I always find it a little tricky to rate and review what is essentially someone's life experiences however I sit somewhat on the fence after reading this title.

While I felt like there were a handful of helpful passages in this book, I couldn't help but feel like so much of it was nothing new, and at times it felt a little cringey and read as if it was a 5 minute magazine article or mental health leaflet that you pick up in a doctor's office - in short, that, sure, that sounds great in an ideal world but the reality for many people doesn't easily fit into nice neat boxes all the time.

I also found it a little hard to relate to parts of what the author spoke about, as she admittedly said she was writing from her personal experience of someone who is quite privileged and had a strong support network around her. I just feel like this isn't the case for such a huge amount of people that it would perhaps make some pieces of advice somewhat intangible.
I would have loved to see more included about different attachment styles and how that can play into relationship anxiety and also perhaps how generational trauma and growing up around toxic relationships can impact your own relationships later in life.

In terms of layout, however, I thought it was concise and to the point. Each chapter included a bullet point summarised list of main points to review, which some people might find helpful.

This is an excellent look at how overthinking and doubting can cause issues in relationships, especially when one person lives with a mental illness that prevents them from blocking out the intrusive thoughts that cause the doubts to appear in the first place. Obsessive compulsive disorder exists as nonstop intrusive thoughts, so having this book available helps shed some light on an otherwise misunderstood issue.

I've been a big fan of Allison for a long time now, and wish she could be my therapist, so this book is like the next best thing. Allison uses both her own experience and information from licensed professionals to discuss OCD and anxiety in relationships.

Overthinking About You was not the experience that I was looking forward to. There was much contained in this book in which I did not think would be and I guess my expectations were just a little different going in as a 42 year old woman. I think that if you are in your 20's or early 30's this may end up being the perfect fit.

What a great book! I'm a fan of Allison so I kinda knew what to expect, but this book exceeded my expectations. It was a great read, filled with funny moments, personal stories, and advice about dating with OCD/anxiety/depression. I really appreciated the fact that advice from psychology experts was included in the book. My only critique is that a couple of jokes fall flat and I wish the book was longer! All in all I would recommend it to anyone even remotely intrigued by the theme of the book.
Thanks to NetGalley and Workman Publishing Company for an advanced reader copy.

A good introduce to relationships and mental health. I haven't seen any other titles like this and the humor was refreshing.

I remember Allison from her YouTube days and really enjoyed her collaboration with Gaby on <em>I Hate Everyone But You </em>. Allison is a gifted writer and this book would be appropriate for anyone seeking relationship advice. Very funny but not trite.Also very down to earth. I would recommend this for every public library.
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An insightful book that unpacks the how and the why we overthink. Dating can be hard and advice is often bad but I think really acknowledging dating anxiety was really helpful and I think important.

Thank you to Netgalley for the chance to review the book. I wish I had a book like this to read earlier in my life. I would have wasted a lot less time on people who weren't meant to play a significant role in my life. I learned a lot from this funny, easy to read, self-help memoir. The book offered me many tips on how to understand and combat my tendency to overthink about love, romance and basically just learn how to better relate to the people in my life. I highly recommend it.

My review is also here - https://www.amazon.com/review/R1VCAK83DTMPLP/ref=cm_cr_srp_d_rdp_perm?ie=UTF8

Thanks to Netgalley and publishers for a copy of this ebook!
This was my first book by Allison Raskin, and to be honest I hadn't known of her prior to reading it.
But I found this book to be an absolutely amazing read. It was wonderful to be able to read and relate to the authors experiences in relationship's, and gave me a lot of uh huh moments. I've taken a lot of her advice and have started dating again, after almost a year of solitude, and I have to thank Allison's book for helping me reach that point.
I want to read more of her work now!

This is as much a memoir as a self-help book. Some may find that a bit frustrating as they are not invested in the author's personal experiences, while others may find it profoundly validating to realize someone has had the same thoughts and experiences as they did. YMMV.

Along with personal anecdotes, the author does cite research and quote from interviews with experts. Key takeaways are listed as bullet points at the end of every chapter, which is helpful. Each section also begins with trigger warnings for readers with sensitivities. This is a detailed and well-researched exploration of the interplay between anxiety disorders and relationships and I think anyone who lives with or loves someone with these challenges would benefit from giving this a read.

Many thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review!

When I saw this book featured in a Smart Bitches, Trashy Books email newsletter, I instantly wanted to read it. Not because of the publisher’s blurb, but more for the potential that I thought the book could have. In fact, I wanted to read this book so badly that I requested it on NetGalley (despite the lengthy to be read list that I already have with them). A miracle occurred: they granted my request!

I am so happy to have read this book: at about 75% complete, I pre-ordered five copies to give to friends. And that was before reading the sex chapter. Now that I’ve finished it, I’m thinking of even more friends who could benefit from reading it. Of the two dozen or so books that I’ve already ready this year, this one was the most worthwhile.

