A nice collection of timely advice for dating in this age. illustrated throughout. Yes, illustrated, I had hoped for an actual graphic novel treatment of modern dating, but this is not that.

The art itself.. is a bit basic for my tastes, I wasn't a huge fan of it.

And here's maybe a weird note - I feel slightly apprehensive about goodlooking people giving dating advice.. a lot of beautiful people do not acknowledge their privilege or even realise that their looks are a privilege. It can feel a bit irritating to see them pretend to have the same dating experiences as most of us, and they are different. But maybe that's just me.

A self-help, humorous comic that is ripe with sound advice and realistic honesty. I really hope Sarah Akinterinwa will also include pretty colors next time, but that is a minor request :)

Thank you Netgalley for the ARC!

This was such a refreshing and unique take on dating advise. I love how it incorporated taking care of yourself and being comfortable with you and what you want before adding in another person. With the book being in graphic novel form it helped me pay attention and gave some comic relief. For a person not into self gelo books I highly recommend this book.

First i want to thanks for giving this book to me so i can read this. Now i Will ve 100% honest, i was expecting something else, more Nice to the view, but i was more theoric, more text than ilustration...it was good but not that good. I Will no read it again. In this book You found why some relationship don't work, what can You do to be happy by yourself ando things like that

Thanks to NetGalley and PA Press for this arc!

This was my first arc in a long time and it was a pretty good read! The author does a good job of explaining how to maneuver modern day dating culture for 20-somethings who are looking for a long-term relationship.

I agree with pretty much all of the advice that she gave, like setting boundaries for yourself and your dates, loving and understanding yourself, etc. It would've been a great book for me in my early twenties when I was still dating. It was more of a self-help book than a graphic novel.

The short comics are cute but I wish they would've been in color with bigger font size for the captions. And I was expecting much more color because of the cover. That would've instantly drew me in.

I really enjoyed the cartoon strip sections of this book with the author's experiences of dating. I was less keen on the self-help sections of text, although it did all seem to be good advice. I think I just misunderstood what the book was going to be about. I enjoyed the distinctive art style and would be interested in future books by the same author.

On the surface, this book follows a journey through the experience of dating in your 20s and 30s. This summary is vastly disloyal to the complexity and tonality of this brilliant gn.

Akinterinwa's style combines short narratives with visuals, and the result is all at once hilarious, heartwarming, heart-breaking, and most gently tragic.

On a personal level: Akinterinwa alludes to the part that the added spectrums that queerness, gender, sterotypes, psychology (both legitimate and pseudo, cis-ness (yes I made a word), and family play in the journey to find true love. They write from their own intersectional being as a black woman too, which forms an often viral part of this book.

This book is short and astounding. My 4 stars should PLEASE be read as 4.5; I'll be recommending and re-reading this often
Thank you so much to NetGalley, Sarah Akinterinwa, and Chronicle Books for access to this arc in return for an honest and unbiased review.

This wasn't what I was expecting... it wasn't in a traditional graphic novel format and I think that's why it was hard to get through. I think this is an okay book for young adults who want advice on dating and life, but the advice is kind of mediocre and obvious.

Thank you to the publisher and Netgalley for the ARC. I really love books with cartoon elements, and the art in this book did not disappoint. Akinterinwa punctuated the advice with punchy cartoons that highlighted her points. I really appreciated how the author shared her own personal stories from her family to show that she went through it too. I really related to all of the dating experiences she shared, especially when she listed her string of crappy exes. I swear we've dated some of the same people. The advice was sound, at least in my opinion. The biggest piece I took away was to take dating seriously by vetting your partners to make sure they share your values; don't just settle for having one or two things in common. I don't think women can hear that advice enough in a world that tells us to have low standards. The rest of the advice in the book (such as the "dating yourself" section) just felt like advice I've read a million times before. Aside from that, I thought that the short length was perfect. This was an interesting read that women feeling really lost in dating might enjoy.

I really loved reading a self help book in both text and panels. I liked exploring dating and love with intersecting and thoughtful perspectives on queerness, race, and gender. This is a great read for anyone who needs a push!

