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This was an engaging and interesting memoir from start to finish. The author tells her story of addiction, incarceration, motherhood and redemption. I enjoyed the journey through this emotional and well written book.

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Massive thanks to the author, publisher, and NetGalley for the advanced copy. The following thoughts/opinions are my own.

I fear that I will lack the words needed to convey just how amazing this memoir is. From serving time in jail for 32 felony counts to dining with the Dalai Lama and having lunch with Oprah, it is truly fascinating what Lara Love Hardin has accomplished, in her life.

Detailing her time behind bars and all the legal proceedings that coincided with it, Lara never once made herself out to be a victim. She admits that there was no cataclysmic event that caused her to turn to a life of crime. While she does allow space to feel sorry for herself, Lara does not allow anyone else to.

I did not have the chance to finish reading the e-book before publishing, but I snagged an audiobook copy from my local library. And listening to Lara tell her story was another powerful experience. When she details her suicide attempt and the subsequent days, I cried with her. And when she first managed to land a job, as a felon, I rejoiced with her. There is something about Lara's words that not only captivates a reader but does not let go until the story has finished.

Under Lara's own story, however, she expertly weaves in all of the shortcomings of this country's incarceration system and rehabilitation efforts. In short, they are heavily lacking and are in desperate need of reform. This was a top I was expecting to be taken by, but I am slowly falling down the rabbit hole of it.

I finished reading/listening to this memoir and was left feeling inspired to continue striving towards my own writing goals. And I also immediately looked up her TedTalk.

This is most definitely one of my top reads of 2023 and highly encourage fellow readers to pick this up. You will not regret it.

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I couldn't put this 5 star memoir down! Lara kicks her story off by talking about her first ever addiction, which was reading. Then, beautifully segues into her more dangerous addictions later in life. ⁠She shares the story of how she went from overwhelmed suburban mom to opioid addict to serving jail time for 32 felonies. Then, how she rebuilt her life and family relationships, becoming a co-writer on bestselling books including The Sun Does Shine by Anthony Ray Hinton.⁠ Lara's writing style is highly engaging. Her story is sad and inspirational. She explores the debilitating effects of shame, problems in the parole and Child Protection Services systems, and co-writing for such luminaries as Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama.⁠ Do not sleep on this one - it's one of my favorite books of 2023 so far!

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This is a memoir of love and shame, stealing and addiction. I absolutely loved the first line “Reading was my first addiction”. And how she relates that to her later addictions, saying they were both driven by the same thing – the need to escape. Lara Love Hardin does an excellent job of making her problems relatable while also accepting that her actions caused harms to others.

No one would ever want to be judged for their worst mistakes and Hardin shows how tough it can be to move forward after being released from prison. I especially loved her focus on how hard it can be to be a mother while in prison and the sometimes extremely difficult parameters placed on newly released prisons who are trying to reclaim their lives, and their children.

This is an overall uplifting and hopeful story, that takes the reader into the prison system and the difficulties that come with being a convicted felon while showing that there can be light at the end of the journey. Highly recommend this if you enjoy compelling memoirs.

@sarahsbookshelves has an excellent interview with Lara Love Hardin and they chat about this memoir and Hardin's life.

#themanylivesofmamalove #lauralovehardin #netgalley

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Loved this book! It always amazes me how much one person can go through and then end up making it through and going on to do something great with their lives.

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I love a good memoir. I want to learn, grow, feel and lean into something. This was one of those books. Powerful, emotional and so well written to boot. This was that perfect reminder people so often forget, that addiction doesn’t discriminate.

Synopsis: New York Times bestselling author Lara Love Hardin recounts her slide from soccer mom to opioid addict to jailhouse shot-caller and her unlikely comeback as a highly successful ghostwriter in this harrowing, hilarious, no-holds-barred memoir.

I really felt like I was on the rollercoaster with her. This was gutting and simultaneously validates and normalizes the addicts poor choices and behaviors through the lens of explaining more of the complicated backstory’s that exist. Addiction, the legal system, financial barriers and mental health issues have glaring stereotypes and complex interwoven systems. It’s hard to navigate getting out. Even with all the “help”.

I was tearful at the end of this one and enjoyed reading about an addict that was able to not just appear vilified and bad. As a substance abuse therapist that often feels pulled into forcing clients to jump through hoops and feeling frustrated by the lack of supportive systems. This was phenomenally well done, enlightening and inspiring.

A must read if you enjoy memoirs, are passionate about mental health, substance use or the legal system.

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Laura Love Hardin has quite possibly solidified her spot as my favorite read of the year with her memoir, “The Many Lives of Mama Love.”

At no point during this heartbreaking account of addiction and recovery does she present as a “woe is me” protagonist. She is raw and real and acknowledges every wrong move, regret, and triumph she made along her journey.

