Clover is a death doula. She is also socially awkward, quirky, lonely, and a bit of a mess; however, she is also kind and extremely lovable. Her life has been on pause for years after a family tragedy. Her most recent client and a new neighbor bring some new perspective to Clover and her life may never be the same.

I absolutely loved this book! It deserves all the stars, but sadly I am limited to five. I received an advanced copy from the publisher and NetGalley in exchange for my honest review, so here it is. You absolutely must read this book! It is rare that a book makes me reflect seriously on my life. This book did just that!

Thank you to NetGalley for an ARC of The Collected Regrets of Clover.

I was pretty eager to read this based on the premise. I've never heard of a death doula before so I was incredibly intrigued and wanted to know more.

Other than learning what a death doula is and does, the narrative was more romance-y than I expected.

My biggest issue is Clover. I didn't dislike her but I didn't like her. I wouldn't want to hang out with her.

Clover is the trending character you find in so many books these days; quirky, a loner, off-beat, lacking confidence and self-esteem.

She's got all these 'supposedly' great qualities; she's attractive, kind, hot, well-read, but she doesn't see it in herself because she's quirky or too lonely and needs someone to tell her and even when they do, she misinterpret their words and actions and body language.

Actually, she misinterprets a lot.

She's afraid to take risks and risk opening up for fear of being hurt, which I understand and empathize with, but she's also incredibly naive despite her career choice and has done some traveling in college.

She self medicates by watching rom-coms and misinterprets body language, automatically assuming someone likes her or every couple she sees is in love.

I had to remind myself she's in her late thirties, not early twenties.

I'm getting tired of these kinds of main characters; awkward, shy, doesn't realize how attractive she is until people say it to her face and even then she's all "umm....hehe...no I'm not."

I loved learning about what a death doula does but once Clover is hired by Sebastian to support his grandmother, Claudia, the story became a Lifetime special.

Why does the main character in a story always have to have a romantic partner?

Why couldn't Clover find a group of BFFs to hang with? There's fulfillment with having a great network of friends.

Or maybe Clover could have empowered herself by undertaking the regrets she has collected through the years.

That would have been a far more interesting story instead of listening to her hem and haw about Sebastian and Sylvie.

I like the premise of The Collected Regrets of Clover but wished it had gone in a different direction with a better developed main character.

Sweet and a little sad. Much lighter than the usual Literary Fiction I read. I was attracted as the idea of a "death doula" was intriguing to me. Did not expect it to be more of a romantic, chick-lit genre. Cute story, but a bit formulaic -- think "Me Before You" meets "A Man Called Ove," both great books, but this one feels a little derivative. Not a must-read, but a quick and enjoyable one nonetheless.

This book surprised me. Our protagonist is Clover, a death doula and a bit of a loner. Despite the fact that the story deals with a profession of death and grief, Brammer was somehow able to create a story that was still very much uplifting and insightful, as well as captivating and though provoking. Her ability to balance all of these in a story is beyond impressive.

I thought Clover was perfect. Her interactions with people felt genuine and I couldn’t help but root for her. The ending also surprised me and I loved it. For fans of Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for an ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Thanks to Netgalley, I got a copy of this book and I LOVED IT! I love the main character, Clover, and how much she deals with. It was very interesting reading about her career as a death doula. I highly recommend this book!

I received an ARC of this book in exchange for an honest review.
What a delightful story! Clover is an unforgettable character and the author did a great job making her come alive. I loved learning more about the role of a death doula and going on Clover's journey to inhabit her own life.

Oh what an honor it was to read this book! I knew this would be a 5 star read when I felt seen by this book. Grief is different for everyone and this story does a wonderful job covering that.

Clover has job that usually scares people awag. You see she is a death dolua and she helps guide and cares for those dying. Death is something she feels comfortable with. She doesn't mind talking about it or even dealing with it. But living her own life is something she struggles with. She has been a loner most of her life and struggles with friendships, and love. Will Clover be able to break down her walls and live the life she wants?

What I loved:
- beautifully written. Seriously this was SO well written! I felt seen with in the first 15% of the book. I highlighted so many passages
- I loved Clover. She was relatable in a lot of ways.
- The friendships and love journeys we go through in this book!

As someone who is currently struggling with grief, this book was just what I needed. I cannot get over how much I love this book. This book will stay with me for a long time. I look forward to reading more from the author in the future. 5 stars out of 5! Thank you Netgalley for the ARC in exchange for an honest review!

It is rare that I read a book and find myself marking passages because the writing really touched me. This is one of those books. The Collected Regrets of Clover tells the story of Clover, whose parents died when she was 6 and she was raised by her grandfather. Since that early age, she was very interested in death, so much so that she studied Thanatology (the study of death and practices associated with it - I had to Google it!) and works as a Death Doula - similar to a Birth Doula but helping folks as they die. Clover is 36 and a loner but she realizes she needs to take risks and open herself up to new experiences. Two of the quotes that touched me the most were about grief: "The truth is, grief never really goes away. Someone told me once that it’s like a bag that you always carry—it starts out as a large suitcase, and as the years go by, it might reduce to the size of a purse, but you carry it forever." and also about how we view our parents: "It’s so easy to see your parental figure through that lens alone, to think that their existence has always revolved around yours. But before they were parents, they were simply human beings trying to navigate life as best they could, dealing with their own disappointments, chasing after their own dreams. And yet we often expect them to be infallible." No spoilers about this amazing story, just a recommendation to read it.

