This is a book that I wish had been written a decade ago. I needed this book in my 20s and early 30s. If you are a people pleaser and have not hit your breaking point yet, then you need to read this book. Or maybe you have hit your breaking point but don’t know where to go next. This book is filled with helpful ways to get yourself into a healthier relationship with both yourself and those around you.

I’ve been thinking lately about how I interact with people. I sometimes feel let down when people don’t treat me the way I treat them after all I do for them. I’m definitely a people pleaser. I was brought up Catholic and was told we should always help others. But, sometimes you just need to say no and not feel guilty about it. This book helped me see that saying no is not me being mean, or me not caring about the other person. It’s caring about myself as well. If you’re like me, this is the book for you.

The Joy of Saying No ripped me open from the inside. Natalie Lue talks from the experience she has as a recovering people pleaser, and goes into the different types of pleasers, as well as where they might have learned it from, and how to build their relationship with saying no. There's a way she describes it that shows how deeply she understands the intricate and complicated relationship people pleasers have with saying no.

I think that some of the parts are longer than they needed to get the point across, but that could be a matter of personal preference. That being said, some parts were wordy or repetitive, or even unnecessary in some ways.

Overall, I enjoyed the takeaways from reading more than I enjoyed the experience, and I found that a lot of it involved my personal preferences when it comes to reading and my relationship with the content.

I am all about setting boundaries and learning to say no without feeling guilty. I was thankful to NetGalley for providing an advanced copy of this book for the purpose of the review. I enjoyed each chapter that Lue provided in her book.

"The Joy of Saying No will help you identify your people-pleasing style and habits. A six-step framework then teaches you how to discover the healing and transformative power of no to establish healthier boundaries,
foster more intimate relationships and fulfilling experiences, and reconnect with your values and authentic self."

The Joy of Saying No is a guidebook for recovering people-pleasers and a love letter to the power of boundaries. Natalie Lue includes relevant personal anecdotes as she strives to show others how to take back their time and power. Lue describes the different roles and strategies that readers may have grown up doing. She invites reflection and teaches methods to change stagnant dynamics that could be toxic. I think almost everyone I know could learn something from this book, myself included. The Joy of Saying No promises to give new life back to readers by establishing boundaries, recognizing patterns, and inviting reflection.

Thank you so much to Natalie Lue, Harper Horizon, and Netgalley for a free ARC in exchange for an honest review.

What an incredible book. I went in thinking this might be a bit bland and tell me everything I already knew, ie: yes I’m a people pleaser. This book delved so much deeper than I had anticipated.

The book digs into the various types of people pleasers, the motivation behind individuals people pleasing and actual strategies for implementing realistic tips and tricks for setting your personal boundaries. I learnt so much about myself when reading this book and felt I had to pause it on and off while I digested what I was learning and how it applied to my life and my people pleasing ways.

Thanks to NetGalley for this advanced copy because I will 100% be buying this book so I can go back through it again with a trusty highlighter. I have already recommended it to two of my friends and can’t wait for them to read it so we can discuss it.

This is a must read! So helpful and such great advice. Thank you netgalley & the publisher for the ARC, in exchange for an honest review!

Great nonfiction advice book, that’s formatted in a way that’s easy to read. Great messages, great stories behind why the author wrote the book.

This book gave me so much power. I’ve always been a big people pleaser , I never felt okay with telling people no and therefore I was making me life harder. The authors story gave me the confidence to start saying no to more thing and not feel like a bad person. 10 out or 10. If you are a people pleaser read this it will change your life!

I ended up skimming most of this book.

This book is not for me. I have generalized anxiety disorder with a side of depression. I've been a people pleaser my whole life. As the book notes, being a people pleaser is usually tied to anxiety. In my case, it is 100% a product of my mental health status. The only thing that helped for me was treating the whole issue, which is my anxiety. I fall into three of the five pleaser types, which this book does not cover. I was disappointed that I didn't come across any passage that addressed mental health as a whole and when to seek outside help.

If you have a hard time saying no but have no other mental health issues this book may help you. If not, there is nothing new here you probably don't know except labels, and that's probably not going to be helpful to you.

I loved everything about The Joy of Saying No by Natalie Lue. We often have trouble saying no without feeling the need to follow up with an explanation, letting others down, or putting other's emotions before our own. Lue helps readers dive into understanding our thought patterns and correcting them in a healthy way. If you are someone who struggles with saying no, I highly recommend reading this book. You'll discover that saying no isn't selfish, it's a form of self-care and healthy boundary setting. Thank you to NetGalley and Harper Horizon for this eARC in exchange for my honest review.

Absolutely yes! I really enjoyed reading this novel. it held my interest, and provided a lot of information . I would definitely recommend!

I absolutely and 100% recommend this book to anyone and everyone! It’s full of good advice and I loved it!

I appreciate the bullet points throughout this. Easy to navigate and figure out exactly what parts apply the most to you. Love her anecdotes and her honesty about setting boundaries and changing her life.

I picked this book as saying “no" is something (at almost 51) that I’ve just learned to do. For 30 years it was yes to all my nursing patients needs. Then yes to all my late husbands needs. Then yes to all my late Mums needs. Now I say no. Now is my time.

When my late husband died, "friends’ disappeared. Now I have learned to say no to them. I’m not going to wait till I suit their needs. Friendship is a partnership. One of those friends said ‘I’ll call you boxing day’. I never got that call and never heard from that person again.

I have learned to say ‘no, I want….’ And ‘no I would like to…..’ Instead of ‘yes, whatever you want is fine’ I’ve learned to reflect on episodes of my past where others have controlled me in a subtle way.

This book was great. Reflection, reevaluation and moving forward.

The Joy of Saying No is a great book for those of us who may have a harder time with setting boundaries. The title appealed to me, in that I wanted to read the positive sides to saying no to others, and Joy seemed like a great incentive. I recommend this book for anyone who can identify with wanting to please others, at times more than taking care of oneself. Thanks to NetGalley for this ARC.