Cheatingland tells the personal stories of dozens of people who have cheated on their spouses. It satisfies our voyeuristic interest in the salacious details of the relationships of other people. I found it fascinating how the author was able to convince those he interviewed to be vulnerable and truthful about their relationships, both marital and extramarital. The book is relatively short but manages to cover a lot of ground from explaining why and how people cheat to repairing relationships and changing behavior, etc. I found this book fascinating and would recommend it if you liked Lisa Taddeo’s ‘Three Women.’

Thank you Atria Books and NetGalley for providing this ARC in exchange for an honest review.

I once asked a friend "why do men cheat?" and she said "because they can".

This book was an eye opener. There were point of views that I never even thought about.

Extremely well researched and, at times, shocking

This book made me angry and surprised and back to angry again.

Is there actually such a thing as a faithful guy? Not sure and this book has really made me think.

Well written and engrossing.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing this book in exchange for an honest review.
This book was fairly interesting but really didn't say much that isn't already known about cheaters. I was curious to read this because I was in a marriage before and my then husband cheated on me with other men, then left me to marry another woman, then left her for a man. It was all very traumatic and I didn't get answers to my many questions so I felt like there wasn't any closure. (I'm now happily remarried to a wonderful, non-cheating husband!)
The book did end quite abruptly with no closing statements. But overall, it was a decent book.

I knew this book would be a tough read for me, having been cheated on, but I was riveted by the idea of getting insider knowledge from the other side of things. The author of this book didn't let me down. The book was honest, open, candid, and through in-depth interviews, allowed me to glimpse the reasoning of men of cheat. While their reasoning didn't always surprise me, it was interesting seeing so many men use the same logic and reasoning to condone their actions. It's an often unsympathetic act that now has brought some light and empathy, at least from my perspective.

I can't say there was really anything outstanding in this book that I haven't already heard. It was an interesting read though and I appreciate the honesty throughout the book

I come from a long line of cheating men, so I immediately requested this book when I saw it on Netgalley. Sone of the was hard to stomach, but I appreciated the honesty and insight. As a 38 year old mother of 3, I've never had any desire to step out on my partners, so it was interesting hearing the reasons and logic behind the people who DO cheat. Definitely an interesting read, without a doubt.

Thank you to NetGalley and this author for this E-ARC in exchange for my honest feedback and review.

I requested this ARC because I was going through a cheating relationship problem myself. I read this to try and understand why men cheat. All I got from this was men put their wives on a pedestal and want some dirty fun on the side. I was so disappointed in this book. It made me see why there is no author name attached. It is full of mens dribble about their wives being unable to excite them so they run around on them. I don't recommend this book to anyone.

This book was interesting. I appreciate the blunt conversation between the author and his interviews. It seems like he built the trust and was able to give great insight on a taboo subject.

Informational, but ended abruptly.

Thanks to author, publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.

Cheatingland follows years of interviews and research from its anonymous author and delves into the hows and whys of men who cheat, though the author did include some anecdotes from women as well.

This book read very similiarly to a research study but was significantly less formal. The start of the book felt like a discussion into methodology, to a certain extent, followed by multiple chapters that could've been described as the discussion part of a formal research study, which discussed the larger results and what it all meant. The vast majority of the book was focused on the cheaters' voices themselves. So the author would make a claim (such as being able to break down a cheater profile into 5 types) and then would follow up with examples of what those men (and some women) had said that proved that claim.

I found the book to be fairly insightful, but I felt that there was some heavy bias that revealed itself strongly in the begining from the point of the author. The author would make opinionated statements that were disguised as something else (like saying, you might think that this individual sounds like a monster ... or something along those lines) to which he would then acknowledge that he had a hard time not judging these people but then also had to strategically make them feel comfortable so they would talk. So he came across as incredibly judgemental but chose to not vocalize those things with the people who he talked with so they would trust him and share with him. In my mind, that felt almost as monsterous, and it made it feel that the author was didn't so much as really care about these individuals but wanted to do this research for his own curiousity. It felt like he was telling himself and asking the audience to stomach through it because then they'd at least get a better understanding of these people by the end of it, and maybe that would be worth it.

Secondly, the author mostly seemed to focus on the majority of men in the study and how they responded to things rather than to also acknowledge the minority outliers. For instance, he mentioned many times that the majority of men did not feeling have a strong emotional relationship with their affair partner, yet in saying so, he acknowledged that there were outliers to that statement. There were many more instances of this and I wish that, as in a formal research study, the minority situations would also have been shared, if not for the purpose to also show affairs can be incredibly complicated in the emotional and relationship realms. In many instances, it felt as if the author was sharing the results of the study through discussion but in a way that focused only on the results he wanted to show to come to the conclusion he wanted to draw. I would have preferred a more transparent discussion that revealed all the results and then drew some connections, even if those connections weren't as supportive for the ultimate conclusion the author wanted to draw.

Lastly, the book came to a very abrupt end, leaving us with a few words from one of the participants that related to the current chapter. I felt like I was hitting a wall that I didn't expect to hit all of a sudden. I hit the end of the chapter and end pages and that was all. I wish there had been strong bibliographic information at the end providing research that had to have been consulted through the process, as well as professionals that were interviewed that the author mentioned throughout the text.

While I think this book offers up some interesting preliminary information on men (and some women) who cheat, this discussion of this "study" feels somewhat loose, not as professionally done, lacking in citable research to validate some of the author's findings (though I realize the individuals who participated were meant to be kept anonymous and in that aspect, we're out of luck), and ultimately at times felt a bit more anecdotal with the author's own personal conclusions driving the story (however valid or not). While I do not seem to disagree with much of what he had to say, I do believe that he was sharing a certain vision of what he wanted to present to his audience rather than sharing the entire picture (sharing results with those that didn't fit with the majority, briefly discussing those who didn't fit the mold or classic profile, etc.) I did find the information to be informative and interesting, though it left me with more questions, and I do think that, especially for those who have been in a situation where they have been cheated on, have been the cheater, or have been involved as an affair partner, this book will help provide a glimpse of greater understanding into the thought processes there.