Such a great book. Was fascinating to read more about Rachel Lindsay’s life pre the Bachelorette and get her mindset related to relationships and career

Thank you to Netgalley and the publisher for my digital copy in exchange for an honest review. I requested this one because I love biographies and memoirs and I love Bachelor Nation...But I am not going to lie...I did not love this book. The only reason it is getting anything higher than a two is because I loved her season. This book was all over the place for me and as I am sitting here, I am realizing that I didn't like most of it. The parts where she is complaining about anything that happened on the Bachelorette after having seen these things when she was on the Bachelor...I am not a fan of doing things knowing you probably won't like them or you think they are wrong or whatever...I mean, I get that she was the first black Bachelorette and props for that...but anything that happened on her season (besides the behind the scenes parts that happened BECAUSE she was the first black bachelorette) she had to have known was coming...and I understand there is racial tension still and this World is a horrible place and we need to start somewhere...raise awareness...but for me, part of the problem is that we ARE still using words like black and white...why can't we all just be people? And I stopped counting how many times she used the words white people...raise awareness for everyone...not just white people...this book honestly made me feel ill reading it and it wasn't just because I was hearing accounts of the horrible things "white people" have done. We have ALL done horrible things and are they any less bad if it is Mexican against Asian, Black against Indian, White against Mexican? Wrong is wrong...put ALL of the bad guys away, regardless of color. The problem is not just white people.

This book took me a while to get into as I found it started really slow but it did pick up by the middle. I also didn't always love the ordering of the book but it did feel intentional if that makes sense. Like most books written in essay forms there were some that resonated with me way more than others and that is what I like about them!! If one isn't sticking you can move on to the next. Overall a strong debut.

I've loved Rachel since her first appearance on The Bachelor and even more so after The Bachelor franchise where she found her footing as a host and interviewer. She has such a great way of relating with people and is such a strong storyteller. I was excited to read her memoir when it came out and it didn't disappoint. Can't wait to read her novel soon!

As an old fan of The Bachelor and a new fan of Higher Learning, I had high expectations for this book. The highs were so high-- I loved her nuanced take on the success and huge missteps with the Bachelor and her vulnerability talking about the role race played in her childhood. But I found it too long and redundant at points, and some of her takeaways from her prior relationships felt dated and disappointingly heteronormative.

I love Rachel Lindsay, but I think I just wasn't in the right place for this book or expected something slightly different from it. The linear memoir is understandable, but it would've been interesting to have the timelines sort of reflect each other, with a younger Lindsay in one chapter compared and contrasted to the Lindsay in the next. That's just my own opinion. Again, it's not that I didn't enjoy the book. I also didn't finish it, though. Between my own mixed feelings on Bachelor Nation and Lindsay's choice to distance herself from them (and the way that was shown a bit in the book), I just didn't have the mental or emotional capacity to get through this one. But I'm still giving it 3 stars because what I read was good and because I think it was very much a personal taste and headspace situation.

This book was received as an ARC from Random House Publishing Group - Ballantine - Ballantine Books through Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. Opinions and thoughts expressed in this review are completely my own.

I am familiar with Rachel's season of the Bachelorette and when she was on as a contestant during Nick's season. i did not watch either season, but after reading Miss Me With That, I wished I gave Rachel's season a chance. While reading the book, I felt like I would've appreciated the book more than her season because the book provided the environment for her to be open, honest with issues that would've never made the cut on the TV show. My perception of Rachel changed, after I read this book. I first saw her as a loud, outspoken, conceited woman, but at the end of Miss Me With That, I see a strong, determined, kind, and a woman that is well deserving of happiness. Everyone will feel inspired when they finish reading the book.

A strong book from a woman that persevered through one of the toughest industries conveying a powerful message to inspire all. This book deserves 5 stars.

Rachel Lindsay is the only Bachelor alum with something worthwhile to say, and she does it in an encompassing, well-written way that other Bachelor "authors" fail to do.. I already admired Rachel's career path and how she represented herself throughout recent Bachelor Nation controversies, and this insight into her life and thoughts was very enjoyable.

Come for the Bachelor Nation tea, stick around for sage advice and wisdom. I appreciate how candid Rachel was willing to be about many aspects of her life.

