I was a bit skeptical going into this book since the author doesn't have credentials in any counseling or related field but was interested in giving it a shot due to liking her work in the Whole30 realm and an interest in the subject. Overall, it was a well-written and researched book. She has years of experience with setting boundaries and coaching others to set them as well. Each chapter is laid out by a topic and includes specific scenarios that she gives an example of a green, yellow, and red boundary you could set in that situation. I think it would be helpful for many people that are working to build their boundary building chops.

I received an ARC of this book from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

This was a very helpful book. I really liked that there are a lot of examples given on how to apply creating boundaries to a person's life.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I’m a HUGE advocate for healthy boundaries.

This book was fantastic. It was easy to read and understand. And it gives plenty of examples and instructions on how to create healthy boundaries in your life.

I'll be keeping this one on my shelves for sure!

Ebook/non-fiction/self help: I want to thank Netgalley for an advanced copy. I want to also say that I have been following Melissa Urban for years on the Whole30 program. I did have to put some boundaries up on Melissa because I didn't like the expensive products she is recommending through IG and email. Melissa said she understood and agreed I should stop receiving her emails. See, boundaries work.

I started reading this book after I started a new job with a crazy supervisor. I felt I needed boundaries because I was bringing the job home and letting crazy woman haunt my dreams. The supervisor imploded one afternoon and hasn't been back, but I still found a lot of the suggestions helpful. The book goes into what to say (and any actions) you can use. The suggestions go from green, yellow, and red depending on the severity of the situation or the times you've asked for the boundary and it was ignored. Green is a firm suggestion, yellow, a warning shot over the bough, and red is final warning.
The book has scripts to use if you aren't tactful, as I am not. The book goes into what happens if you're on the receiving end of a boundary and boundaries you can give yourself.

I really enjoyed the book and how it was laid out.

YES YES YES! I loved The Book of Boundaries more than I ever would have thought. Boundaries are hard for people-pleasers like me, but this book is an awesome starting place. Lots of great advice, techniques, and even some scripts to follow. I highly recommend this to everyone who struggles with boundaries...and even those who don't.

This book was incredible. I have been working on personal and professional boundaries for quite some time. The scripts she gives with the green, yellow, red are amazing. There is freedom in clear, kind, and direct communication, and Melissa does just that.

nitial thoughts: I was fortunate to receive an early ARC of The Book of Boundaries (thank you, Dial Press & NetGalley) and I devoured it.

while I think I’m pretty good at setting boundaries (especially around work and my time) the scripts Melissa provided in her “green, yellow, red” format will make boundary setting doable for anyone.

while these conversations can be uncomfortable, Melissa shows what can happen to your life if you DON’T set healthy boundaries (and it isn’t pretty.)

this book is for everyone, and I may need to invest in a case to pass around to friends and family.

As I expected, this is an incredibly lucid, empowering, supportive, and useful guide on setting boundaries. Hartwig's framework makes boundaries sound like the kindest possible thing you can do in a relationship, and she establishes a system with her usual no-nonsense approach. I took so many notes, and know I'll come back to this book time and time again.

This book is perfect for anyone who struggles with boundaries. Every chapter goes over boundaries for certain groups of people (family, friends, etc)

Melissa Urban offers real-life issues/scenarios paired with scripts for the reader to use to communicate their boundaries. The author also provides firmness levels for each example (green, yellow, or red) based on the level of firmness needed.

This is a very practical book that can help readers take control of certain situations where they may have struggles to establish boundaries. After reading - you will be ready to put this work into practice!

In "The Book of Boundaries," Melissa Urban breaks down why boundaries are important for our relationships, why they can be so difficult to implement, and how to start establishing more effective boundaries in your own life. This book does a wonderful job of breaking down different types of relationships and highlighting the challenges that are specific to each one of them. Using "Green," "Yellow," and "Red" intensities, Urban provides her readers with scripts that they can use when faced with setting boundaries. This book will be a wonderful resource for myself and my clients for years to come.

Many thanks to NetGalley for an advanced copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

The ultimate boundary book. Hence the name! Melissa is the QUEEN of living your best life via Whole30, and more recently, BOUNDARIES. I've followed her for many years and when she started giving advice on boundaries, it was advice I never knew I needed. She made me realize that I was in control of the things/people/situations that were causing me stress. Easier said than done obviously, so I loved reading her series of scripts to use in certain situations. And NOW all of that is in 1 book! This is such a great resource and I will take these tips and tools to bring more peace into my life. Thanks, Melissa!

The Book of Boundaries is a beneficial read for anyone struggling with setting boundaries, especially those who feel paralyzed or anxious about even CONSIDERING setting boundaries (ahem).

I suspect it would be a worthwhile read for people reacting to others' boundaries, too, though that would take a willingness to see a different side. The writing is understandable and approachable, with many reminders of how boundaries are a kindness for everyone, not a reason to feel guilty or inadequate. In addition, the book is categorized in a logical, easy-to-navigate way, with clearly laid-out systems for understanding and creating boundaries.

The scripts are brilliant, particularly given Urban's understanding that people who need to set boundaries are often the most unable to develop them. It imparts confidence that boundaries are possible and that one creates a healthier life when a logical, clear, valid limit is in place. I can see this book living on a bookshelf, pulled out whenever a potentially challenging conversation needs to happen. I fully intend to purchase and use it.

