oh my gosh a “self-help” book that actually helped…
Here are some of the best things I got from this book!

1. Asking doesn't make you a bad person because at the end of the day ... How you ask > How much you are asking for.
2. The most successful people are 'givers' but at the same time, they are the least successful too. The difference between the two groups is that the successful ones know their boundaries.
3. Don't make big decisions when your limbic system is not okay. Don't make big decisions when you are hungry, sleepy or tired. The limbic system sends more neurons to the neocortex. Your gut feeling is always the first thing to react before your rational mind.
4. Hearing no is easier when we learn how to say it.
5. Give things time. Being bad at first gives you an advantage of learning how to teach it! Teacher=lifelong learner!
6. You never know what someone else perceive as outrageous ;) so ask and you might surprise yourself!
7. Make it MONUMENTAL, MYSTERIOUS and MANAGEABLE!
8. Don't prevent magic from happening by assuming it won't.
9. How can you connect with someone if you're so busy paying attention to yourself? stop thinking about how they see you or how they feel about you. Focus and listen on what they're trying to say.
10. "It's easy to not notice we're projecting opinions onto people when we haven't actually listened."

This was so fun to read. I love it. Easily in my top 3 self-help books of ALLL time.

Overall, I thought this was a good book. I had one issue with the book, however. I think it was written for a different audience than myself. For that reason, it's a bit difficult for me to fairly review the book. I appreciate the talent and work of all involved and am sure it is an excellent book for some readers.

Mesmerizing strategies to achieve optimum happiness, success and saving the world

The book is a practical guide to evoke curiosity and provide strategies on how to be an influential person. The principals are based on Zoe's studies culminating in a PhD in Marketing from Harvard. This is combined with her extensive experience in the field. She has put her ideas together for a class on Influence at Yale School of Management which is the most popular elective course.

As a financial trainer and former Managing Director at a multinational bank, I would have risen to my position much quicker and with less stress if I were aware of these strategies at the onset of my career. I have practiced some of these strategies recently and found them very effective. The book is an excellent tool box to use in achieving personal and professional success.

Zoe develops the themes through defining influence, how it works and achieving a yes response. She then develops the idea of how charisma adds value combined with presenting the situation in the best light. Listening and negotiating are focused on and the book culminates with an excellent example of how influencing can change the world.

Amusingly, a highlight of my holiday time away from work was time spent with one of my brilliant Yale School of Management colleagues, Zoe Chance, reading an advance copy (thank you!) of Influence Is Your Superpower! While Zoe and I didn’t actually see each other over break, reading her book is much like spending time with her. You grin, you laugh, and you walk away smarter than you were when you arrived to the conversation. If you need more reasons to preorder her book, available to everyone on February 1st, other experts who have shared their glowing endorsements include Adam Grant, Charles Duhigg, and Yale University‘s own happiness guru, Laurie Santos. It is an action packed tome, including stories of dinosaurs, alligators, skydiving, and even Kevin Bacon, who really is a connecting force in this world to just about everything. Favorite chapters were “Inner Two Year Olds” and “Negotiating While Female.” It could have only been better if there were a reference or story about the great Betty White, may she Rest In Peace. Start your new year right and order this book! 🥳

https://www.zoechance.com

A very well-researched take on influence and persuasion with some practical tools anyone can make use of. As a reader on the autism spectrum, I could have used more detail when the author discussed the careful observation of nonverbal gestures and communication; that isn't something that comes naturally to a neurodiverse audience. I plan to purchase a paper copy in order to put some of the author's tips to use in my own life.

I'm sorry, but I just could not maintain any interest in this book. I tried, multiple times, to plow through it, but my eyes just kept glazing over. Obviously, I must not be the target audience for it. I'm sure that it will appeal to some people, and it just would not be appropriate for me to penalize the author with a negative review. Therefore, I will not leave a review in any of my normal places. Good luck to the author.