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This is a great, informative read about how to care for yourself if you're dealing with emotionally immature parents. It gives helpful descriptions of what you might be feeling and tips on how to handle these things. I found it both informative and helpful.
Such a great read! Loved this one!
Many thanks to the author, the publisher, and NetGalley for my ARC.
There was some helpful advice in here, however a lot of it seemed very generic and information I could find from other, more-informed sources.
Lindsay Gibson tackles a very difficult topic for many people...how to take care of yourself after growing up with the lesson that you aren't good enough. After reading the first book about Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, this book is a much needed balm for the wounds that many of us carry from our childhoods. I found the information in this book to be practical, helpful, and healing. There are many things we cannot control in this world, including the choice of who raises us. However, there is hope that we can find the love and maturity in ourselves and from others we choose to keep in our lives, so that we can grow past our history. This book is one that has helped me on that journey.
Thank you NetGalley and the publisher for providing this Advanced Reader's Copy in exchange for my honest review.
I feel like self care is so hard, especially when you have immature parents. When they don't know about how to deal with their emotions, the children don't learn. I work hard to deal with my childhood and raise my children better.
A very late review, but I really enjoyed reading this. It hit way too close to home most of the time, which was a bit painful, to be honest, but I feel like this is a very complete and instructive book, and a good example of quality works in the self-help and psychology genres.
What an awesome read! Not only did I learn more about how I was brought up and why I do or say some of the things that I do, but I learned just how easy it is to pass along these kinds of negative beliefs to my children.
One important thing I noticed, this book not only applies to adult children but also applies to our other relationships; our partners, spouses. I wasn't even 10% into the book when I noticed just how much the book relates to our intimate relationships as well.
I think anyone who is considering starting a family should read this book. The stories and insights to living with EI parents can be used for prospective parents to avoid falling into the trap of inadvertently teaching their children that putting their own needs first is selfish.
This book is easy to read, practical and offers much in the way of material for serious self reflection. I like that I don't have to read the book in a particular order and can pick the chapters that are most pressing. For people who struggle with their own emotional maturity, this book is super helpful in identifying the types of EI parents you may have had and suggestions for coping. While it's not the end all of books on EI, it is a great step in the right direction towards overcoming Ei related symptoms/issues.
Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents is a great book for anyone interested in self care or psychology. I found so many of the pieces of advice to be incredibly helpful and shared what I learned with many in my life. I would recommend this book to anyone, even those that may not think they had "emotionally immature parents" because I believe it would still be beneficial to them.
This came at the perfect time for me because of the holiday's. It helped me tremendously and I am now passing the recommendation on to all my friends.
I am a highly sensitive person and I generally am okay with it. I feel I have a handle on my reactions but there’s always room for improvement. One thing I could work on is composing myself and my reactions. This was a great read. It really hit home for me. I never want to let me emotions get into my work life but it can be difficult. This book gave me a great perspective that I’ll be working hard to apply.
This is a short but dense book packed full of tips and thoughts to consider. Although it is supposed to be aimed at adult children of emotionally immature parents, I think the material in it applies to anyone and everyone. Most of the advice is very general material that anyone could benefit from, such as: handling relationships; self-esteem; burn-out; introverts and extroverts; parenting; dealing with failure.
This book would have benefitted from being more targeted. A clear introduction explaining what is meant by 'emotionally immature parents' would have been very useful - I often found myself thinking 'do I have emotionally immature parents or not? what would that look like?' It would have been useful to have guidance on what traits or behaviours these parents might display and how they can be identified. From what I gleaned, the whole point is that these types of parents are good at playing games, so you might not be able to spot them!
Often several pages passed without any mention of emotionally immature parents, and this definitely felt more like a general self-help book on how to live a fulfilling life. A lot of the material was great, but it was too far-reaching. I think it could have made several, more focused books with clear topics.
I took some really useful advice from this book, but I am not sure it achieved what it set out to do.
I was a huge fan of Lindsay Gibson’s first book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. When I saw that she had written a new book on the same topic, I was eager to read it but because her first book had been so in-depth I was skeptical about whether it would cover any new ground.
It turns out I needn’t have worried because as I found out after finishing Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence, Dr. Gibson has a wealth of new information to share. In her first book, the author focused on helping readers understand the characteristics and parenting styles of emotionally immature parents and their effect on the now-adult children they raised.