A big "thank you" to NetGalley and the Publisher for an ARC of this novel in exchange for an honest review.

The Collected Regrets of Clover by Mikki Brammer is one I will not forget. This was hands down the most beautifully written book I've read in a long time. This is not only a story about death, but a story about LIFE!

Clover, a death doula, spends most of her time either with the dying or by herself. "It wasn't that I was opposed to the idea of friendship; it's just that if you don't get close to anyone, you can't lose them. And I'd already lost enough people." Raised from the age of 6 by her grandfather, who passed away when she was out of the country years ago, Clover still lives in his apartment. Her only friend is Leo, an elderly neighbor who she has known most of her life.

As a death doula, Clover kept journals to document those she has been with while they've died, and kept three notebooks: one for advice, one for confessions, and one for regrets. Perhaps my favorite of the three, Clover would pick one regret and find a way to honor it by working their regret into her life somehow. By doing this, Clover starts to find regrets of her own. In turn, this leads her to slowly open herself up to new friendships and the possibility of romance.

While some of the relationships Clover holds with the dying are quick or more surface-level, the relationship she builds with Claudia is absolutely beautiful. In her relationship, she uncovers so much about herself while helping Claudia during her final weeks on earth. I absolutely loved their bond and the depths Clover went to to for Claudia during her final days.

In some ways, this book helped me understand my own grief over the loss of my father. I found myself highlighting so many parts that I found helpful in my own journey. This is the first book since the death of my father that has brought out this much emotion.

If I could give this book 10 starts, it wouldn't be enough. I have no doubt that this will be one of the top books of 2023!

Thank you to NetGalley, St. Martin's Press and Mikki Brammer for a copy of this ARC and a chance to read this amazing novel.

Clover the Death Doula, was raised by her grandfather after the death of parents. After her grandfather dies, she becomes even more closed off and isolated from the outside world. It takes meeting a dying woman to give her the insight that while helping others gracefully exit this life, she is not truly loving her own life.

This book contained many interesting characters of all kinds. Not a page turner, but a delightful read! I really enjoyed and highly recommend!

This was a very enjoyable read, and is a thought-provoking introduction to the life of a death doula. The writing flowed well, though at times it has an almost YA (Young Adult) feel to its style, which could be off-putting for some.

I will not summarize the book, because I think that is done too often in reviews. The first of this book was a great read. I loved Clover, even if the socially awkward character has been overdone lately. Her grandfather was the person every child should spend time with. I underlined many, many passages to remember to share with my book club when I thought I would recommend the book. Unfortunately, the second half became a Hallmark movie. Every story does not have to have a love conflict or a love story to make it enjoyable. Even the story of the grandmother became a little too sweet. The story would have been very good if it had concentrated on Clover carrrying out the regrets of others. I commend this new author on her first book. It has much to love and beautiful insights into death and dying. My library will buy it, but I will not recommend to readers I know.

A sweet, poignant, and unique novel. Clover is a death doula who has collected the regrets and advice of her patients. Trying to apply their life lessons, she still has a hard time getting out there and living her own life,. I loved the character of Clover: introverted, compassionate, observant, awkward, and I enjoyed seeing her development over the course of the book. If you liked Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine or The Bookish Life of Nina Hill, you'll enjoy this.

I love when I read a book and learn things I didn't know. I am happier when I learn while reading a well written book that tells a fascinating story. This is one of those rare books.

Clover, a death doula, uses her job of sitting with those who are dying, to avoid living her own life. Until a young man named Sebastian hires Clover to sit with his dying grandmother Claudia. These two women help each other in astonishing ways. Clover goes beyond simply sitting with Claudia, and finds a way to bring her happiness and peace in her last two week of life. Claudia, through the life she lived, pushes Clover to find her own life and begin to live

Remarkable writing and a fascinating story make this a book that shouldn't be missed.

You know how sometimes you pick up a book at just the right time and it speaks to you in a way that it wouldn't have any other time?

I taught Lifespan Development for several years, which covers, as we like to call it, from "womb to tomb." Students are always very uncomfortable with the chapter on death, and one of the main themes for discussion is how closed-off our culture is about death. We don't talk about it. We even use language to allude to death rather than confront it head-on ("passed away," "moved on," her "late" husband). There are some amazing nonfiction books about death out there - Caitlin Doughty is perhaps the most well known nonfiction writer about death and death rites. I love what Brammer has done here - novelized the death discussion (perhaps making it more digestable to some?). The MC is a death doula (who knew that was a thing? There's even an international association - INELDA). Of course there is a theme of death, but the overarching message is life, or as the adorable side character Leo says, "a beautiful life." Live your life. On your own terms. That's the message I needed, and the message we all need.

