I cannot say enough about this book. Adulting is hard, and sometimes we feel like no one else in this world understands how we feel, or feels the way we do. This book disproves that! Amy and Jess do an excellent job of describing life’s ups and downs as adults, and why maintaining friendships seems to get harder as we get older. I learned so much - not just about friendships, but about myself. I’ve learned things I need to work on and have made a commitment to nurture my friends who are there for me. This book was EVERYTHING. I thank the authors for truly helping me with life and more importantly for making me know I am not alone.

Becoming isn’t easy. Amy Weatherly

This book was a tough read. That’s about as honest as I can get without breaking down sobbing. Sad tears. Healing tears. Hopeful tears. I will admit - it was tough to give this 5 stars. It deserves it - but this book was hard! Did I mention that?

It got extremely confrontational with my own loneliness & held no mercy as it held a mirror up to why that is. I love how raw and humble Amy is. I struggled connecting with Jess in her chapters. They quite frankly left me feeling... well, worse. She finally, sort of, connected with me in chapter 11.

My loneliness was dragged out - kicking and screaming - and put under a spotlight. Jess often referred to many friends or years of friendships; then would say how she did it. She never come across to me as someone who struggled with making friends or being lonely - just someone who’s got it all figured out which made her difficult to connect to.. and maybe rub some salt in this lonely wound of mine.

Amy, on the other hand, was right there with me so I didn’t feel so alone as I struggled with some hard hitting realizations.

I’m not going to penalize this book any stars because of the struggles it brought up for me. I think that’s exactly why it deserves the 5 stars.

This holds a treasure trove of great information plus hope that it’s not too late to create the space you carry with you, put yourself out there, and invite others in. (It does not leave you hanging naked in your loneliness!)

The only thing I felt like was left out that needed a place in there was a paragraph about what kind of people to invest in. I think it should be noted that it’s also important to be that kind of person as well. It’s important enough I don’t think it should be left unsaid. It’s the only thing I found lacking aside from my inability to connect with one of the authors.

I have preordered a hard copy of the book, plan to get the study guide & host a casual book club that starts with this book.

Where to begin. This book is going to be such a game changer for all women. First of all, if you’ve found yourself as a woman in search of fulfilling friendships, and just have no idea where to begin, this book is the book for you. If you’re in a time of hurt and rejection from past friendships, this book is for you. If you think friendships aren’t for you, and that you won’t ever find your “tribe” - this book is for you. If you’re looking for ways to deepen your current friendships to a real and raw level, this book is for you. And, if you’re in the thick of deep friendships, have cultivated spaces for raw, unfiltered, honest friendships and in general, just want to continue with a guide for bettering yourself - this book is for you. Amy and Jess are here to guide you along the rough patches and the beautiful spaces that friendships undoubtedly will go through. They’re here to remind you that God has created you with purpose and that it certainly means you don’t have to go through this life without the deep connections we ALL crave. They’re here to remind you, we’re all imperfect but friendships are just made of two imperfect people and that’s what makes them all so beautiful, and also attainable. If you don’t have the deep friendships with women who will remind you what it’s all about, they’re here to do, and be that for you. You’re not alone, and sister, they’re here to show you. This is a book that will make you laugh, cry, and dig deep within yourself to the places you might’ve stashed away for no one to see.. over and over again. You won’t be able to put it down, and I couldn’t recommended it more.