Member Reviews
Thank you #Netgalley for the copy!
In typical Tinx fashion, we see her perspective on dating and so much more. Tied with personal stories, this is more of a self help advice type of read.
I generally find self help books to be dull and utterly useless. You’re likely better off conferring with friends or going to therapy. But I’ve enjoyed Tinx’s thoughts on social media and on her podcast so this felt worth a try.
Say this for Tinx: Even in what is essentially self help book form, she takes most of the cringe and obnoxious affirmation driven stuff off the table and is very frank about what you can and cannot control about your relationships with other people.
I don’t necessarily agree with all of her advice, especially when it comes romantic relationships, but the idea behind box theory feels incredibly correct and is one of those things that has you sitting around thinking “I wish Tinx was around to tell me this when I was in college and in my early twenties.”
In all, she hits more than she misses, and she manages to be authoritative without being preachy or falling into too much eye-roll-inducing girl boss schlock.
A great reminder that we need to focus on happiness and identifying the things in our life that will support and compete with this goal. A fresh perspective on the idea of prioritizing your own happiness.
This book was a breath of fresh air. I really enjoyed the fast paced chapters and the feel of taking a break for learning about how to better myself. Although it’s a book about dating, I am glad that the main premise of the book was shifting the focus on what makes yourself happy and focusing on your needs first and foremost. I think a lot of people tend to forget that we are all human and we all have bad days. While this book was very informative and outspoken, it was hilarious and super comforting as well. It’s the perfect pick me up after a long day. I enjoyed the whole ride through this journey, and I genuinely feel like it changed me. I will and have been shifting my focus and trying to use these practices in my daily routines now. Highly recommend as a pick me up or a read if you’re interested in learning how to focus more on you in the world of dating, life and being a woman in these tímes.
I'm a big fan of Tinx's podcast and really liked this book. I'm not sure there's anything here that we haven't all heard before but she lays it out in a funny and relatable way. Definitely a book I wish I had in my 20s!
I’ve followed Tinx on social media for a while and enjoyed her content. I was looking forward to this book. In a way it was what I expected, but also missed the mark in other ways. The book is marketed as a light hearted, “big sister advice” read full of personal anecdotes and tips. To me, the book read as though it were trying hard to speak the language of gen-z. As a fan in their mid-twenties, I felt too old to be reading, even though I imagine many of Tinx’s readers are my age. It was similar to reading an advice column in Teen Vogue - great if you’re navigating high school, but juvenile otherwise.
This book was filled with so many gems! It helped me rethink my stance on situations and "shift" my thinking. Plus, the cover is really cute.
Tinx has delivered the dating guide that we all need! The advice is clear and concise and clearly written by someone who totally gets what it’s like to date in the age of the internet. I wish I had this book back in my mid 20’s when I was fully drowning in the Tinder seas but I am so thankful that I have it now to share with my friends who are going through it. Tinx is the empowering voice we all need!
I was not a follower of Tinx before hearing about this self-help book. I definitely am now and want to listen to her podcast because I really enjoyed this book. The Shift is targeted more to single 20-somethings (I am neither) so I'm not the target demographic but I was still able to draw great advice from it. The dating concepts can definitely be carried over into marriage. Overall an uplifting and quick read. I gifted to my younger sister as she's still in the dating world and may appreciate it even more than I did.
Thank you to NetGalley and Simon & Schuster for giving me access to an eARC in exchange for my honest review.
"The Shift" by Tinx is an introspective journey into personal growth and self-discovery. While it holds promise with its relatable themes and a candid narrative, the book ultimately falls into a middle-of-the-road category due to a lack of depth and originality.
One of the book's strengths lies in its accessibility and relatability. Tinx offers a sincere and conversational tone, making it easy for readers to connect with her experiences and emotions. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, she explores topics such as self-doubt, ambition, and navigating change, which many readers can resonate with.
The book's main premise centers around the idea of a transformative "shift" in one's life. Tinx shares her own struggles and triumphs, providing insights and practical advice for those seeking personal growth. Her willingness to share vulnerabilities and lessons learned creates an empathetic space for readers to reflect on their own journeys.
However, where "The Shift" falls short is in its lack of depth and originality. The book's concepts and ideas often feel familiar, treading well-worn paths of self-help literature. While the author's personal anecdotes add a touch of authenticity, they sometimes lack the depth necessary to truly engage and captivate the reader. The narrative occasionally skims the surface of profound insights without fully exploring their implications. All of the themes explored in the book have been beaten to death on her tiktok and podcast. I felt like there wasn't a lot of new ideas within "The Shift".
Additionally, the book could benefit from a more structured and organized approach. The flow of the chapters feels disjointed at times, lacking a clear overarching framework. This makes it challenging to grasp the full scope of Tinx's intended message and hinders the book's overall coherence.
