i went blindly into this book, wanting to change the genre from what i usually read. i don't really read any self help book, and i don't know if it's because i am not used to read that kind of book, but i didn't manage to get into the book.

as someone who tries to embrace more the "no" into my routine, some of the topics felt a little bit off. and i think i mostly didn't really get into it because i am not used to this kind of book. i thought that it was a little too repetitive. however, it helped me to understand more some of my actions, and maybe how i am a "people pleaser". but other than that, it wasn't really for me :/

Thank you to the Publisher and Netgalley for the arc of this book in exchange of an honest review.

This book has been the most helpful self help book I have ever read. I have been a people pleaser my entire life (who is also a perfectionist with ADHD), but there are so many things about myself and my childhood that I have just started to unpack the past two years. This book is helping me unpack and understand so much. It goes so beyond people’s normal advice of well just stop people pleasing, and say no more…etc. - that has never worked for me. It dives into types of people pleasers and the reasons and psychology behind it to help people understand more deeply why they do it, how to spot it, and how to break their patterns. This guide book to learning to say no and draw boundaries is essential for those of us who struggle with that. I will recommend this to any people pleaser I ever meet.

Great book. I lived The thought provoking questions and activities. Highly recommend!!!!!…………I would read another book by this author.

a life-changing read that empowers you to break free from people-pleasing and reclaim your boundaries. As someone who struggled with saying no, this book provided me with practical strategies and insights to confidently assert myself and prioritize my own needs. Lue's approach is compassionate yet firm, guiding readers through the process of setting healthy boundaries and cultivating self-respect. Her writing is clear, relatable, and filled with actionable advice that truly resonated with me. If you're ready to say goodbye to the overwhelm of constantly saying yes, I highly recommend diving into "The Joy of Saying No." It's a game-changer for anyone seeking to live authentically and embrace the life they truly want.

Phew. This book was illuminating, to say the least. I had no idea there were different types of people pleasers but I’m here to say I identify fully with at least three and a half of them. I highlighted huge passages that describe me to a T. This book has made me far more aware of how I’m trying to please people and why, and I found it an invaluable and relatable resource.
Huge thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for the digital ARC

3.5 stars rounded up for this quote: "The yes buffet is officially closed."

The author splits us (people pleaser) into 5 categories. I didn't put myself in one of these so that I could remain open to all the information. A lot of the initial information is similar to what you might find in other books (like Boundaries.) The author writes in an accessible (sometimes overly casual) way and gives real examples of what to say and do in various situations. This isn't for everyone but it can help a lot of people who have no "no" button.

This book has a six step framework to learn the power of saying no. Many of us learn early on to say yes to please others but with this book you can learn to reclaim your power to set boundaries and say no. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for an ARC.

As a people pleaser, I found this book to be very helpful in understanding why I agree to things that I either have no interest or capacity for. I’m taking baby steps in following the advice (and making good progress, nothing awful has happened so far as a result of me saying no!). Thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for an advance reading copy.

This book was great about teaching you it is ok to say no. The book will help you learn to say no and not feel guilty. The book will help identify your people pleasing skills. An easy read that will definitely teach you about saying no.

OH BOY! Was this book written for me?! I think so. The Joy of Saying No; A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want by Natalie Lue was a joy to read and absolutely important! A delightful book that belongs on every library shelf! I felt so lucky to get a copy for myself! I have shared on my goodreads, bookstagram, and booktok!

Before reading this book, I never realized how much of a people pleaser I truly was. This was an eye-opening read to how much people pleasing, and taking on more than you can swallow, can impact several aspects of your life (some you may have not noticed the affects of). I also really enjoyed how this story delved into the different types of people pleasers and how to identify your type, and your underlying motivations behind your people pleasing. While I really enjoyed my reading experience, I will say that some chapters became a bit repetitive with the same point being restated just with different wording. Overall, it was a very enjoyable book with interesting topics and digestible reading that I would definite recommend to any people pleaser out there!

Whew, where was this book years ago?! This book is my kind of book...filled with poignant insights that are life changing! I really love this one and am happy to have had the chance to read it!

This book is an absolute must-read for perfectionists everywhere. I'm about halfway through, so now I'm on the data collection section, but I continued to read the rest of the book and I can confirm this will be one of my most important books of the year. Thank you to NetGalley for providing an ARC of this important book.

A beautiful look though how to utilize your inner light in life and how to make your life brighter. Pun intended. Highly recommend. Especially loved the reflection to true life to humanize my feelings and relate. I felt like this book was SPEAKING TO ME. I received an advance review copy for free, and I am leaving this review voluntarily.

As someone who is a people pleasure and has been struggling to stop, this book was something I desire to have on my shelf. It was very easy to read, unlike most self help books that I have read, and it was also very informative. I now have a clearer idea of my boundaries and I no loner feel bad about saying now.

I can't say enough good things about this book. Even people who not typically think of being people-pleasing will likely relate to some of the thoughts and behaviors described, and these explanations are followed by clear, actionable advice. The author's tone is warm and relatable without resorting to platitudes, and ultimately I feel that this title has the potential to become a new cult phenomenon much like the 5 Love Languages.

I'm a people pleaser. It really, really blows. I grew up not knowing how to say no, and I still struggle not to overbook myself in order to avoid disappointing people. Does this sound like you? Then you should read this book. It goes over everything you've probably already told yourself, but hearing it from a professional will help solidify it. Say no to things you don't have to do! Don't stretch yourself too thin! It's a well organized and digestible book for recovering people pleasers like me.

This is a must-read for recovering people-pleasers and those who are looking to improve themselves. The author has done a lot of research into people pleasing and it shows - the examples, the explanations of what causes one to please others/difficulty in saying NO.

The types of people pleasers and what made them so - this is the best part about this book. Detailed explanations (background, rather) and how to cope up with it.

During the past year, I've made a concerted effort to read a lot of self-help books. I try to keep these focused to my more specific needs, because I truly believe that there's a level of matchmaking in this genre. Well, this book found me at the perfect time. It's taken me a long time to unpack enough that I can even start to identify some of my behavioral patterns as people-pleasing (the term perfectionism, however, always resonated with me). However, this book goes into so much helpful detail about the different "styles" of people pleasing that I was able to connect with 2-3 of them and take away some valuable insights. I especially appreciated the depth of the third part of the book, which focused on how to move forward from the behavioral patterns that may have felt like defining character traits.

As an aside, I will say that this book is not for people who are in a particularly vulnerable state. While I think it's helpful, there is some pretty blunt and direct verbiage in here that could make someone feel particularly ashamed, defensive, etc. Just be sure to protect yourself and don't push too hard if things are feeling too uncomfortable. Come back to the passages that stung later when you're feeling more regulated.

"The Joy Of Saying No" will be an excellent book for those people who tend to please others a lot, each with their different reasons. Although I'm not the target audience, I chose to read this book because I was curious about what people pleasers who have a hard time saying no think.

It is interesting to see the reasoning of these people through the eyes of the author who initially speaks from experience and I feel that this makes it powerfully helpful to those who really need advice regarding how to set limits and above all start Say no to things you don't agree with.

The only negative thing is that I felt it was very long, at least the first half where the types of people pleasers are explained, many parts seemed unnecessary to me, but still it is a book that I can recommend to specific people.