Whewwww. As someone recovering from people pleasing and negative self talk, this book was invaluable in gaining tools to understand and help myself through hard situations and habits. Kabir’s honest and kind voice shines through this powerful book in a way that makes it helpful for anyone on a journey to loving themselves more honestly.

Thank you to NetGalley and to the publisher for this ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Interesting and well written I just personally couldn’t get into the story. Difficult to follow at times and a little slow. I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.

Goodbye Perfect is a gentle whipping book for everyone. But as women I felt this book very important. Society appreciates perfection expecially nowdays with global connection through social medias. Everyone capable to show off their perfection (even fake it) at all aspect of life. Naturally women always found imperfect things from themselves. They constantly beat their own with nonstop unreachable standards and goals to become perfection. We also come into era that being kind dan supportive to other people sometime become backfire on us as people pleaser.

This book offer to help women to appreciate imperfections and approaches habits to become confident and reach better self level without depends on other people "approval". This topic is huge and this book still scrapes the surfaces. But it help us to realize what's mistake from our life.

Thank you Netgalley and Simple Truths from Sourcebooks Nonfiction for provided me with this ecopy. My thoughts and opinions always become my own.
Published 11 April 2023.

I received a complimentary copy from the publisher and all opinions expressed are entirely my own.

Goodbye, Perfect is a hug in pages that addresses all the people pleasing humans including me.. The book tackles perfectionism, approval seeking and doing stuff for people so as to win them over. This book although targeted for women should be read by everyone especially those in a spiral journey of being perfect. The book is divided into 3 and tackles what confidence is , how you can build yourself up to be a confident woman and the book has relatable stories too.

Okay, I’m gonna be honest, I really needed to read this. This book is full of useful tips and advice on improving yourself!

Interesting take on perfectionism. I always need to do better on this. I’ll try out some of the thoughts!

Are you like me and think that the only way people will like you is if you do everything perfectly? Well, if you are, then you should read this book.. This book makes you look at things in a new way and while I'm not guaranteeing that you will change everything about yourself, it will give you a new way to look at things,

This was much more clinical and heavy then I thought it was going to be. With the pink and bubbly cover, I was expecting a fun easy read that would help be better myself, but it felt like homework. Although the material was interesting, it could've been broken in smaller sections and subsections to simplify the reading process.
The book is divided in 3 parts. In the first part, the author explains what confidence actually is, how it can become fragile, and what gaps you need to fill to get a lasting sense of confidence. The second and third part are about building the components of confidence (a sense of belonging, with yourself and others, and a sense of mastery, with purpose and courage). The conclusion offers a great four-step framework that is very helpful in making the material more concrete.
I received an advance review copy for free and I am leaving this review voluntarily.

In a book primarily directed toward women, Homaira Kabir outlines her approach to living a more confident life. All too often, she asserts, women are too hard on themselves, even when they are understanding and supportive of others. She sees confidence as a means to an end--a promotion, learning to say no, or fulfilling the life goal--that each woman has but lacks the confidence to pursue. What would happen if a woman just got out of her own way and really lived her fullest life?

I was torn about this book--at times I felt that Kabir was looking over my shoulder or even reading my mind. Especially at first, I felt like she was seeing the perfectionist in me and speaking right to her. But as the book went on I felt like more of what she said had to do with her own anecdotal experience and less on science. She made some arguments based on women's biology that I doubt are either based in science or have been proven (e.g. emotion is feminine and logic is masculine). But she also made some arguments based on gender-normative conditioning, which I fully agree is societal and is quite proven. At the very least she makes points that reflect experiences that I have not experienced. I was very ready to find this book to be helpful in overcoming my tendency toward perfectionism, but I felt it fell short of being really helpful for me and was disappointed.

Thanks Partner Sourcebooks Nonfiction and NetGalley for my advance electronic copy.

This was a miss for me unfortunately. I was drawn in by the synopsis, but the narrative just fell flat for me and doesn't feel like one we need for our collection.