I found this book to be very insightful. It was written in a manner that was not offensive but told it like it is. As a woman, it’s easy to create fantasy worlds with our crushes that just are not realistic. This book defines how to see things for how things really are in the dating experience.

Ok I need to preface this review by explaining why I requested this book. I thought I was going to get some juicy insider info on the bachelor franchise---clearly I did not read the synopsis. Whoops.

I am happily married with two kids. I don't really need this type of book in my life. With that said, holy cow, I think I'd have devoured it in college! Did he say anything that hasn't been said a million times already? No! But sometimes it's nice to hear it said differently or by a different person.

I also really appreciated towards the end of the book where he talks about breaking up and why it's OKAY to walk away from a relationship without feeling like you wasted time. Boy did my college self need to read that.

I don't typically rate nonfiction, but this was a solid 4-4.5 stars from me. He didn't say anything that ticked me off, but he also didn't reinvent the wheel (nor did he need to)

Really obvious and repetitive relationship advice that’s not at all helpful. Written from a privileged dudes perspective.. don’t waste your time

This book wasn't quite what I expected. I've been following Nick Viall since his Bachelor days, and I was hoping for maybe more behind the scenes insight on his previous relationships as well as the humor I've seen on his social media. However, this book was truly a book of dating and relationship advice. As someone who is happily married, I was not the target audience for this book and found much of the advice did not apply to my current stage in life.

That being said, I could see where this book might have been helpful for me 7-8 years ago. He really does have a lot of solid advice for people in the often frustrating dating world.

I'll start by saying that I don't hate Nick - if I did, I wouldn't have bothered reading his book. I like Nick, and I was curious about what he had to say. While I think he had some good points, and I generally (though not always) agree with/at least see his point of view, I don't feel like I need to read any other book he might put out there in the future.

I also don't think I'm Nick's target audience, being that I'm in a happy, healthy, long-term relationship. I feel like his advice gets repetitive at times, and it's very focused on women who were screwed over by men and can't seem to get over it.

I loved this book! I enjoyed Nick as The Bachelor and love following him on social media, so I was intrigued to read this book! It did not disappoint. Nick have great advice in this book and I couldn’t put it down.

Nick Viall giving the masses dating advice, who knew???

I know that sounds incredibly judgmental...BUT being introduced to this man through the Bachelor and Bachelorette franchise it's a very surprising move from him in my eyes.

If I was single and navigating through the chaos that is the dating world, I would take the guidance Nick gives in his book. I know, I am surprised that I am saying this too!

Yes, Viall doesn't have a degree in counseling or psychology (he says it himself) but he really does offer some very insightful information regarding dating.

The biggest thing that he preaches throughout the entirety of the book is that you need to understand yourself and your needs when it comes to relationships. Expressing what you want is so important! It doesn't matter if you're on your first date, casually dating or in a long-term relationship, Nick is telling us all that communication is key for a happy relationship. When we don't say what we need or want, miscommunication happens essentially ending a potentially great connection.

I am currently in a long-term relationship and I am extremely happy yet I learned a lot from listening to Nick. Relationships aren't always perfect and they are hard. Viall offers direction when it comes to communicating what's best for you. Personally, what I found extremely helpful is understanding how our partners express love. They might show their appreciation for you differently than what you expect. If they don't cherish gift giving than your partner might express fondness for you by acts of service or quality time. I thought this was very insightful. It was something that I didn't even realize that was happening in my current relationship and now find additional happiness in.

Yes, I would recommend this book. It's a very current and modern dating survival guide. Nick really put's it all out there when it comes to navigating a dating world that is centered around social media and technology. It's hard to find connections.

Hearing terms like "fuck-boy," "ghosting," and "love bombing" can make it terrifying to want to put yourself out there but hear me out reading through this book will make you more confident. Sometimes we just need to hear what we're doing wrong and Nick definitely tells you why your still single...You aren't communicating what is best for you. You are a priority. Your happiness is important.

This is very pleasant reading, with solid, useful advice. I appreciated the very modern take on how to deal with apps, the particulars of sliding into DMs, etc. I also liked that the core message was always self-respect. The author's tone is easy and conversational. It maybe relied a bit too much on personal anecdotes (though, surprisingly, very little regarding any Bachelor-related relationships), but it was a worthwhile read with good intentions. I finished it feeling empowered and focused on my own well-being.

Many thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review!

The same wit and advice that you get every week from the Viall Files podcast. It reads like Nick is your best friend that will tell you the truth that you don't always want to hear but need to know.

This was basically an updated version of He’s Just Not That Into You. With that being said, I loved that book and movie!!!

Don’t Text Your Ex by Nick Viall had some helpful and practical insight on modern dating. I appreciated hearing from a male’s perspective. Usually most of the advice I get comes from my female friends and family.

With that being said, this book took me a lot longer to get through. I normally finish a book in a couple days. However, this could have been due to the genre. I prefer reading fiction to non-fiction/ self-help books.

