I think it was the sub title of the book or byline of the book “What working with the dead taught me about life” is what really caught my attention and made me want to learn more about the book.

Kate tells quite a few different stories of those whose bodies she dealt with and their relatives. As well as the differences, be it the age of the person who died, or the circumstances of how that person died and the effect it had on those mourning them, and the different way people mourn too.

The book really is an emotional read and I identified with some of the different families, through the different loved ones they lost and how they each decided how to handle that loss and the family customs, traditions and rituals they chose to do.

One story Kate tells is “Keith” a man who had lots and lots of tattoos of all the people he loved in his life. It made me both smile and tear up, when Kate revealed that Keith’s son had decided a tattoo of his dad on his arm would be a special thing to do and he proudly shows it to Kate. He has chosen to carry on the tradition his father’s tattoo, through beginning to have tattoos himself and the very first one being one of his Dad, to honour his memory.
I teared up at the losses of babies and the stories Kate told about them.

Kate explains in the book how she and the team she works with handle some of the things we don’t see when we visit our loved ones after they have died. There is no awful gory detail, Kate is very sensitive, matter of fact and I think truthful about what happens behind the scenes.

There were even points in the book when I laughed out loud, the strange things people want that belonged to their loved one. Who on earth would want their dead relatives false teeth, what on earth are they going to do with them. Kate then shares that there will be items like perhaps a handkerchief that still has the perfume/aftershave of the dead person still on it and she has asked relatives if they would like to take it away with them and they have just waved the offer away saying to just throw it away! Then she mentions what I would describe as the one-up-manship behaviour, who loved the person the most etc etc. Death really does seem to bring out the worst in some people! Some of the questions that Kate have been asked

My immediate thoughts upon finishing the book really sum up what I thought to the book. It really honestly was a quite fascinating, original look and description of Kate’s everyday work in a hospital mortuary. It mentions the horror, heartache, and heart-warming moments within Kates jobs. The book also includes how covid created even more heartbreak when loved ones were not allowed to say their final farewells to loved ones either before they died or afterwards in a chapel of rest. All the restrictions and new rules for handling the bodies of those who had covid meant much more extra work as well as more chaos for those working in the mortuary.

An eye-opening and fascinating read.

This book takes you behind the scenes at a mortuary in a Northern Teaching Hospital. The author isn't a pathologist; she doesn't do postmortems-she assists behind the scenes-e.g. with family viewings of bodies, removing pacemakers etc. The book is a month by month account, e.g. May 2019, June 2019, July 2019, August 2019 etc., which suits me as I like diary format.

Firstly she talks about working as a hoarder clearer. Some disgusting tales from there! I've seen the tv programme A Life of Grime with these sorts of scenarios, so it's interesting to read about someone who has worked in these circumstances. I also love watching things like Dr G Medical Examiner- and had been wanting to read a memoir of this type. This was very quick to read, riveting from the outset, and at times unbelievably disgusting. Things you just wouldn't imagine people do. Many yukky moments- but in a good way as this was all fascinating to read about.

A great read. I love learning what goes on behind the scenes and really enjoy these sorts of memoirs.

I do not know what to write about this book.
The author pens down her experiences and the way of working at a mortuary in the hospital she works in. She takes a very subtle way of putting death in the forefront of the pages in a very gentle way for the readers. How the closed ones of a deceased person comes to closure or react to the sudden gap left is shown in the book. Different deceased person, different closed ones and different reactions and ways of comeing to terms with it.
Very profound and poignant.

Kate has a very funny yet very respectful way of dealing with death and the final moments a family gets to see their loved ones. I really enjoyed this book for its honestly, vulnerability, but also ability to make you laugh when you thinking about death. Very easy read. The only think that annoyed me was the typical format of the book because this is an advanced copy but it didn't hold me back from reflecting on final moments with loved ones and creating memories that last

This book's heart is in the right place, but the structure didn't work for me. It's based on a diary format, leading eventually to the co-author's experiences working through the pandemic. I just couldn't help feeling throughout the book that it would have worked so much better had the content been grouped by theme. The diary format instead gave it a sense of jumping around and repeating subjects, and I found it hard to stay engaged. In this regard, the memoir 'Smoke Gets in Your Eyes', which was written by a young woman working at a crematorium in San Francisco, worked much better for me.

All that said, there are some very poignant moments in the book, including the difficulties of the job during COVID-19. Another important record from the awful first few years.

(With thanks to Ad Lib Publishers and NetGalley for this ebook in exchange for an honest review)

“Sorry For Your Loss” is a non-fiction book by Kate Marshall. Ms. Marshall worked in a hospital mortuary, though I’d add in the States we might say she was also part of the Bereavement department. As my father died a year ago next month, I thought this was going to be a very difficult (emotionally) book to read, but it was - but not how I expected. Ms. Marshall wrote about her job in such a caring way. Death is such a difficult topic to talk about - even after the pandemic - and I greatly enjoyed how Ms. Marshall not only talked about how different people regard death (from celebrating the LIFE of the person all the way down to using a person’s death in a manipulative manner) but also how she learned a bit more about death (so much paperwork and so much compassion needed). I keenly felt for Ms. Marshall during the beginning months of COVID, when no one knew what was going on yet tending to the dead was still (if not more) needed in a professional manner (and how horribly difficult it must’ve been to tell people they couldn’t view their deceased). Her anecdotes ranged from the humorous to the sad, but always with compassion.

I'm always really fascinated by these books of stories, that are something we all need, but most of us would never do.
And we never consider how it works.
This one is told with just the right level of humour, and compassion, with the odd horror story in there.
Which pretty much sums up life.
Have to admit, could happily have read a whole book on hoarders, if the author plans a follow up.