I thought this was a cute comic. It provided real insight about dating, but nothing that I felt I hadn't already known. Some of the dialogue in the vignettes were funny, but I just couldn't get into the illustrations. The style of the illustrations could have been better.

This was less of a traditional graphic novel and more a short memoir/self help book with illustrations.
I absolutely agreed with a lot of talking points of this book, and resonated with the self discovery journey because it felt very parallel to my own.

I think the target audience for this one would be in the 15-25 range. I think if younger people had a lot more realistic conversations with other and themselves about love and relationships as well as understanding/knowing themselves rather than this idea that you think everyone wants you to be then you will discover sooner what you need and want from a partner.

There is a lot of practical, relatable advice in here that anyone looking to find lasting love would benefit from.

***Thank you to Chronicle Books and PA Press for providing me with the eBook for free via NetGalley for an unbiased review.

I was really excited, even though my life and love experience might be considerably different from the author. But, if I am being honest, I felt let down. Maybe because I was expecting an actual graphic novel, which it isn’t. It has some great ideas and funny comic strips, but it is not a graphic novel, and it has far more text than drawings. That wouldn’t be so bad if the text didn’t read as superficial. The dating and life advice was kinda obvious, but could have worked if the author shared, for example, personal stories. That is not the case, so the whole thing feels flat, except maybe for the self-love chapter, which I really resonated with.

Was really excited about this one, but it left me feeling disappointed.

First, I feel like I just might be too old for this? This would probably better serve someone like a young college student who's just beginning to own themselves, but I don't feel like the quality makes it high enough to recommend. It reads like an elevated version of an extended tumblr post; definitely struggling to find its footing as a piece of writing. It's clear the author is working through some very real feelings, but it's also nothing I haven't heard before - I came here for that moment of recognition, commiseration, maybe even validation, but it fell flat.

Second, I was really hoping this would actually be a graphic novel! I love nonfiction comics and graphic memoirs, but this barely constitutes as a graphic novel - was probably mistagged. This piece runs the gamut from essay to research paper to journal entry, but lacks the magic (and sufficient artwork!) of a graphic. The flat, bold style of the figures sometimes works -there are certainly expressive moments, but there's simply too much earnest text in the way to fully enjoy everything.

I wanted this to be so much more, but ultimately this feels like a hopeful first draft. The advice was obvious (explore! take risks! be kind to yourself!), the writing was a little stilted, and the overall execution was choppy. I bet this could be a really great book in a few years once this author has a bit more experience to pull from, both as a writer and just livin' life.

I expected to relate to this book, but unfortunately I just couldn’t. I didn’t get past 20% because it wasn’t interesting enough to continue.

I thought the premise for this book sounded interesting, but it wasn't exactly what I expected. The graphic style was great and I have no complaints there. As far as the story goes, I didn't like the pages of narrative at the beginning of each chapter. Honestly, I skipped those parts. To me, graphics novels aren't supposed to have pages of narrative with no accompanying illustrations. The parts that did have illustrations were great. Was the story anything unique? Not particularly, but it also wasn't terrible.

Hmmmm. I love the emphasis on self care and learning to love yourself. But the book wasn’t something I clicked with.

Thank you NetGalley and [](https://www.netgalley.com/catalog/publisher/82998)PA Press for the ARC of the book in exchange for an honest review.

Why You'll Never Find the One, by Sarah Akinterinwa, is a lovely graphic novel that portrays the modern struggles of a young black girl in their 20’s navigating the turbulent waters of romantic relationships.

The illustration style was pleasant and the storyline was very entertaining. I was able to relate to some of the scenes of the comic.

It was a nice, easy read!

Thank you, Chronicle Books, for the advance reading copy.

I would love to tell you what I like about this graphic novel cum essays in one.

The book focuses on the different kinds of pressure we give ourselves trying to fit in, what to expect when it comes to love and relationships, what usually goes wrong and what we can do to change it.

I find the tips and advice doable. However, I feel I could not find anything new. But the content is worth it.

I expected to like this a lot more than I actually did. Unfortunately, the material never really clicked for me.

Thank you, NetGalley, for the advanced review copy!