Finding herself lost in her drug addiction, locked in a cell, and facing the loss of parental rights over her son, Laura knows she needs to make a change. She needs to get sober. Thus begins the tale of how she did exactly that.

Love takes us through her prison days, her probation days, and the incredible days she has after both. She invites on her journey of self discovery, self trust, and self fulfillment. She shares with her readers the possibility of overcoming things you never thought imaginable.

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I loved this book ! What a fascinating life she has led and I’m sure is still leading. A book so interesting I had to google her, look her up on Facebook and listen to her podcast interviews. Hopefully that doesn’t make me sound creepy !
So the story goes about a mom, in the suburbs, who is also a drug addicted con artist thief. She is sent to prison. Hearing about this book I thought “. I can’t relate to that” but it is written so well that it is relatable. There is sadness and much comedy.
A real gem of a book. Thanks to the author and publisher for this free arc in exchange for my honest opinion

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Riveting. Raw. Thought provoking.

What if you were judged solely on the worst day of your life?

What a memoir! I read this book in less than 24 hours, completely captivated by Hardin’s unflinching honesty.

“Reading was my first addiction.” Me too, Lara. Me too!

“The truth is I’ve only ever had one addiction. The white whale of addictions: escape.”

And just like that, the story of a soccer mom turned heroin-addicted felon had my full attention.

Listening to Hardin recount her story felt much like sitting down with an old friend for an overdue coffee date. She bravely bares her soul exposing her most vulnerable thoughts and actions. But even in its most shocking details, it’s a story that oozes with humor and heart. I found myself cheering for Mama Love at every setback, in awe of her tenacity.

It’s easy to see how Hardin is a four-time NYT bestselling author after reading this memoir. Her writing is effortless and engaging. She’s a fierce talent, and I can’t wait to read more books penned by her. Up next: The Sun Does Shine.

Hardin accomplishes much in her memoir. With themes of perseverance and forgiveness, this book is easily relatable. And with necessary commentary on the justice system, it’s an education we all need.

I closed the last page of this book in complete awe of Lara’s transformation. This is a book I won’t soon forget and will be added to the ranks of other favorite memoirs (Jennette McCurdy, Chanel Miller, Trevor Noah, Viola Davis…).

🎧 Narrated by the author, the audiobook brims with authenticity and emotion. It added to my overall experience, and I highly recommend reading the print and audio in tandem. (You’ll appreciate the print version for all those great quotes!)

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I requested a copy of this book because I read the book she co-wrote, The Sun Does Shine, and had no idea about her story. I'm a public defender and nonfiction stories about the United States' broken Criminal Justice System are always on my radar.

Reading physical books has been rough for me lately so it took me awhile to get through the first half of this book. Then, I read the second half in a day.

At its core, this memoir is a story of redemption and forgiveness, especially the most important kind of forgiveness: self-forgiveness. The author writes so beautifully. I can't even begin to imagine how hard this must have been for her to write but she does is with such humility, depth, and humor.

I highly recommend this one but obviously know going in that there's some tough topics discussed.

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I can officially say that this has been my favorite book this summer! I read it in two days, and I don't usually read books that quickly.

This memoir hooked me right from the start. The author, Lara Love Hardin, was a suburban soccer mom when she was arrested and charged with 32 felonies. She shares her account of addiction, how she stole credit cards to pay for everything, her time in jail (my favorite part), and how she pulled her life together. The part about jail reminded me so much of the show "60 Days In," and Love Hardin did an excellent job of putting her reader right there with her.

The book is well-written, and I kept cheering her on throughout the book. It is a heavy book, but it is one of hope and forgiveness.

I gave this book five out of five starts. I was given this book for my honest review, and I highly recommend it.

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This book reminded me of a quote from Mikki Bramer's book, The Collected Regrets of Clover, "That was the day that I began to realize how hard it is to be anything but what the world already thinks you are."

This novel explores just how much our past can come back to haunt us, so to say. Sometimes, no matter the progress we make, true forgiveness hasn't happened here on earth. That is a maddening fact, I think.

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Hardin has an amazing story, from the depths of a life-ruining addiction (that included thefts that sent her to prison), to her eventual, painfully-won redemption. This is not a spoiler, because the road Hardin traveled is the story, an incredible journey from a no-win release, probation and restitution demands, to the world stage. After traveling this journey vicariously with her, I was stunned to realize she had collaborated on some pretty impactful books I've read. (And yes, had I done a deeper dive into her history before I started reading, I might have known this. But it's the journey, right?) Hardin's book was a close look inside a justice system that leaves those who've "paid their debt" still paying, many years after they've been released back into society. I was shocked at how long she paid for financial crimes, compared to the scant time served by those committing violent acts against women, etc. The system is broken. But fortunately for Hardin, she managed to fight her way out.