This book is a must-read for anyone who struggles with boundaries. Each chapter addresses boundaries with a specific group of people, from friends to family to coworkers. The author describes numerous real-life issues, then provides scripts that the reader can use to maintain their boundaries. These responses are labeled green, yellow, or red based on the level of firmness needed. At the end of the book, the benefits of holding boundaries are explored, leaving the reader energized to put this new knowledge into practice.

I have followed Melissa Urban since the early Whole 30 days. She has been my go-to for everything from finding food freedom, the best books to read, strong and bendy workouts, amazing hair and how to life on your own terms.

The Book of Boundaries is an experience comparable to sitting down with one of your wisest friends for a killer vent sesh and them giving you all the tools you need to thrive through chaos. Melissa is the extinguisher to my dumpster fire. Her guide is practical, realistic and readable. The sectioned chapters (dealing with everything from monster in laws to work and even ourselves) are perfect for re-reads in times of trouble and let's face it, building boundaries is not a one time use skill.

I cannot recommend this book enough. Whether you are a recovering people pleaser like myself or just need to set some small boundaries here and there, this is the book for you.

Pre-order it early, I did!, as it is set to release in October 11, 2022 and you are going to want this one on your forever shelf.

Thank you so much to Melissa, Netgalley, and the publisher for the gifted egalley in exchange for an honest review.

I often put others needs before mine. I have one sided relationships. This book was so helpful at helping me value me and my needs. Great concepts. Excellent information. Easy to read and understand.

Anyone who is experience struggles because they feel like relationships around them are draining them or that they are in situations in which they feel like they are being walked over, etc. needs to read this book. Melissa Urban writes in a way that makes talking about boundaries seem comfortable. The compassion and knowledge she shows throughout the book remind me of Brene Brown and I feel like fans of Brown will be fans of Urban. Urban gives so many different scenarios of boundary crossing and examples that you truly feel prepped and ready after reading the book. While I was reading it allowed me to identify situations that I could benefit from setting boundaries and made me excited to go out and set boundaries. Urban says that setting boundaries will set you free and I truly believe that. From romantic relationships, friendships, parents, work relationships and more there are so many areas in which we can benefit from boundaries but if we weren't taught that growing up it can be hard to identify and create boundaries. Boundaries can be a tricky topic but Urban explains them in a way them emphasizes clear communication and kindness so that they don't feel overwhelming nor do they hurt you or the person you are trying to communicate with. This book is for everyone and I enjoyed learning from the "boundary lady".

It isn't every day that I read a book that makes me stop and think about how I have approached my life as well as how I have allowed OTHER people to approach my life. Having lived through emotional abuse I have felt for awhile that I needed to reestablish some healthy boundaries and guidelines in my life. Between therapy and THIS BOOK, I feel I have a very good foundation and skill set when it comes to reaffirming myself and moving forward in a healthy way when it comes to difficult situations. And not only do I feel more secure in setting boundaries for myself, I feel I would be an excellent advocate for someone else while they try to set boundaries in areas of their life.

Boundaries can be a wonderful thing. "Good fences make good neighbors".

Thanks to this book I also understand that setting boundaries doesn't have to be MEAN. Boundaries are kind. Kind to me and kind to others. So many arguments can be avoided when both parties know what is expected of them in a situation.

Written with humor and caring seriousness, Melissa Urban has a great way of making situations relatable. By using her own life as an example, as well as questions that other people have sent her, she breaks down how to set healthy boundaries in a clear and concise way. Using a warning light system, each boundary has multiple 'threat' levels that the boundary setter can utilize depending how severe the situation is. As a bonus, Melissa also shows the flip side - what could happen without boundaries in place, which is actually very eye opening when you are so used to people walking all over you. You don't have to sit back and allow people to treat you poorly. You've only got this life - treat yourself kindly by setting boundaries so others know how to treat you well too.

I am firmly convinced that everyone would benefit from reading "The Book of Boundaries" by Melissa Urban.

I've been a big fan of Melissa's work since 2014 when I completed my first Whole30. So, I knew going into this book that there would be plenty of tough love. And there was, but Melissa's tone has become gentler over the years, while remaining true to her own voice.

"The Book of Boundaries" set up what boundaries are and why they are necessary in an easily understandable way with lots of personal stories along the way to illustrate. I loved the way the book is divided up among various categories of people you may need to set boundaries with, including yourself. But, the real star of this book is the real-life scenarios and included suggested boundary templates that allow you to make them your own. No need to waffle back and forth about what to say.

This book was well executed and very nicely laid out for maximum reader friendliness. I'm sure I will return to this book again and again as needs for boundaries arise in my own life.

I found this to be exactly what I’ve been searching for. I really struggle with boundaries and have always wished for a script of sorts to use until I gain some muscle memory. This was truly perfect and I think it’ll be the book that changes my life. I’m so thankful to have gained all the knowledge and insight from this book.

The Book of Boundaries is both clear and kind. It empowers readers to claim the space they need to show up fully in the world. Melissa weaves her own experiences with situations submitted by her community in a way that everyone will feel seen in at least one of the scenarios. And the common approach to all of them powerfully translates into a boundary setting toolkit that leaves you ready to enact the personal changes you need.