So When Are You Having Kids by Jordan Davidson is the perfect family planning book for millennials, Gen Z, and all that follow. It is the most inclusive conversation I have seen regarding societal and familial pressure for having children, and the interviews provide perspectives from people in almost every walk of life. With the U.S. in a seemingly dystopian state of stripping rights away from individuals, now is a scary time to reflect on what it means to start a family. This is the first family planning book I have read that highlights different types of families, alternatives to parenting, and how queer families may look different. Davidson is not aiming to provide answers for every issue that might arise, but offers a warm and understanding ear through this nonfiction guide.

I requested this book a week before the world fell apart. If there ever was a time for me to ask the question “Do I *really* want kids?” It’s now. And with this book fresh on my mind as my rights were stripped away by SCOTUS and the state of Mississippi….. I did a very deep reflection on my feelings with this book in mind. Needless to say, it helped me guide my choices in light of this terrifying reality. If you’re like me and are unsure of how the recent court rulings make you feel about the future on top of your pre-June 24th feelings, this may help.

Davidson captures completely what it is like to be a young person (at any point of their life) and being asked that very daunting question. Even while we prefer to overlook people who believe they have the right to ask any question they want about relationships, kids, and marriage and expect an easy answer, I believe we can't ignore them either, especially when they are relatives, colleagues, family, and friends.

Well, as much as they desire answers, I believe that it will ultimately be the parents/guardians, regardless of gender, who will determine whether they want kids or don't want kids, and how to have them when they do.

This book serves as a fundamental guide to assist such parents in making a clear decision and determining how to proceed regardless of which option they choose. Each of these major subtopics has four basic sections (Do You Want Kids?, Should You Have Kids?, How to Have Kids, and You Don't Want Kids). As a young person who did not have gender affirming parents this book was a breath a fresh air.

ARC provided by Netgalley.

This book made me feel so much better about my decision to not have kids. Living in the Deep South in the U.S. as a woman includes so much pressure to have children. Everyone either assumes you have them by a certain age or assumes something is wrong if you haven’t. Thank you for writing something for those of us who can’t decide/have decided against!

So When Are You Having Kids by Jordan Davidson is a refreshing read for open-minded thinkers in the older generation, and a useful gift for the younger. It is a common-sense, inclusive guidebook in which LGBTQIA couples are included and woven into the book naturally. A noted point that caused me to think differently about how we put couples without kids on the spot is the idea that people will feel free to ask if you don't have a child, but never ask you why, specifically, you had a child if you do. Highly recommended. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC.

Thank you, Sounds True, for the advance review copy. 🏳️‍🌈Pride Month Recommendation 🏳️‍🌈

Even though we tend to ignore people who feel they have the right to ask any question they want and expect an easy answer regarding relationships, kids and marriage, I do feel we can't ignore them too, especially when they are relatives, colleagues, family and friends.

Well, I say as much as they want the answers it us ultimately the ones who are going to be the parents/guardians irrespective of their gender who are going to decide when they want kids or do not want kids, and how to have them when they do.

This book is such a basic guide to help such parents take a firm decision and how to go ahead no matter which answer they choose. Basic four parts on each of these important subtopics (Do you want kids?, Should You Have Kids?, How to Have Kids, You Don't Want Kids).

Many, I say, many need to be more aware about gender and sexuality. It's time to be no longer ignorant on this topic. Live and let live.