Thanks to NetGalley and the Publisher for allowing me to read this ARC.

3.5*** rounded to 4

This is a book about generations of sexual abuse that is swept under the rug. While this is a heavy subject and has triggers it is not graphic.

While this book was easy to read and flowed nicely it was missing something for me. I expected to feel rage, sadness or anything, but I didn't. I had a hard time connecting to any of the characters. This won't stop me from reading anymore of Gregg Olsen's book though.

*TRIGGER WARNING* -- This book contains rape/incest/pedophilia themes.

This is one of the hardest books I've ever read - mentally and emotionally. I certainly was not anticipating how raw I would feel from my own experience with this kind of trauma, but Gregg Olsen does an insane job at putting you right in the shoes of the women involved in this story.

If you want a book that makes you think about the impact these things have on the victim for the rest of their life, read this. But make sure you've got the stomach for it.

Big thanks to Thomas & Mercer for the ARC. Super intense book. I think the only reason I'm not giving it higher ratings was that there were some parts where I did disconnect with the storytelling. Overall, decent.

I was certain this was going to be a 3 star read for me. Throughout all of it, I was a bit - well bored is not the right word, but less than engaged. This is heavy on the family drama and the tough subject of child abuse and how it affects the whole family. However, it picked up at the end and boosted it almost up to a 4, so I rounded up. There's a lot to unpack within these pages, and it's a difficult and sensitive subject. But I can say by the time I got to the end, I was pretty satisfied. I still, however, am completely baffled by the title as I don't really understand how it even ties in.

I haven’t read any books by this author before but I rely know that he deals with complex social and mental issues. This book deals with generational sexual abuse and how the victim deals with, which eventually leads to murder.

Violet is about to get married but she hasn’t told her fiancé yet about the sexual abuse she faced from her own grandfather. In the course of this book, we realise that even her mother was a victim of sexual abuse.

But unfortunately there is so much hatred in this book in the form of Violet. She hates everyone. And yes it is acceptable. Although we have never been in their shoes, sexual abuse victims can be different and deeply troubled. But this book was confusing with its narration and there are so many places where times lines were not linear and easy to understand.

3 stars for bringing such a strong subject to a book and to bring awareness to the victims of such abuse. A deep book with some strong emotions.

Violet is getting married in the two condition she has for mother is that one she will not be wearing her poof he dress a number two she doesn’t want her pedophile grandfather at her wedding. Her mother Rose agrees to both but at the last minute roses parents and violets grandparents decide to show up at the wedding anyway. No one except for Rose her daughter Lily and Violet no what Papa did to Violet and even though he has an allergic reaction and was rushed to the hospital from the wedding and dies Violet feels a certain relief from the death of her grandfather but she also feels a bit of vindictiveness against other pedophiles in more than once she’ll let us play out but when her mom Rose comes to terms with the type of father she really had the type of mother she still God her guilt will play out much differently with for reaching effects. This book was so good I have really enjoyed Greg Olsen’s mystery/thrillers from the first one to this one he has a writing style that once you start reading it’s hard to stop but this Book I think is his best. If you love domestic thrillers with a real life solution you really need to read “ I know where you live.“ it really is a great read and one I highly recommend. I received this book from NetGalley and the publisher but I am leaving this review voluntarily please forgive any mistakes as I am blind and dictate most of my review.

I know Where You Live deals with a difficult subject like many of Gregg Olsen's books. Olsen does a good job of creating complex characters and does thorough research into his subjects. This is a fictional novel about the effects of generational sexual abuse and while I applaud the author for taking on this subject, I felt the book was disorganized and the messages were muddled. Violet is a young woman about to me married to Zach. Zach is a great guy and they are very much in love. But Violet has not told him about the sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of her grandfather when she was a child, and when the grandfather appears at her wedding uninvited, it starts a series of events that end up in murder.

I liked the relationship between Violet and her sister Lily but their intense hatred for their mother who was a victim herself is just too much. This is a book about vigilante killing and besides Violet's story the author brings in a possible "angel of death" story about a nurse, teachers who have responsibility to report abuse, and other people and situations beyond Violet's story. I think the story would have been better focused on Rose, Violet and Lily as bringing in so many other characters and situations made everything confusing. There was a lot of hatred in the book and I found it impossible to believe Violet could have a good marriage while seeming to hate so many people (she sees a police officer on his off time driving a red car and thinks it means he has a small penis because people can't just like a red car). I also wished he would have had people from the SA therapy group who advocated something beyond murder; it seems a generalization to think that a survivor's problems would all be solved if the perpetrator were murdered. Three stars for brining to light an important subject but I didn't think the overall message quite hit the mark and the story was confusing with so many tangents. Thank to NetGalley and the publisher for a copy of this ARC in exchange for a review,

Intense mystery that will grab you until the end. Serious and triggering topic of generational child abuse and it's domino effects on anyone involved. Vengeance and retribution, and the ability to forgive, or choice not to.