Her new book is a natural followup in that it focuses on adult survivors (like me) who were raised by emotionally immature parents and offers practical and insightful guidance on a wide range of issues such as dealing with difficult people, building better relationships with ourselves, how to cope with stress and set boundaries, and, most importantly - at least for me - how to self-nurture.
The author has an excellent writing style that is both down-to-earth and empathetic. As someone who myself often thinks and speaks in metaphors, I was pleased at Dr. Gibson’s use of metaphor. For example, she equates the damaging parenting style of emotionally immature parents to, among other things, programming their children’s lives with malware. She also provides reassurance that “DNA is not a life sentence” and assures us that just because one was raised in a toxic home does not mean that one is doomed to never have a normal and happy life.
I cannot recommend this book highly enough to anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional home and was forced to not only parent themselves but also forced into spending their childhood parenting the people who were supposed to be parenting them.
I have loved all of Lindsay Gibson's books, and this one was no exception. I loved how accessible the self-care tips were and how she treats her readers with care. Highly recommend as a follow-up to her other Emotionally Immature Parent books.
This book was gripping. I was sucked in and could not put it down! The concept was so unique, I loved this book.
"To be emotionally healthy you have to be as available to yourself as you would with someone you love."
There are three parts: Protecting & Caring for Yourself, Dealing with People, and Coping with Challenges. Each of those sections are broken down further to address different situations or issues into bite-sized chapter's so it isn't overwhelming. The author discusses how internalized behaviours you've picked up from your emotionally immature parents impact your romantic relationship's but also relationships with your children or co-workers. There's a good balance between self-reflection and focusing on interaction's with others.
I find the advice given is gently delivered and practical. Although, it's easily used to address overcoming a person's past, it can also be applied to your current situation and as a means to shape the future you would like see.
"If you don't create and manage your own story, someone else may write it for you."
I recommend this book to anyone whose negative childhood has lingered with them into adulthood or are concerned about repeating their parent's emotionally immature mistakes. The advice is also applicable to anyone that may just want to break themselves of self-defeating habits.
Thank you Netgalley and the publisher for giving me a advance readers copy in exchange for a honest review. All quotes come from an uncorrected arc and may change.
Having read Dr. Gibson’s previous books on this subject, I was really excited to get a copy of her latest, “Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”. This much-needed reference is broken into bite-sized reads perfect for reading, absorbing and referring back to along the reader’s journey to healing the inner-child. Recommend very highly to any struggling with their childhood memories of parental neglect, abandonment and toxicity. Much more work needs to be done in this important area, rather than the “pill-pushing” so very rampant today! My sincere thanks to the publisher, author and Net Galley for the e-ARC, which I was gifted in exchange for an honest opinion. This review to be published around pub date on Amazon. - link to come!
Empowering and validating, this book is nourishment for the soul.
It's broken into three sections; Protecting and caring for yourself, Dealing with people and Coping with challenges. Each section covers a myriad of circumstances that life may present with and either practical solutions or advice for dealing with these challenges.
Great at instilling confidence, this book gives people the power and the resources for self-care and dismisses many false beliefs that may have been built up by Emotionally Immature people, not just limited to parents. It also addresses the concerns that many adult children of EI people have of treating their own children in a similar fashion. Gibson's advice is reassuring and empowering. It offers validation, reassurance and practical ways to reframe situations and also some scripts to use with difficult people. Often unseen, this shines the spotlight on adult children who need the confidence and the permission to practice self-care and allows them to shine.
This is wonderfully practical, useful information for people who may not have had emotional intelligence modeled or taught to them as children. It's broken into manageable sections and topics, so the reader can really delve into each piece and work through each concept without getting overwhelmed.
I really appreciated the affirmation that "DNA is not a life sentence" and that family, and the toxic pattens it may contain, isn't something that is inescapable. I also liked the distinction made between self-care and self-indulgence, which is as important lesson to absorb. The section on how to approach children/parenting is also very valuable for those who want to create new stories going forward.
Many thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review!
Coming to terms with the fact that you were raised by emotionally immature parents is one thing— finding coping mechanisms and recovering such an upbringing is another story.
In this helpful guide, Gibson provides helpful and practical strategies for how best to move forward and to care for yourself while doing so.
A must read for anyone who's also read Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents.