Whew! What an interesting book. A manifesto about feminism couched in a plot about a complicated friendship. It was a good read, and I constantly wanted to know what would happen next, but I found it a bit preachy after a while (though I agree with the thesis of the book!)

Overall this book was okay. I feel the plot of Jessica having done this unforgivable thing and then coming back around was a little thin and I found myself getting bored at times. Especially when the unforgivable thing was arguably not that malicious or even intentional.

That being said, this discussions on therapy, selfishness, etc were interesting.

Holly Bourne does it again!

Holly Bourne writes what it is like to live as a woman no other author can and with We Were Friends she does it once again. The novel flips from past to present depicting female friendships across decades and ages to show how society (and inevitably ourselves) pin women against each other. Bourne shows what is looks like when our hidden insecurities and desires leak into the relationships to the ones we love and how we can be our own worst enemies and maybe even the enemies of the ones we cherish.

This book will have you weeping and holding your girlfriends close. It is a confronting novel that will make you think about the way men treat us, the way other women treat us and the way we treat ourselves.

This is a must-read for all women (and any men who want to understand women and female relationships a little better)!

Are we doing enough to recognize silent cries for help? Sometimes they can be more subtle than you’d expect. This is just one of the many themes WHEN WE WERE FRIENDS explores.

The story centers around Fern, a young woman who reluctantly returns to school after a suicide attempt and becomes best friends with the new girl at school, Jessica. Fern feels invisible among her peers while Jessica constantly draws attention with her striking beauty. As the girls transition from childhood into adulthood, their friendship buckles under the weight of insecurity, jealousy and betrayal. Years later when Fern finally feels like her life is in order, Jessica reappears and wants to rekindle their friendship.

This novel is brilliant—smart, sharp, funny, sad and so powerful. Bourne thoughtfully depicts the emotional turmoil young women experience as they come of age and the complexities of female friendships. Subtle cries for help go unseen, loving friendships are destroyed and the beauty of womanhood is tarnished by insecurity, fear, anxiety, judgement, and the expectation to please others. This stunning novel explores the power of female friendship and will resonate with so many women. Highly recommend.

I love toxic female friendships, but this one just didn't work for me. From the beginning, I just couldn't connect with either of the characters, which made it really difficult to feel anything for their story.

DNF. Unfortunately, this was a book I started multiple times but could just not get into. I appreciate having the opportunity to read this book, it was just not a good fit for me as a reader. Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for my gifted review copy.

I will be withholding my review until Harper gives their Harper Collins union workers a fair contract. Thank you again for the copy.

Wow, this one was intense. Trigger warnings for suicidal ideation, self harm, alcohol/drug use, sexual assault, etc. Do not go into this book lightly.

When We Were Friends follows Fern and Jessica, bouncing back and forth in time between their teenage years up until a major fallout, and their early 30s when they reunite. Upon meeting, the two girls are immediately drawn to one another and form a very intimate friendship, but Fern often struggles with feelings of intense depression and inadequacy when standing next to gorgeous and seemingly perfect Jessica. These feelings fester over the years, and petty jealousies evolve into major arguments.

This part of the novel felt painfully relatable. As a former insecure teen with a lot of internalized misogyny, I really felt for both Fern and Jessica. This book really highlights the insane pressures of being a teenage girl in a society that objectifies and hypersexualizes female bodies. There are several scenes where these young women are basically sexually assaulted, but it's seen as normal, funny, or even complimentary because it means they were "chosen" and therefore seen as valuable by their male friends. The behavior that was normalized within their friend group was really messed up, and frankly, very difficult to read about.

The sections of the novel that follows adult Fern and Jessica was painful to read about for other reasons. I often found myself cringing at their behavior, since they no longer had the excuse of being teenagers, but reuniting brought their mutual trauma to light in an extremely harsh way. Fern, in particular, starts to spiral and regress in Jessica's presence, and I found it incredibly hard to be in her head. I don't think this part was bad by any means, in fact I think Holly Bourne does a wonderful job analyzing and picking apart the complexities of female friendships, but it is not a light read by any means.

I honestly feel like I'm not doing enough service for this book in my review. Bourne tackles several very nuanced issues in an expert manner, and navigates potentially prickly topics with a lot of empathy. I was initially worried this book was going to pit these two friends against one another in a petty or catty way, but I think the situation was handled with a lot of grace, and I was happy with where both characters ended up.

🍹Book Review🍷
When We Were Friends
By: Holly Bourne
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️/5 stars

There were honestly times that I wanted to throw my phone reading this book. It's a story about friendship, deceit, backstabbing, maturity, guilt, jealousy, insecurity, and all of those tough, heart wrenching experiences of growing up as a young girl.

Fern is enjoying her adult life, living with her boyfriend (hopefully soon to be fiance), Ben. Her ex-best friend from high school, Jessica, has made a surprising appearance after having not seen or spoken to her in over ten years.