So why am I so enthusiastic about promoting a book that the publisher’s blurb describes as humorous personal anecdotes laced with expert advice? Primarily because it rang so true to my personal experience with occasionally debilitating mental health issues. And because the publisher’s blurb is wrong: it’s mostly advice from a variety of experts, which is illustrated by examples (humorous and otherwise) from the author’s personal dating experience. Because the book handled both mental health and sexual health is a positive nonjudgmental fashion that identified and debunked the social stigma surrounding those issues. Because the overall message was one of self-love, kindness, and compassion, which is what I really needed to hear this week. And finally because the majority of the discussion was applicable to every personal relationship - romantic or platonic, deep or shallow, ephemeral or long-standing. The perspectives offered in this book are equally applicable if you struggle with your own mental health or if you are in a personal relationship with someone who might.

I received this book as a digital advance reader copy provided by NetGalley in exchange for an honest opinion.

Thanks to NetGalley and Workman Publishing Company for an advanced reader copy.

I’ve followed Allison Raskin around the internet since the Buzzfeed days, so I was excited to read her book after seeing her be so public about her mental health struggles. Her voice is very clear in this and I could hear her sense of humor come through.

The parts of this book that really shone were the personal stories that Allison shared. Though the book is clearly well-researched with a variety of mental-health and relationship professionals, it got a bit clinical and info-dumpy. But I thoroughly enjoyed the portions where Allison shared her own experiences and foibles in dating.

I think this is an excellent book for people to read regardless of their relationship status; many of the key takeaways from the book have less to do with dating and more to do with self-acceptance and advocacy. It’s something you can read all at once but also refer back to as you play the dating game.

I received a complimentary copy from the publisher and all opinions expressed are entirely my own.

This book was a timely self-help/memoir on living with anxiety ,OCD and Depression. It was a love letter of sorts that's also inspiring and I appreciated how the author would include trigger warnings before it actually got into depth. Loved that the book was written in a conversational way and was honest and raw.

A more specialized text, OVERTHINKING ABOUT YOU by Allison Raskin focuses on "Navigating Romantic Relationships When You Have Anxiety, OCD, and/or Depression." Raskin, co-host of the Just Between Us podcast, describes her text as "a blend of memoir and self-help." She writes very conversationally with direct appeals to the reader and even provides trigger warnings for sections which deal with self-harm or body image issues. Although this text would likely be of more interest to students slightly older than ours in high school, Raskin does refer frequently to mental health experts and suggests a number of calming and/or self-reflection exercises. She also includes a list of resources, particularly for those who are part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

Thank you for the opportunity to read and review "Overthinking about you" by Allison Raskin. This is the second of her books for me, and I've really enjoyed the shift as she's gone through some challenging life experiences and begun to (by all appearances) both examine her struggles/flaws and also become more empowered. Interested to see where this journey takes her.

This book was a really honest look at dating with mental health conditions. If you’ve followed Allison on any of her social media, listened to her podcasts, YouTube channel, or remember her from buzzfeed, then you’ll be able to read this book in her voice. Her humor is in every chapter. I find her humor enjoyable, but it might not be for everyone.

Allison gets a lot of advice from different health professionals and even some input from matchmakers added to each chapter. It’s a great mix of professional input and personal experience. She also has some stories from her friends.

A lot of the book does focus on how to improve your mental health enough to be in a relationship. It also focuses on imitating dating, healthy dating, and what to do when it doesn’t work out. Most of the advice is palatable and realistic. It does acknowledge the privilege involved in being able to receive mental health services.

The book is aimed at people dating more towards the before and beginning of a relationship, but I found a lot of the information to be applicable to my already established relationship. One of my favorite things I read in this book talked about how everyone had an inner voice. A lot of people with mental health diagnosis have 2. One being your inner voice and the other being your illness. The one that’s your illness is not your personality. It’s ok to get help to quiet that voice and be who you really are.

Trigger warnings: mentions of self harm and suicidal ideation

As a fan of Allison Raskin and Just Between Us, I was excited to read her memoir/guide for navigating dating and new relationships while managing OCD/depression/anxiety. Even though I'd been married for several years before a prolonged illness "broke" my brain and ramped up my mild anxiety, I still found the book funny, insightful, and helpful. I wish I had it ten plus years ago when I was trying to figure out how to communicate needs to partners or even two years ago when I was trying to decide whether to medicate, go to therapy, or both. One of the therapists interviewed in the book suggests having your partner attend a therapy session with you or let them have a mini-session with your therapist to get some of their questions about their partner's mental illness addressed, which is such a great idea that I'd never thought of, somehow. I only wish there had been even more stories and (book) resources!

I really liked how the author blended her personal history with research and interviews. it felt informative but still personal. Definitely a book that will help a lot of people.

Okay let's be honest, I haven't been on a date in 2 years since becoming single. I can guarantee majority of the reason is due to the anxiety around dating again and relationships as a whole. This book gave me alot of encouraging insight. I believe the author put in some touchy subjects but her transparency about them truly made me enjoy this book even more. I think after reading this, I'm more confident and understanding to my anxiety to be actually able to try dating sometime in the future! Good book for those suffering with helpful insight.