I would recommend reading this book if you are a fan of Bachelor Nation, Nick Vial, or simply seeking advice on finding love.

Special thanks to NetGalley.com and Abrams for allowing me to read this book in exchange for my honest feedback.

I knew I immediately needed to read this when I saw another Bachelor book was coming out! However, this one was different from most since it is more of a self-help/advice book instead of a memoir. Once I got into it, I realized quickly it was not for me. Some issues I had with the book (1) I'm not sure what qualifies Nick to be giving advice/ repackaging He's Just Not That Into You and (2) the book constantly refers back/forth to other portions of the book. At first it was fine, but then it just got annoying and unnecessary. If I'm reading a book straight through (like I assume many people do), why would I want to jump ahead / go backwards to reread what you already read or are going to read? If people are going into thinking "wow, I really want dating advice from Nick Viall", this book is for you. Sadly, it didn't work for me, as it felt condescending and like he didn't read the room (i.e. talking about advising women to deal with bad behavior rather than to men and their behavior along with how as a man he doesn't have to deal with worrying about a biological clock).

Thank you to the author, Abrams and NetGalley for providing a copy to review.

Happy Pub Day to "Don't Text Your Ex Happy Birthday: And Other Advice on Love, Sex, and Dating" by Nick Viall!
You may know or have at least heard of Nick Viall for his "villain persona" as former Bachelor and Bachelorette contestant. He now is the host of the well-known podcast "The Viall Files", which releases three episodes each week pertaining to The Bachelor franchise, society and pop culture, and a special segment called "Ask Nick", in which listeners call in and receive relationship (romantic, familial, etc.) from Nick.

Growing up, going to my grandparents' house was a treat. Each time I was there, I'd grab a newspaper and would dissect it, looking for three things: the crime beat, the sudoku puzzles, and the advice columns. I am a sucker for reading, listening to, and all-around consuming advice. I think it is only human to want to listen to someone's problems, and either help them fix them or listen to someone else attempt to fix them. 

This book can ultimately be for anyone; however, I like to think it is primarily written for his "Ask Nick" listeners and young adults who need the extra push navigating the hardships of romantic relationships and modern-world dating. 

Each chapter is broken down by the stages of a relationship and the different types of relationships: making the first move, the first date, the breakup, getting over your ex, navigating hookup culture, and more. 

If you are a fan of Nick or his podcast, there is a chance you will like this book. Nick has a distinct tone - he is blunt, brutally honest, and will not tell you what you want to hear, but rather need to hear. I have seen several critiques of his tone sounding condescending, as if he is mansplaining dating to women. I think it is important to know Nick's personality and intentions behind his bluntness. 

This book would best be used as guide to dating - Nick breaks down what it means to be ghosted, the differences between players and fuckboys, what to do in certain situations, and how to check your ego. 
Thank you Netgalley for the advanced digital copy!

📖BOOK REVIEW

💕 Don’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday by Nick Viall 💕

Rating: N/A
Pub Date: October 4, 2022

I was so excited to get my hands on @nickviall new book! 😍 I have been a Bachelor Nation fan for more than half my life and Nick’s always been one of my favorites! As a former Bachelor and Bachelorette contestant, he definitely has racked up some relationship stories and do’s/dont’s for dating.

I’ve been listening to Nick’s podcast since the very beginning and one of my favorite segments of his is when people call in with questions and he offers them dating advice. This book compiles that same type of advice mixed in with some of his own relationship experiences. He explores how challenging it can be dating in the “hook up culture” world we live in today and how to navigate all things dating, love and sex.

One thing I’ve always admired about Nick is his candor and ability to be raw and honest even when the truth hurts. He doesn’t sugarcoat anything and just tells it how it is. He doesn’t claim to be an expert on love and relationships, he’s just a guy who gives insightful advice based on his own relationship successes and pitfalls.

I would definitely recommend this book to all you single ladies out there! As a married woman, I really hope I will never have to use this advice in the real world ever again 😆LOL- but this was definitely a fun and enjoyable read by one of my favorite Bachelor Nation guys! 🌹

What to expect:
✨ Dating do’s/don’ts
✨ Male perspective on dating
✨ Honest feedback
✨ Relationship questions/answers

A big thank you to @nickviall @abramsbooks and @netgalley for this ARC in exchange for an honest review.

Oof. I watched all the seasons that Nick was on the Bachelor franchise and was interested to hear what he had to say on dating and relationships. Ultimately, I was not the target audience for this book as I am an adult. This read like a handbook for teenagers as some of the topics were SO dumbed down. Once he started with the advice, things went downhill.

I liked Nick as the Bachelor and I do enjoy an episode of Viall files from time to time, but after this read, I am really not sure that we needed a book from Nick. The advice was a bit forced and it just didn't feel very authentic.

Overall, it was a quick and easy read, but I just didn't really connect with it.