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I had not heard of this author before nor was I familiar with her story but thought I would take a chance on it. I am glad that I did as her life is quite astonishing. To go from a housewife and mother to the depth of addiction so dark and deep that she was repeatedly imprisoned for multiple crimes to becoming a ghostwriter and working with the likes of Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama is an extreme life that very few can claim. She was very frank about how badly she acted and seemed sincere about her change and the betterment of her life. You feel for her and root for her. This is definitely a read I won't soon forget. Thank you to Netgalley and Simon & Schuster for an ARC of this book. All thoughts and opinions expressed are my own.

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I don’t like to give ratings to memoirs because everyone has a story and it takes a lot of vulnerability to share. I respect everyone who takes the time to write their personal story down no matter if I like it or not. Every now and then I will make an exception on giving out a rating…The Many Lives of Mama Love gets all the stars. Author Lara Love Hardin writes her powerful story about being a PTA mom to battling a drug addiction and ultimately jail time. I admired Lara’s dedication to her boys and her recovery to be the best parent she could be after being released from jail. At first I didn’t know she co-authored The Sun Doesn’t Shine, which is another fantastic memoir, but as I read about it in her own memoir, I was so happy for her and cheered her along her redemptive healing journey!

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“Reading was my first addiction.” Same, girl. Same.

“How we take care of broken people matters. Fundamentally, I believe, it determines our own humanity.”

“Real power is about using your power to shine a light on other people so they can find their own power.”

Woah. I am in awe of Lara Love Hardin and how raw and real she is in this book. I must admit I have always judged a woman who “chooses” drugs over her children. How could you?! But I swear this book has changed how I see things I didn’t really understand. And that, guys, is one of the powers of reading. So thank you for opening my eyes to this challenge that so many face and for helping me to understand something that is foreign to me.

I am beyond impressed at her insight into her illness and her ability to admit to, own, and ultimately redeem herself from her mistakes. We should all be as honest with ourselves. We need to judge less and forgive more. This book should be required reading so that anyone that may feel hopeless in their addictions or situation can see that they, too, can change!

Thank you @SimonBooks #SimonBooksBuddy for the free book.

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At the beginning of this story, the author is recounting getting arrested and having her young child taken from her because she can't do anything but prioritize her addiction. It has lead to lying, stealing and almost hitting rock bottom. This is a shocking scene and leads to her ultimate incarceration. I've read other stories of addiction and also incarceration and how this system is built to perpetuate itself but none as compulsively readable. Even though I shudder to think that I would ever do any of the acts that put Love in jail in the first place, I could empathize with her struggles. I felt for the way that she was her harshest judge and jury. I'm glad that she was able to pull herself out of the system (no spoiler here since she's published her life story) and I look forward to her next book.
Thanks to NetGalley and the publisher for this ARC in return for my honest (albeit late) review.

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The author writes about her arrest and subsequent year in jail for identity theft, her struggle to kick her heroin addiction, and the years it took to rebuild her life and her self worth.
I’m usually a big fan of memoirs about basket cases who turn their lives around and have read some great ones. This one, though, was just pretty good. It seemed to go on forever, almost like I was reading her story in real time.
Thanks to #netgalley and #simonandschuster for this #arc of #themanylivesofmamalove in exchange for an honest review.

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✨Book review✨
📚The many lives of mama love - @laralovehardin
⭐️⭐️⭐️.75 / 5

It is not very often that I am super inter memoirs, but this one hooked me. The whole time I was reading it gave me orange is the new black vibes. It was honest & real, and that is all you can really ask for a book about someone's life. We saw many sides to mama love, but the was she recreated her life was amazing.

I definitely recommend reading this book!!

Thank you @simonbooks & @netgalley for a copy of this book in return for my honest review.

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I thoroughly enjoyed this memoir, and I also have some thoughts.

The story begins with a little background of Lara's childhood, and then we arrive pretty quickly at the moment she's arrested. Her life is essentially childhood, blank spot, addict. Later, we'll learn that she was on the PTA, chaired a bunch of committees, etc. I would've enjoyed getting the first marriage, her first children, and her life more continuously, but it's not my memoir :)

Some of the story is a bit self-aggrandizing and a struggle to believe. However, if I'd waited as long as she did to tell her story (I'd likely have forgotten most of it in that amount of time), and I was going to fully bare my many transgressions, probably I'd also give myself a little leeway too.

Ultimately, this was a brave story, and I really admire Lara for sharing her life experiences so openly.

Thank you to NetGalley and Simon & Schuster for an ARC of this memoir in exchange for my honest opinion.

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