Considering why mothers often feel a rage "so hot it is blinding," Minna Dubin wonders: "What if we were normal mothers reacting to unjust circumstances? What if mom rage were a widespread, culturally created phenomenon, and not just personal problem?" These questions, prompted by her own experience, resulted in a 2020 essay she wrote for the New York Times, which she expanded into the full-length Mom Rage. Using additional research and critique, Mom Rage moves between the contextual and the individual, exploring the oft-hidden rage that many experience alongside motherhood. Dubin focuses first on the broader context in which mothers operate, then zooms in to the individual, exploring the physiological and psychological causes. She offers suggestions for individuals seeking to navigate their own anger before zooming back out to consider systemic solutions to the same. This combined micro and macro view of the issue veers Mom Rage well away from any risk of victim-blaming; Dubin works overtime across these pages to dispel the myths that "conflate women's anger with harm," especially when considered in the context of race and culture.

Drawing on years of interviews with parents across the globe, of varying backgrounds, races, cultures, sexualities, and family structures, Mom Rage is a searing indictment of the failed systems of support and flawed narratives that too often surround parenthood. Dubin calls Mom Rage a "rebellion against the supremacy of the googly-eyed, cooing narrative, and the way it silences moms by erasing the harder parts of modern motherhood." It is bound to resonate with any woman who has experienced the shift to motherhood as anything less than perfect. --Kerry McHugh, freelance writer

This book was well planned, well written and I hope well received by the people who needed to read these types of stories.

This was a really good read that focuses all the issues Mom have to deal with daily. The book explained it is ok to not be okay and life will still go on. Moms put such pressure on themselves and wind up missing out on a lot of fun memories. We are always rushing from one thing to another. This book will help you realize it is okay to not do everything. Take time to enjoy the small things.

I almost stopped reading this book during the first chapter because I thought the book didn't really apply to me. But this book isn't just about actual rage towards your children. It's about the unfair burden that mother's face in so many aspects of their lives. It pulls from a wide variety of women and family types and lets the reader know that they are not alone in their frustrations. It offers practical advice about how to improve the frustrations and repair relationships. The list at the end of the book for how the partner can help ease some of the burden needs to be shared widely. I'm so glad I stuck with the book because I did end up finding a lot of similarities to my life as a mother in it.

This book needed to be written. This topic has been neglected for FAR too long. A little heavy-handed on "hate the white guys." The premise/itself is not incorrect, but I think she over-simplified the "blame" of a very complicated issue with multiple social and systemic causes.
I received an ARC from Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.

This is a brave and much-needed book -- moms aren't supposed to be uncontrollably angry at the children they love, but, as the author points out, pushing past her own shame and the shame of mothers everywhere -- mom rage happens. Dubin draws upon knowledge from experts and interviews 50 mothers from a wide spectrum of circumstances and experiences to help us define, understand, and provide solutions for the anger so many mothers experience. A new, added voice to parenting books.

This is a really well researched and in-depth book about the rage of motherhood that many moms experience. It can be hard and isolating, but as a mother you are not alone and there are lots of outlets and avenues to get help.
I liked that Dubin interviewed people of different races, and religions to show that this can be experienced by any mother.
This is a good for mother's, but also for anyone in general to understand what mothers are feeling and going through.

Thanks NetGalley for this ARC.

Thanks to NetGalley for allowing me to read this in exchange for an honest opinion.

This book made me feel less alone ❤️