Despite its limitations, "The Shift" is not without its merits. Tinx's honest and conversational writing style offers moments of connection and inspiration, and readers seeking relatable stories of personal growth may find value in her experiences. However, for those looking for a more profound and groundbreaking exploration of self-discovery, this book might leave them wanting more.
Thanks to Netgalley and Simon & Schuster for the opportunity to read this book in exchange for an honest review!
I love this book so much!! I literally mailed my best friend a copy after only reading the first half. I highly recommend everyone in their 20’s read this. Tinx’s advice and stories are so relatable but also practical and I resonated with her advice so much. She touches on so many topics millennials are facing, and I appreciate her funny yet wise perspective. I’ve followed @tinx for many years on social media, and this book made me like her even more than I already did.
Tinx is one of my favorite creators to follow on Tiktok. I was excited to see she wrote a book and was drawn in by the cover. I think this would be the perfect audiobook for any fans of Tinx. I also think this would have been a good I would have loved to read when I was younger. Any young girl should grab this and read while navigating that time of their lives.
Tinx's book, The Shift, offers a fresh take on dating and relationships. With an empowering and inclusive approach, she provides valuable advice for modern women. Tinx's engaging writing style and positive tone make this an enjoyable and relatable read. Her insights and infectious energy have gained her a devoted following. Whether you're new to her work or a longtime fan, The Shift is a must-read that will leave you inspired.
Thank you Simon Books Buddy for the ARC of this book!!
I was thoroughly impressed by Tinx's book. I do not typically watch her content but enjoy the dating topic so I wanted to see what it was going to be about. The book was written and sectioned off well for someone to easily consume. I would recommend it to young women looking for advice on friendship, dating, love, and just the 'real world' in general, but I do say that with a grain of salt. Do not take everything that she says as a rule of thumb, Some of the book I found to be too extreme and too toxic. Not everything is going to be so black and white with dating and life. All in all, there are some good accolades and an easy summer read.
Tinx knows her audience really well. I am her audience so this book resonated with me in so many ways. I am a little older than her target demo of 20 somethings, and unfortunately, I didn't grow up in an era of wise-beyond-their-years influencers, so some of the advice in this book was helpful to me, even as someone in their 40s. And I think 20 something women today are so lucky to have someone like her to explain these sometimes hard truths. Some of these lessons I hadn't even learned myself, so there were a few oprah-esque ah-ha moments for me in here.
As a Standford grad she's obviously very smart. And ultimately, her persona of cool, caring older sister really comes through. It's so good to be reminded that even people like her are, who to many younger folks, seem to have it all, still fall prey to the same sh*t treatment from men that the rest of us do. Many of her deceptively simple "Tinx-isms," such as box theory, are truly brilliant.
If you're a Tinx fan, or even if you're not, run and buy this book immediately.
Thank you to @SimonBooks #SimonBooksBuddy #FreeGift for the copy of The Shift: A Guide To Dating, Self Worth & Becoming The Main Character Of Your Life.
“Something about being a woman is cosmic and so fucking cool.”
“Focus on what you want to do. Fuck on the first date? Go off Samantha Jones! Take it slow? We love an unhurried goddess!
THE SHIFT: Sleep with him after X number of dates ➡️ Sleep with him whenever you want.” 🙌🏻
“At some point you have to realize you’re all you’ve got.”
Those are some real truths right there. And her book dedication?! Haha. To my girls: Do no harm. And take no shit. Exactly how I raised mine!
It is all about perspective, ladies. That is the overwhelming theme of this book. SHIFT your perspective and do it in such a way that the choice is yours and YOU decide. Even though I’ve been married for over 20 years I still found this book so enlightening.
Because, after all, it’s really just about knowing your worth, knowing what you bring to the table, and not accepting less because society tells you you need to be the other half of a couple to be viewed as whole or successful. I had never heard of @tinx before as I am way too old to be on TikTok 🤷🏼♀️, but I found her viewpoints and advice to be women empowering, raw, and real. Stay strong, girls! We are worth it. 🩷
I had never heard of Tinx before reading her book, but once I finished it, I gave her a follow. She does a good job of taking a negative perspective and giving you ideas on how to change that perspective into something healthy. She could be my helpful older sister, even though she's younger than I am!
I'm about twenty years beyond the intended audience of this book, but here I am anyway. I first encountered Tinx on the radio and frankly I wasn't sure who or what a Tinx was. Again, not the target audience. I put myself back in those angst ridden twenties and thirties, and some of what she says lands. That time should be fun and I'm glad mine was before social media ruined it.
This was good! I enjoy Tinx's content and this was basically just a book version of things she says in her tik tok and her podcast. I think it is great information for girls of any age.
This was an amazing book with a great message. It's finally a "dating" book in which the final outcome is not marriage. Tinx emphasizes that being single is one of the greatest joys in life which greatly resonated with me. This is definitely a book for women in their 20s and 30s.