Thank you to NetGalley and St. Martin's Press for the ARC.

A beautiful book about living and dying and what we do in-between. Clover is lovable, an imperfect human dealing with her small life and what she has given away in her grief for so many years. Her heart starts to break open and she finally learns so much as she 'walks' to the end with the dying as a death doula.
Mikki Brammer has given us many lessons through her wonderful characters, People who embodied how life should be lived, Grandpa, Leo, her neighbour, each showed Clover hope, joy and a new way to be in the world.
As with life each day, we see that death is the opportunity to re-think our choices. Using the gift of her opening heart, Clover shares her soul growth with us the reader in the sweetest, loveliest book.
We begin to understand that Life is not simple or easy, but when you choose to surround yourself with the love of others, It is better.

Thank you #NetGalley and #StMartinsPress for this arc for my unbiased opinion. This book is a marvel and will stay with me for the thought provoking words and images of crammed apartments, bustling (but lonely) streets, bookstores with owners that know you, and a shelf with 3 important notebooks.

I look forward to reading more from Mikki Brammer.

Read further thoughts on my blog https://morethanlettersonalinetoday.blogspot.com/2023/01/the-collected-regrets-of-clover-book.html

Magnificent! Inspiring! Thought provoking! Loved this book and would read it again. Clover is in her mid thirties and lives in New York in the apartment she shared with her Grandfather until his death. She is a death doula possibly because she was not with her Grandfather when he died. She is a loner, no friends except for a friend of her Grandfather. She loves just reading in her apartment and rarely leaving the house, except when she has to go to a client. Through her interactions with her clients before they pass, Clover learns some life lessons. She begins to think of a life outside herself. Following her journey was inspirational.
I voluntarily read and reviewed an advance copy of this book. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

This book is exactly what I wanted it to be. You get sucked into Clover’s singular life. Although she can be a somewhat frustrating character with her lack of willingness to socialize and put herself out there, it is equally heartwarming. Clover learns to let people in, learns to live her life, and learns so much from her clients. Obviously many tears were shed during this book. I think grief and death were written about very beautifully. I loved how earnest and sincere Clover was, rather than a snarky or jaded. The only potential issue I had is that Clover is extremely welltravelled and educated and I think her extreme social anxiety and personally would have been more of a factor in this part of her life.

Thanks to Netgalley and St Martin's Press for providing me a free ARC in exchange for an honest review.

I'm so conflicted about my thoughts on this book because I truly enjoyed it, yet something just felt *off* to me and I can't quite put my finger on what. But I'll try!

This book was an endearing read. The author handled grief and loss, family and love, with such care and skill. Those topics are heavy, and yet the book never felt like a depressing read or experience; rather, it felt like a warm hug from a friend who knows what you're going through. I found it hard to put down!

The writing was strong, the prose felt natural, and the pace was just right.

Here's where I struggled: Something about Clover just didn't add up. Part of me initially wondered whether it was me--am I just OVER the quirky, slightly unhinged, oh-she's-just-different female MC?--but as I kept reading it started to feel like the actions and reactions of the characters around Clover didn't add up to who the character of Clover was that the author created for us.

She's a death doula, right? She talks to people who are in the midst of passing, which takes a certain level of patience and skill, and would teach you a thing or two about having conversations simply by practice--helping alleviate your anxiety of talking to others, illustrating how to carry a conversation, what an average or rewarding conversation looks like, etc. And yet, she's so awkward in her exchanges with people.

She also acts like she believes she's not attractive, and yet nearly everyone she encounters during the course of the book is wooed by her. Clover's inner monologue and POV was completely incongruous with how the characters and the world encountered her.

Based on early reviews, this issue clearly didn't impact other readers, so perhaps it's just me. And like I said, despite that issue, I did still enjoy the book. For the vast majority of readers, it will probably be a lovely read, especially for those who enjoy a slightly awkward main character a la Nita Prose's The Maid, The Very Nice Box by Laura Blackett, and Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine.

Clover is afraid of people. She literally runs from any acquaintance or social situation headed her way whether it's a new person introducing herself in her building, an attendee from a social event, or everyday folks out and about in NYC. Is it because she's afraid of telling them her vocation? Clover is a death doula. If you've never heard of this profession, these are people that help the dying cross over to the other side, consoling them through their last breaths. Clover has done this so far for 95 people.
Cover's parents died when she was young and was raised by her grandfather, who she was very close to. He recently passed away and now she fears she'll have to venture out into the world and make new friends.
Luckily, several circumstances occur that make this easier than she thinks when a client contacts her about helping his grandmother deal with her impending death, and she meets a new friend, Sylvia, who moves into her building.

There are lots of life lessons in this book. Clover realizes that to get something she doesn't have, she'll have to do something she hasn't done before, and become uncomfortable. She takes the advice of several of her patients, as there is no point in a beautiful death if you haven't lived a beautiful life. Clover learns that she needs to help herself just as she does her patients. This leads to friendships, romance, and the reunion of two lovers. This is a very poignant story that brought me to tears several times. You'll fall in love with Clover and want to know what she'll do next!