In Sorry for Your Loss, Kate Marshall recounts her experiences of her career and shares stories that range from heartbreaking to laughable to downright obnoxious. I would like to think that grief brings people together, but really it just shows everyone what a person’s truly like, and Kate’s recollections prove this to be true. Regardless of the actions of the people she worked with, though, Kate always maintained her professionalism, and the respect she and the other mortuary workers showed towards their ‘patients’ is truly admirable. I also enjoyed learning about the differences in the death process between the UK and the USA.

All in all, Sorry for Your Loss provides a respectful, honest, and interesting look at the work performed in a hospital mortuary. Additionally, Kate shares her thoughts about how death is viewed in most modern-day societies, and her observations are sure to make readers consider their own views on the topic

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing this book in exchange for an honest review.
The stories the author shares in this book are told with gentleness and provide a glimpse into how the mortuary at this hospital operates. It's a fascinating book. Each day provides vastly different dead people with their own vastly different loved ones and their reactions to grief and loss.

Every hospital / mortuary needs a Kate working for them. The warmth of this woman shines through this book. She treats everyone with dignity and care.
Kate talks us through her work as a bereavement Officer. From dealing with the deceased to their loved ones. There is even a little humour in the story. However, this is handled in a dignified way.
The heartbreaking stories are the ones with the babies. Kates compassion shines through.

The author also tackles the Covid issue. How with all the regulations in place she and others were unable to give the service they wanted and the deceased should get.

Thank you for opening my eyes to the job that countless unsung hero’s do.

Many thanks to Netgalley and the publisher for the opportunity to see an ARC.

I received an ARC of, Sorry for your loss, by Kate Marshall. This is a very interesting book about death. Viewing dead bodies in the morgue for identification. Its the families of the deceased who are the characters. You never know how they are going to act. Also, the way people died are so sad sometimes.

This was a good read, albeit a bit repetitive. I have read better books based on mortuary experience but it was interesting to see the bereavement support side of things, and an eye opener to read how blindsided mortuaries were when covid overwhelmed them

5 stars
Such a real look at this profession. Very emotional but much needed look at death. I highly recommend this to everyone.

This was a fascinating look into something I knew nothing about, the author was correct when she said that most of what we thought we knew came from movies and TV. Some of the stories were just heartbreaking. Many thanks for the opportunity to read this.

Let me start by saying that I love medical books and I although this book is about the dead, it takes place in a hospital mortuary so I do believe this falls into the "medical" field. That being said and although this will sound strange given the subject matter, I really enjoyed this book. I found it to be extremely interesting reading the details that the author provided about what happens to our bodies after we die. I also found it comforting to read all the different reactions from the family members when they are invited in to view the bodies of their loved ones. There were even certain parts that made me laugh as although this is a serious topic, some of the reactions of people and the way the author wrote about them made it a little more light hearted. It was also interesting to me to read the differences in ways that death is handled in the UK as opposed to the US where I live. One part said that people are not embalmed in UK unless there is going to be an extended viewing of the body. Here in the US most bodies are embalmed regardless of viewing time.
In my line of thinking, books like this are important for people that like me are not only curious about what happens after you die, but help you to see that through it all we are all just humans and reactions will vary by every situation. Sometimes we think there is a right way that we should be reacting or right way of doing things or feeling when someone close to us passes. However, this book just shows you how every one in that situation reacts their own way and you never know how that is going to be until you are in the situation. I think its important to know you don't need to fit into some kind of mold of grief. Its perfectly ok to just feel what you are feeling and this book does a great job of showing you that.

This was such an emotive read for me in many ways that I wont go into now but it was a beautifully written memoir and I can honestly say that I hadn't given much thought to the staff in hospital that have to care for patients after they have passed but now I certainly will. I think that this is a job that only certain people could do with such a high level of care compassion and sensitivity and that is palpable on the pages of this book. I cried and i felt heartwarmed. An amazing read.

Although the cover is slightly unsettling- the stories included hold deep meaning about life. A unique approach that offers a lot to the reader. Thank you NetGalley for the opportunity to read an advanced copy.

‘Sorry for your Loss’ tells the story of Kate Marshall, who has spent the last year working at a mortuary. It recounts her experiences, particularly memorable patients and how the COVID-19 pandemic changed her job, and her perspective on it, forever.

I tend to engage with a lot of medical media (both fiction and non-fiction) and I think this was perfectly done. It is handled with the exact amount of sensitivity that respects the deceased & their loved ones whilst equally making for a compelling read.

I appreciate that the sections on the COVID-19 pandemic did not come until the end of the book; it allowed for readers to truly compare the before and after - and realising just what a loss these people faced by not being able to say goodbye to those they loved.

Kate, and all other medical professionals who worked tirelessly during the pandemic knowing they were putting themselves at risk, are heroes - and this book was incredible.

Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC in exchanged for an unbiased review xo

Weird, but very good book. Written in a comforting way, in an uncomfortable subject.

Thanks to author, publisher and Netgalley for the chance to read this book. While I got the book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.

I read this in 36 hours. As a nurse with 30years experience it resonated. As a widow of almost three years, it resonated. As a 50 year old woman who lost her mum a year ago, it resonated.
This book was beautifully written and allowed the reader to connect on many levels. It brought across the varying levels of emotion that death hands us and it also showed so deeply, how death is accepted by the world. It is one of those taboo subjects.
While there is a morbid fascination on death, there is also a reluctance to address it. This book deals with it all. I was gifted a woman who knew what her job was, she knew working with death was for her. I was given a variety of characters in the friends & families that came for viewings and I was given a view into how it all collided together to make the world a better place.

Highly recommend this book.