An interesting assortment of essays on being single and the search for a mate in modern upper middle class America. Some interesting personal stories, but there are other books/essays around on this topic and it didn’t feel earth shattering in its insight.

I guess I'm going to have to write the book I want to read on this subject. The author and I might as well have been born in different centuries, rather than 25 years apart. Not one thing that she said resonated with me, aside from the "stigma" of being single, and her search for love has been a very very different journey from mine.

I'm sure there are readers in their 30s who will enjoy this book. It was a two-star book for me but I give it three stars because of that belief. It's a memoir about being lonely, sad, and sorry for yourself. Lots of suggestions to change (lose weight! get in shape! be nice to yourself!) so that someone can love you. I did not relate to the author at all (and in fact did not feel much patience with her). The final pages seemed to contain filler (about Covid, universal healthcare, incels, and how society can transform so people are less lonely) that felt like it existed to reach a certain page count. You can tell she is a blogger used to writing something even when she doesn't have anything to say.

I read an advance reader copy from Netgalley, and I was offered the chance to read the book by someone at Penguin Random House in exchange for an honest review. Thank you.

A thoughtful and insightful study of living life as perennially single. Without a significant other, women are thought less -of and minimized. It seems that being part of couple is culturally the "right" way to be. What happens to a person who never makes that connection? What happens to loneliness when all the reaching out and initiating and pursuing are for naught? Compassionate discussion and honest confrontation of these issues.

I really wanted to read this book because I think I'm the target audience as I've been single a long time and have no intentions of changing and that being said, it started out amazing and I was really looking forward to hearing about the topic, etc. But then I felt like it lost it's way and ended up being about how she was going to find somebody to spend her life with and what were her tips? Lose weight, get in shape and change her hair? Really, so change everything about yourself to make yourself what somebody else would find dateable instead of embracing who you are and finding somebody who wants you for who you currently are? After that it got completely redundant with one date after the next and I guess I was expecting it to be more insightful.