A queen and a half. I’d honestly read anything rachel wrote but I’d LOVE anything as emotionally honest and hilarious like this.

i’ve been eagerly anticipating miss me with that since rachel lindsay’s essay for new york magazine last year, and it did not disappoint. this was an honest, vulnerable memoir that covered a lot of ground, from rachel’s childhood to her relationships and career before the bachelor to her time with the franchise and life afterward.

you don’t need to be a bachelor viewer to appreciate rachel’s insight and humor, but as a longtime fan i loved how frank she was about the issues within the franchise and its fanbase. while i think certain parts could have been trimmed down, the entire book was characteristically candid and well-written.

Love Rachel Lindsay. Love this book. She really tells it like it is and I loved all of the insider stories. My only critique is it felt very long and she could have benefitted from an editor cutting the stories down.

I preordered this book when I saw it come out and also received a copy from NetGalley. Rachel has always felt like the breath of fresh air in the Bachelor franchise and always felt the most normal.

Her book is real and raw, exactly as I suspected it would be. Rachel’s candor and quit wit show through the whole book.

I think she also tries to blend in real and raw issues that face the country in a way that really makes you think.

I recommend it to anyone who liked Rachel as the bachelorette, but if you’re not a fan of the franchise this may not be the book for you.

I received a copy of this book through NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

I wasn't familiar with Linday's time on the Bachelorette, but was curious to hear about her experience and the behind the scenes.

The maybe first third of this book was about Linday's relationships pre-Bachelor and her experiences growing up. I was surprised how much of the book focused on the other men in her life and how little was actually about life post-Bachelorette. There were also a few times that there was a solid chapter that I thought would be the end of the book but there were a few more that didn't tie up the book like I expected.

The book and lessons themselves were fairly interesting. Lindsay is very vulnerable and open about her past relationships and how she's grown over time. She shares lessons she's learned along the way to her marriage.

I was absolutely thrilled to read an advanced copy of “Miss Me With That.” Rachel Lindsay was the lead of my favorite season of “The Bachelorette” and I was immediately interested when her memoir was announced. I already had so much respect for her and I was thrilled to read about her time before, after and during her time on reality TV.

I loved learning more about her life (I had no idea she had a legal internship with the Milwaukee Bucks – amazing!). “Miss Me With That” is vulnerable as Rachel shares experiences and dating stories that may not always show her in the best light – but in a honest and funny way. This memoir focuses more on her time outside of “The Bachelor(ette)” but Rachel still sprinkles in enough behind-the-scenes details about the show to keep fans interested, such as how the casting process worked for her.

As a recent guest on Danny Pellegrino’s podcast “Everything Iconic,” Rachel explained that she wanted people to understand “how I got to be the person that I am today, how I got to the show, the struggles that I had, the hot mess that I was in my 20s… and I wanted people to walk away and say, ‘Wow I didn’t really know Rachel before’… but I also wanted them to relate to me through some of my experiences.” And she completely delivers on each of these points.

“Miss Me With That” was smart and refreshing – especially for a Bachelor Nation memoir! I was already a fan of Rachel and this memoir was exactly what I wanted.

Love Rachel Lindsey, couldn’t get into the narration of this book. I’m not a big memoir reader and thought I’d give it a try for her but it’s not my thing

A nice look inside of Rachel’s head - from her experience on the bachelor to before & beyond. Rachel is so level headed it’s always interesting to hear her thoughts & opinions.
A must read for any bachelor fan.

This book was super interesting. Rachel Lindsay as gone from one of the most loved Bachelorettes in history to one of the "most controversial" as she finds herself commenting (and rightfully so) on the goings on of Bachelor Nation. This was an interesting peek into why Rachel has done and said the things she has done.

Rachel is so much more than The Bachelorette. I am so glad that we are getting the opportunity to see all of who Rachel is. She is vulnerable, honest, and straight to the point. What a fabulous memoir. I can't wait to hear more from her in the future!

I think it is tough to write a good Bachelor memoir, because the women writing them often seem to feel the need to try to prove their intelligence or justify why they went on the show, while readers usually just want the gossip. I do really respect Lindsay for being willing to call out the franchise for how they fail BIPOC contestants though.