Fern and Jessica experienced many life-altering lessons as teenagers, some good and some extremely difficult. When Jessica betrays Fern's friendship years ago she cuts her out of her life for good. Now Jessica is back wanting to reestablish their friendship. Can Fern trust her again or is Jessica the same selfish girl from her past? This book was so frustrating at times because it appears that Jessica is just there to stir up trouble again. But, that may not be the case!

Thank you to @netgalley
@harlequintradepublishing for this gifted ARC in exchange for my honest review.

Female friendships can be rewarding. Oh, but they can also kill you inside. Fern and Jessica were besties in high school and college until Jessica does something that Fern just can't forgive. Fast forward to early 30's and suddenly Jessica is back, divorced and ready to resume her friendship with Fern. I think anyone who has ever had a friend that you both admire and find a little intimidating can relate.

A terrific and painfully satirical novel focusing on a friendship between two women that go through a mountain of upheavals and yet seem to persevere.

Thank you Netgalley for this ARC of When We Were Friends by Holly Bourne.

Holy cow, I loved this book! I am such a fan of love stories (not romance stories!) between girlfriends. I feel like they are usually so rich and poignant and gosh dang relatable.

When the Jessica appears at one of Fern's book events, Fern runs the gambit of emotions. Stunning Jessica, Fern's childhood best friend, who she stopped talking to in college, is standing in front of her. And even though she has conflicting emotions, Fern's overall feeling it to embrace her and invite her back into her life. But through flashbacks we learn why Fern cut her off, and we can't help but wonder if reuniting is the best thing for her.

This was such a rich story, full of nuance, compassion, and hard earned lessons. I loved how messy and complex it was, while also offering a reminder of how important communication and empathy is. I thoroughly enjoyed this book, and look forward to reading more of Bourne's work.

Who wouldn’t pick up this book based on the cover alone? Truly it is so gorgeous. But the writing inside is just as good! As someone whose life has been often defined by the complexities of friendship, I really enjoyed this narrative of how friendship evolves over time. This book is honest and relatable, and a deeply feminist anthem.

I found this to be a compelling story that was both insightful and uncomfortable. Holly Bourne did a great job of describing the complexity of a female friendship and how it developed and changed from the teen years, through college and into adulthood. The story of Fern and Jessica, their jealousy, insecurities and desperation to fit in will surely hit home with many women.

Fern and Jessica were friends in high school but they didn't keep in touch. When Fern reconnects with her in her thirties, she finds that all insecurities are far from gone. Will their newfound friendship survive their bagages?

This was so very interesting. I could not put it down and couldn't understand what made it so addictive. Like for a lot of this, very few happens, and yet, I was captivated. I cannot explain it.
I think I just love the way the story was told with the flashbacks of their friendships as kids. Also, it threw me off at times considering how Fern would react to things and it was a bit frustrating. But also, that made it even more captivating. The whole book was as infuriating as it was captivating tbh.
I didn't see a lot of things coming, so many twists worked on me and it was all so impactful. The only reason I didn't rate it 5 stars is that I couldn't fully connect with Fern and I couldn't fully understand her motivations.
But, overall, this was a percutant read that will stay with me for quite a while.

This would be a brilliant book club pick. This character-driven story is about Fern's unhealthy friendship with Jessica. They were best friends as teenagers until a betrayal led to their split. Jessica reappears in Fern's life years later to try to reinstate their friendship. I anxiously read through this, both to find out what happened in their teenage years, and what will happen now that they are in their early 30s. The book explores the intensity of female teen friendships with the jealousy and insecurities that can sneak into these friendships. I think everyone can think back on teenage friendships and relate to some of what Fern felt. The novel also uncomfortably highlights how boys/men treat females and how important male attention is to women, even when it is negative attention or the males are unworthy.

Fern and Jess were friends as teens, had a falling out, and then meet again in their early teens.

I really didn’t like Fern, the character who’s perspective this book is told. She’s whiny and self-centered. It made it difficult to get through this one.

Despite this, I did enjoy the author’s witty writing, and will be giving her future work a chance.

This is a fantastic story of female friendships and all of the emotions, dark and light, that come along with it. I loved how real it felt and there were parts of the story that I recognized from my own relationships. Relatable, beautifully written and unforgettable characters make this a must read and i especially enjoyed the audiobook narrated perfectly by Heather Long.

2.5 stars

This just wasn’t for me. I didn’t understand Jessica and Fern’s friendship even after the explanation. I thought it would have benefitted us to see both their POVS of the friendship because even towards the end, I just did not understand Jessica, nor did I like her, I was super frustrated with her character the whole entire time — but I understand it is quite literally suppose to be that way, and that is how the book unfolds. The ending just seemed off to me as well.

Humorous, heartfelt, and hopeful. When We Were Friends is a recommended purchase for collections where WF is popular.