This was a DNF around 35%. The topic can be triggering and is certainly a difficult topic to discuss and/or read about, That aside, I had a hard time seeing Violet as a victim and for her to turn into a vigilante at the drop of a hat (on her honeymoon with no connection to the perpetrator) while her new husband is none the wiser was way to far fetched for me to follow along with (and buy into). Supporting vigilante justice, even in circumstances like this, is not something I condone and had a harder time reading about it then I expected. Not having finished the book, I'm not sure how the Angel of Death ends up playing out, but up until the 35% mark it seemed to come out of no where and be a good "scape goat" for justice that felt far fetched (maybe it ends up coming together/playing out in the end). I have enjoyed a few other titles by Gregg Olsen, but this one wasn't one of them.

I typically really enjoy Gregg Olsen's books, but this one fell flat for me. "I Know Where You Live" has all the makings of an intriguing story: dysfunctional family drama, vigilante justice, long-buried secrets.. However, when reading the different viewpoints, I was found myself completely disengaged from Violet's character, as there was nothing making her "real" for me - and the idea that she would suddenly start behaving in such extreme behavior without her new husband or anyone catching on, or feeling any complex emotions about it made her a one-dimensional character who should have been much more complicated.

The story is about a victim becoming a vigilante. The family felt so dysfunctional and the characters shallow except the second daughter. The prose doesn’t help either. I feel it is giving a wrong message for the victims. The idea should be about getting ones life back on rather than to start wielding a knife. The title doesn’t connect with the story.

Another winner by Gregg Olsen. I really enjoyed this book. The ugly family drama was suspenseful and felt so real. Difficult topic but I couldn’t put it down.

I am not sure why people say this is such a raw book. It's not. Sure, the topics are hard ones to read about. However, the book didn't go into detail about the events that lead her to see herself as a victim. I'm not discounting the character's victimhood, but it was only the one time. Others in her family and her circle suffered much worse, yet we don't get their stories.

I went into this book expected to have my heart stopped and clogged with rage and emotion. I got neither. The abuse is fluffed over. The selfishness of all the characters was front and center and annoying as heck.

I think for me, I want more from the words in a book that could be as powerful as this book should've been.

This one wasn't all that great.

3.5 stars
This story centres around a family and how they have dealt with childhood sexual assault. A mother in denial, an oblivious father, a child in distress, and a sister affected by and unaware of the cause of her siblings moods. I enjoyed Lily's and Rose's chapters more than I enjoyed Violet's. I was very interested in Papa's death and the mystery surrounding that more than I was in Violet's anger, and most of that story existed in Rose and Lily's chapters. Rose's thought processes and background story added something to the book. You were waiting to find out what her deal was. And Lily I was always guessing what she was going to do. Would she help? hinder? get in the way of? the various events that were going on? Violet was the victim from page one. Her thought process was a loop of much of the same thing. I have thankfully never been abused and as much as I had sympathy for her and understood her anger I just didn't find her chapters as stimulating. That and her recklessness and lack of forethought for her crimes kept me anxious about her being captured.
All in all a really good read.

I’ve enjoyed a few books by this author and was excited to see that he had a new one. This story is told by multiple points of view and has a tendency to jump around a little. With that being said, I didn’t find it difficult to follow, however, some parts were hard to read due to the sensitive issues and subject matter.

Thanks Netgalley for allowing me to read this book. Violet is starting to feel empowered after her grandfather passed away. She told her mom what he did to her and she told her to keep quiet and say nothing. Violet marries the love of her life and is starting the next chapter in her journey. I enjoyed this book.

First off, thank you so much to #Netgalley, the publisher and especially the author for this ARC!

This book was kind of hard to read at some points with the sex*al abuse and sometimes the jumping around different povs and times it could get confusing but overall it was an enjoyable book to read and the ending satisfied!

This book tells the story from three viewpoints—a mother, and both of her daughters. Family secrets become revealed as the book goes on, and those secrets have deadly consequences.

I didn’t view this book as a typical mystery. In fact, it took me close to one-third of the book before I figured out what the mystery was. I almost decided to not finish the book, but luckily, I stuck with it, and the last two-thirds were much better. It was not my favorite work of Mr. Olsen’s, but it was definitely worth the read.

Thank you to Net Galley, the publisher, and the author for an ARC of this book.

thank you to the publisher and netgalley for this ARC in exchange for my honest review

multiple viewpoints that keep you guessing and guessing until the end. A great story and fun read!

A very good Who Done It....kept me guessing till the end! Just when you think you have it figured out there is another twist.

I loved (but was disturbed by) If You Tell. This is a solid 3 1/2 star book. I did like the fact that it was told from different viewpoints and didn't find it hard to follow, which isn't always the case. But, even though the content is a heavy topic, I didn't like how Violet's character so quickly handled pedophiles and how easy it was made to seem.

I would still recommend it, I just don't think it is as strong as some of the author's other books.