As a man, I really appreciated the last few chapters on healing from the damaging effects of porn. It was also good to read the message that we can have complete victory over lust through the healing power of God through Jesus' sacrifice on the cross. I have not read Every Man's Battle, but its ideology was taught to me through the church as a teenager in the 90's. I do not want to continue to teach its harmful message to my sons and daughters (I have two of each). While I know your daughters are no longer school age, I would love a book (or books) from you guys on how to teach our children about how to develop healthy ideas about relationships and sex). While this was a great book about sex, it was an even better book about having a healthy relationship with my wife (which needs to come before sex).

Absolutely loved this book. For myself, coming out of an Evangelical Christian background, the marriage books I have read in the past were ripe with misinformation and degrading stereotypes of men and women. Among the most troubling was the lack of emotional connection needed by men evidently with a high physical need for sex and the sometimes trivialized emotional needs of women along with pressure for wives to allow their husbands to use them for sex to better their relationship. This book corrects and addresses so many of these toxic views that have been ingrained in culture - laying a solid foundation for real trust and mutuality, and refusing to simply slap bandaids on heart issues. How have we tolerated and allowed such damaging beliefs in our materials for so long? Sex was meant to be a beautiful mutual experience - not just physical but emotional and spiritual as well.

Reading the Good Guys Guide was incredibly healing for me. My husband has just received his pre-order and is excited to dig in as well. I wish this book had been around when we were scouring the Christian marriage reasources available and inadvertently swallowed some seriously toxic messages that really set us back.

This is a book that I cannot recommend enough and will be gifting to anyone we know who is headed towards marriage. It’s not just about sex - it’s about learning to love honor and celebrate one another.

The Gregoires have written a book that is both revealing and dignified in the same breath. Where The Great S*x Rescue gave us terms and concepts to identify the hurt and everything that was wrong with so many of the teachings we grew up with, The Good Guy's Guide is a perfectly-rounded manual to 1) avoid the many pitfalls that get so many relationships off to a terrible start and/or 2) help those who started badly or have childhood/prior relationship trauma truly have a reset button to do the work to start out fresh and reach the goals together! This book describes the S*xual Response Cycle, which is the very first time I've ever actually read about it. It uses studies, data, experiences, and quotes from other professionals' collaborative thoughts to reframe our relationships to find true intimacy and fulfillment, because our focus can shift to a biblical perspective on both men and women's intrinsic worth, dignity, and design for pleasure and intimacy. I wish everyone in the world had to read this book as a prerequisite to being in a relationship!

My husband and I got this book and it’s companion “girls guide” to enrich our marriage together. What a wealth of wisdom and insight. The focus on the arousal cycle and the importance of mindset early on was very practical advice, and the illustration on page 52 was very helpful. But the major win in this book, for us, was how much detail there was on the different mental experiences between the guys and girls and how that impacts the way our intimacy plays out. How we can be in the exact same situation together, and can mentally be miles apart, and how to get on the same page. Highly recommend for any couple that wants to “deeply know and be known” with their spouse

The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex is the book that every engaged or newlywed man needs! It covers everything a man should know to help get sex off to a great start in marriage. This book will help couples to build a sex life that is mutual, intimate, and pleasurable for both.

The Good Guy’s Guide will also be helpful for those who have been married for many years, but have never been given good and healthy instruction for sexual intimacy within marriage. If a couple is struggling with sexual intimacy in marriage, this is the book the husband needs to read! For women, there is a companion book that I highly recommend called, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.

There are two excellent appendices at the end of The Good Guy’s Guide (and the Good Girl’s Guide too). One is an appendix is about preparing for the honeymoon, and it is filled with good and practical advice. The other appendix contains helpful discussion questions for engaged couples and for married couples.

I recommend this book for both married and engaged men. The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex, and the companion book, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex, will become my “go to” wedding and shower gifts!

I received an advanced review copy of this book.

