Excellent book. Lots of really useful tips about how to relate to a narcissist. I especially enjoyed the insight into the offended spouse’s past to help with difficult interactions.

This is a book that gives clear examples and directions on how to deal with a difficult narcissist in your life, whether it is a friend, coworker/boss, spouse, sibling or parent. It explains reasons that person might behaving the way they do and the ways they respond the way they do, but it does NOT excuse them from being hurtful or abusive to those around them. It gives useful information on how to determine if cutting ties is best in an aggressive or dangerous situation as well as how to defuse or protect oneself in situations that may not be physically abusive but damaging to one's mental health and emotional well-being. I book-marked MANY passages to return to and have recently tried some of these suggestions with a stressful interaction, and found all of it to be beneficial.

This book should be required reading. Wendy T. Behary has created a kind and loving book for those who are connected to narcissists and gives help without judgment. A life-changing read that may just help you or someone you know.

This book contains helpful methods to help people to deal with a narcissist. One part of the book will help you to understand why the narcissist behaves the way they do. Another helpful thing I saw was how ways are listed for you to deal with your feelings when you are interacting with a narcissist and you feel frustrated. Another part I noticed was an explanation of ways that you can use to communicate with a narcissist when you are confronting them with their behavior. The book also addresses the fact that you could be dealing with a narcissist in different environments not just at home, for example in the workplace.

This book presents a unique-to-me approach to people who find themselves in a relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies. Grounded in brain-based research this book educates the non-narcissist in the relationship to examine their own vulnerabilities and trigger points in order to understand the nature and origins of the pain or panic they feel after a narcissistic eruption. To understand the pain-panic response is something related to the original difficult experience felt back in childhood (as a child would) and to remember "that was then, this is now" and I don't have to respond that way any longer. This knowledge and understanding works in is also useful in viewing the narcissistic partner more objectively and possibly with a certain amount of empathy.

I always struggle with the migraine-inducing eye roll scenarios and dialogues presentedin this type of book, and this book is no exception, although to the author's credit, she acknowledges the sample dialog is unlikely to work.

I learned a great deal from this book about how narcissists behave and how to identify different types of narcissism. As an adult child of a narcissist parent, I have only recently begun to understand the complexities that go along with navigating a healthy relationship with my mom . This book has given me some new tools to use in my continuing efforts to help her and to protect myself. Boundaries are crucial, as well as recognizing triggers. I found the examples given in this book really show good examples of how to make these relationships more palatable. I'm so happy to have had the opportunity to read abs learn from this book.

Great explanations and information for people in relationships or communicating with narcissists. Would recommend

This book actually gave me some very good insights into narcissist behavior. I am dealing with one myself, but not in a relationship but in the family. This book is focused on relationships, but it gives enough information to deduct and fit into your situation.

So, happy to have read this book and can recommend should you need some more tips on how to deal with a narcissist. Seems nobody can actually defeat them (you need to run.. and fast) but disarming them is a good second.

Unfortunately, as the daughter of a narcissist rather than someone in a relationship with one, this book wasn’t exactly what I was looking for. Regardless though, the authors definitely made some points that made me feel slightly less alone in my experiences and I think this is an important book for people finding themselves in relationships with narcissists and struggling to deal