- GRIEF IS LOVE explores not only the many ways grief can manifest for a person, but also how our society is not set up to support people before, during, and after a loss.
- Personally, I felt deeply seen by the portions discussing grief and lack of social support in a "before" stage. My grandmother died last year after a lengthy illness, and our work and relationship structures are simply not built to allow time and space for both obtaining medical care for your loved one and the extended time spent knowing a loss is coming.
- Lee's book isn't a guide telling you what steps to take to soothe your grief, but rather someone holding your hand, telling you it's okay that your pain doesn't fit in the box you've been given for it. She is also explicit in writing about the extra pain and barriers marginalized people, especially Black women, face during these periods.
- I am so grateful to @literaryintersections for putting this book in my hands. I know I will be revisiting it often.

This book is so important. A book that can give folks who have lost someone guidance for how to live and full life. Not in spite of, but because of the person lost. Highly recommend for anyone who is experiencing of has experienced grief. Grief isn’t something you get over. While reading this book I found myself grieving the miscarriage I had back in 2016 that I thought I had dealt with. Grieving the loss of my grandparents, knowing they will never meet my kids. Grieving not getting to know my Aunt Lisa as an adult. Things I thought I had figured out, made peace with.

Your grief matters. The love you had for the person you lost is still there. It matters.