‌in‌ ‌this‌ ‌book‌ ‌feel‌ ‌very‌ ‌personal‌ ‌and‌ ‌
real.‌ ‌I‌ ‌don't‌ ‌think‌ ‌it‌ ‌matters‌ ‌what‌ ‌your‌ ‌sexuality‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌while‌ ‌reading‌ ‌
this,‌ ‌the‌ ‌advice‌ ‌given‌ ‌could‌ ‌relate‌ ‌to‌ ‌anyone‌ ‌and‌ ‌also‌ ‌help‌ ‌people‌ ‌
understand‌ ‌the‌ ‌wide‌ ‌world‌ ‌of‌ ‌Lgbtqia+.‌ ‌It‌ ‌is‌ ‌very‌ ‌heartfelt‌ ‌with‌ ‌beautiful‌ ‌
illustrations‌ ‌throughout.‌ ‌At‌ ‌times‌ ‌it‌ ‌was‌ ‌amusing,‌ ‌funny‌ ‌and‌ ‌definitely‌ ‌
enjoyable‌ ‌the‌ ‌way‌ ‌Maddy‌ ‌and‌ ‌guest’s‌ ‌give‌ ‌advice.‌ ‌But‌ ‌still‌ ‌a‌ ‌very‌ ‌
serious‌ ‌read‌ ‌that‌ ‌had‌ ‌me‌ ‌gripped.‌ ‌

After reading another review that said this was LGBTQ+ version of Ms. Manners, I was hooked. And, they were right! I loved the short stories, the advice, the amazing graphics. All of it is simply impeccable. It is something that I will keep as a reference and hand out as a recommendation.
Thanks to #NetGalley and the publishers of #TheExGirlfriendofMyExGirlfriendIsMyGirlfriend for the ARC in exchange for the honest review.

As a queer woman, I really felt this book ahaha. I think this could be a fun and entertaining read for all types of people however!

This was a cute book that helps give advise for sapphics in terms of dating from sapphics who are still in the closet to sapphics that have had well developed relationships.

I’ve followed Maddy on Instagram for a couple of years and was excited to see this book pop up on NetGalley.

In a book version of her zine series, the author answers questions from Queer women and non-binary people on love, life and different facets of moving through the world as an LGBT+ person. Her advice is heartfelt and clear, drawing on her own personal experiences. I appreciated the use of guest contributors to cover areas that they had more personal knowledge of, real effort has been made here to be intersectional and not to speak over the voices of different groups.

Colourful illustrations throughout add to the collection and make it a real pleasure to read. I’d recommend this book to Queer women and non-binary people, especially those who are either feeling stuck in a rut or who are closeted/ newly out.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing me with an advance copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

While I feel like this book wasn’t for ME, exactly... I was intrigued by advice that was given. I have recently come out as biromantic and I’m trying to find my footing there. I found that this was based more on the sexuality of the queer community, not the romantic side, but it was an interesting read and I can see how this would help someone who genuinely needed the advice. A great read and some awesome advice.

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Are you LGBTQ+ and wanted to ask Ms. Manners a question? This is the book for you. Do you feel all alone or wonder if others have the same question as you or you just need some advice? This is the book for you. You are not alone. This book is a resource you can use and there will be more just like it. Many of the questions are relatable and the answers can provide clarity for you. A one sitting read with amazing art.