Four stars for content, two stars for the worst editing maybe ever and, if I could, an extra half star because I actually really like Nick Viall and was excited to read this book.
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I’ve seen some reviews that accused him of being condescending or “mansplaining” (which is a super annoying term in itself), but I strongly disagree with those assessments.
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This read like a conversation with a good friend who was really sick of watching me get myself into shitty situations. He watched me try to figure it out myself, I couldn’t get it together, and now it’s time for a heart-to-heart.
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I also heard some people reference his “trouble” with relationships in the past, as though that made him less qualified to speak on them. Nah. I think that makes him more qualified. He speaks from experience. He paid attention to what worked and what didn’t, learned from it, and is now trying to help others learn from his mistakes. (I may know a thing or two about this.)
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That all being said, I thought it was going to be a memoir. I’m happily married and didn’t really need this book, but it was nice to get an update on how ol’ Nick is doing, as I don’t watch much TV and only saw him briefly on Bachelor in Paradise like six years ago. He seems happy. And he seems confident, which is why I think some people get an “I’m cooler than you” vibe from the book. Meh. Nick Viall IS cooler than me, so I wasn’t offended.
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I do hope the editing was fixed in the final copy. That was rough, friend. Tip: you don’t say “quote-unquote” in print. You just use our old friends, the quotation marks. I was very close to volunteering my own editing services, but wasn’t quite sure who to call. The poor editing is distracting and the message he’s sending deserves better delivery.
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Overall, I enjoyed the book. Wish I had had it back in my single days, but better late than never. Fun read, pick it up - especially if you’re single.
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Thanks to Nick Viall, Abrams, and Netgalley for the ARC in return for my honest review.

ARC BOOK REVIEW // DON’T TEXT YOUR EX HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Pub Date: October 4, 2022

“True success in love is found by refusing to settle”

If you’re a diehard Bachelor Nation fan (like I am!) you know that Nick Viall is not a stranger to the franchise - he, like ALLLL of us has endured heartbreak, rejection, and left wondering “what the heck just happened to my relationship?”

As someone who Is currently single, I related to MANY topics addressed in this book – I appreciated how Nick talked in length about how being single is OKAY, and the pressure society puts on single women AND men to “hurry up and get married”

And completely unrelated to the book, a recent study exposed that Dallas has more cheaters per captia than any other U.S city….pray for me, ya’lll…or better yet: Nick can you get me on The Bachelor?!

If I learned anything from this book is you gotta be willing to TRY and put in the work to find a lasting relationship – so In the words of Hilary Duff “why not take a crazy chance?”

I also really liked how this book was written from a man’s perspective – Nick did a great job of being real and most importantly, brutally HONEST about what certain situations REALLY mean, and the best course of action to take to avoid a potentially heartbreaking circumstance

My favorite part of this book were the text message style Q&A that were placed at the end of each chapter – Nick did not hold back in speaking in his mind, and basically reiterated to WALK AWAY from ANY relationship (or situationship) that is toxic or is quite honestly no longer making YOU happy

Another takeaway was, YOU are In control of your feelings and ultimately what YOU want out of a relationship

I most DEFINTELY would recommend this book is all my fellow single ladies out there!

Thank you to @netgalley and @abramsbooks for an e-arc in exchange for an honest review

Preliminary thoughts:
- Spoken like a man giving a woman unsolicited advice
- I think the target audience for this is teenage girls
- He talks a lot about ego & being honest with yourself . He really thinks he’s a guru
- BIG EYE ROLL

Curiosity killed the cat, and as a fan of the Bachelor, obviously I went into this one curious if Nick V. had anything juicy or interesting to say. It was a big-fat snore and felt very preachy. I am generally not a fan of Nick but I was hoping this book would change my perspective... it did not. He really thinks he's a gift to his people. His advice wasn't bad but it was very elementary and I personally don't think it needed to be packaged into a book. He's a 40 year old man and doesn't need to be giving teenage girls advice which is exactly what if felt like even though his audience is women 20-35. There were sentences in the book where it sounded like he thought he was ~shocking~ the reader - spoiler alert Nick it is 2022, the concept of casual sex does not ~shock~ us. This is really just a re-branded version of [book:He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys|10412] which also should've been a magazine article and not a full book.

Ok that's all.

Great advice for young adults trying to navigate relationships. It includes a lot of lessons we only tend to learn through experience. The advice in this book is straight forward without being sugar coated, which I like. I love how vulnerable nick is. He puts his fears and insecurities out there but shows how he’s turned them into life lessons and strengths. Overall I liked his advice, but it was a little repetitive and a bit drug out. I found myself skimming a lot towards the second half. Could have been articulated better had it been condensed into an article.

Cute for singles that are looking for nontraditional love advice. I'm not, but enjoyed Nick on the Bachelor franchise and hearing his voice and perspective on relationships, mistakes, successes, and failures. Honest, revealing with a good dose of humor.