The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex is a book like no other I have read (and I have read a lot of sex and relationship books). Honestly, I liked it even more than its companion book for women because I felt like I was getting to be part of a sacred message to Christain husbands in a time when many men are looking for help. We live in such a pornified culture, and unfortunately, the Church has not done a better job at casting a holistic vision for marital intimacy or speaking openly about the things that complicate sexual intimacy. The Gregoire’s have written a primer for men on how to be a good lover beginning with friendship, emotional and spiritual connection, and tasteful sexual education. Using research, the book walks through the stages of arousal and troubleshoots a variety of issues Christian couples might face, including the orgasm gap between men and women, pornography addiction, and past sexual abuse. The practical messages for growing intimacy are hope-fillled, and I also appreciate the recommendation to seek professional counseling when issues get too big. I can’t wait to recommend this book to my Christian sex addiction and betrayal trauma clients.

I believe this book could easily be one of the most important books on this topic I have ever read. In the Gregoire’s style, it is no fluff or nonsense. I will admit, I did have to tear up in the first few chapters as I realized the extent of empathy and grace their message extends. This book is just as important for women to read, as it is for the men who want to love them well. Definitely recommend for conservative, fundamental or evangelical background readers that couldn’t settle for the trash mixed along in with the current prevalent messages, and want to find something refreshing, relevant to today, but deeply devoted to showing the words and heart of God toward sexual relationships.<a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58429178-the-good-guy-s-guide-to-great-sex" style="float: left; padding-right: 20px"><img border="0" alt="The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: Because Good Guys Make the Best Lovers" src="https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1624823526l/58429178._SX98_.jpg" /></a><a href="https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58429178-the-good-guy-s-guide-to-great-sex">The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: Because Good Guys Make the Best Lovers</a> by <a href="https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/408385.Sheila_Wray_Gregoire">Sheila Wray Gregoire</a><br/>
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I believe this book could easily be one of the most important books on this topic I have ever read. In the Gregoire’s style, it is no fluff or nonsense. I will admit, I did have to tear up in the first few chapters as I realized the extent of empathy and grace their message extends. This book is just as important for women to read, as it is for the men who want to love them well. Definitely recommend for conservative, fundamental or evangelical background readers that couldn’t settle for the trash mixed along in with the current prevalent messages, and want to find something refreshing, relevant to today, but deeply devoted to showing the words and heart of God toward sexual relationships.
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I can't recommend this enough for fiances and husbands! My husband and I are about to order a bunch as gifts. Thorough, genuinely helpful, practical, but nicely succinct. Really great book, well done.

This is an excellent book! I really appreciated the restaurant illustration. It has given me hope that after many years of struggling with reciprocal sex in my marriage that it can be mutually satisfying for husband and wife.

Amazing book! Was able to give to my husband to read for him to understand me more. Even though he is one of the good guys who has always put me first. I had so much negativity in my head from what I was taught growing up, I didn’t know there were good guys like him! And also helped me to know the majority of guys are good! Christians just give such a negative view of sex foe women that that’s all we know.

Last year, a dear friend told me about the author’s blog. I have gleaned so much hope from the blog and incredibly thankful conversations are changing! The dozen marriage books I have on my shelf were written by a generation that excuses and sometimes promotes abuse. This book sheds light on the aspects of consent in marriage. A wife isn’t at her husband’s disposal to keep him from sinning. I am so thankful the authors are more honest and open. This book talks about how to build emotional, spiritual and physical intimacy with your wife. I read it because I wanted to see what they were telling the guys!

Steven Curtis Chapman has a song "How Do I Love Her." This book has the same spirit as that song. If you want to know (or want your brothers and sons to know) how to have great, God-glorifying sex that is mutual, pleasurable, and intimate, then you need this book.
Christian men desperately need to understand that God made women different sexually, and that's good. The church has done a poor job of communicating this, teaching either that sex just isn't for women or that women should enjoy sex like men do.
News flash: women and men have different reproductive systems that biologically work differently. But both are capable of orgasm. Both are deserving of love and pleasure. This book does a wonderful job of giving husbands tools and framework to understand their wives' sexual response cycle, their hang-ups, their needs, and their God-given dignity.
I'll be giving copies of this and the Good Girl's Guide to every engaged couple in my life from now on.