I really like the format of this book. It’s accessible, but gets really in depth as you go on. It’s a little hokey sometimes, but I think that’s okay for this type of book. It’s a helpful book and I think there’s a wide appeal, but especially for younger women.

It's hard to find someone who hasn't felt lost in their life and Sarah Kuburic's "It's On Me" aims to help readers find their true self.

Why it matters: Many of us feel trapped or like we are simply existing even though we don't have to. The answer? Facing ourselves.

You'll want to read this if:
• You're interested in analyzing yourself through an existential psychology lens
• You're looking for ways to feel more connected to yourself and those around you
• You're wondering how to figure out who you are

The bottom line: There's good information here, although the most practical bits tend to come in waves. The beginning is heavy on philosophy -- self-reflection lists and client stories that help explain various concepts are not included as often as it seems they should. Kuburic's personal experiences are frequent throughout.

Thank you to Random House for providing an advanced copy via NetGalley.

I'd like to thank Netgalley & Random House for the ARC of this book!

This was a VERY in-depth book on personal growth and development. It is heavy on the research and psychology teachings that the author uses on her own patients and herself. So just have a very open mind to that and know that its backed by tons of research. I loved that she interwove her own personal stories & also small side stories about her own patients when explaining certain practices or chapters. She ended each chapter with a "hard truth" page and those were immediately highlighted as they were super insightful and "bite sized" enough to hold onto. My only reason for knocking one star off is sometimes the principles / research tidbits she added seemed a little excessive for me, it seemed to distract more than add to her points or what she was trying to convey. and the * at the end of each chapter confused me. Otherwise, this was a wonderful "self help" style book and it was interesting to learn from a physiotherapist!

My thanks to both NetGalley and the publisher Random House Publishing Group- Random House for an advance copy of this self-help guide that offers new tools and new ways of thinking to help people negotiate this modern world.

One of the most confusing things about being alive today is trying to figure out if the world is messed up of is it just myself. People seem unintelligible and bask in being unintelligent. Customers seem ruder, people seem to have given up in record numbers. People without fear what is going to happen to them, and people with so much seem upset because all the money and opportunity they have is not making them feel better. Stuff means nothing anymore. Security means nothing. Every thing that people have been told since youth, does not seem to equal happiness, or fulfillment or fill any of the many holes that make the days so long. Nothing seems possible, and the rules that government, family, religion, seem to be failing. Our self, our real Self is lost, in what others demand, expect and in many cases mindlessly follow. We have lost what we want, the point of living, in some cases many of us have no idea what we are even here for. It's On Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Your Self, and Change Your Life, by Sara Kuburic, Phd., discusses these thoughts and the many others that are keeping people trapped, in a book that asks us to try to claim back the life we had, one that no one thought or even saw that was being lost.

Sara Kuburic was having dinner with a friend when a simple question changed her life. "Are you Happy?", Kuburic was asked. This question set off such an emotional and physical shock in Kuburic that Kuburic first broke down in a bathroom, than had a panic attack on a plane, causeing her to miss her flight. Kuburic was anything but happy. Married, but not happily, trapped by her religion not to think of herself, working on a degree she didn't believe in, and also while dealing with trauma from growing up in a war zone. Kuburic stepped back and looked at herself, and came to the realization that she was the only one who could get herself out of this situation. Kuburic needed to acknowledge that Kuburic was living for others and not for her, that her Self, who she was and wanted to be, was being held down. That she was suffering from a Self-loss, and had to get out of this spiral. Slowly Kuburic did, and the ideas from this time, and her own work with others form the basis of the book.

The book is very well written with many good ideas, and tools for approaching the world, and finding your own way in it. The book is marketed at millennials, but that is just the publishing world. The ideas, strategies and plans will help anyone, since almost all of us have these problems, not just youngins. There is a certain repetition of themes, which I saw another reviewer mention, but I think that is part of the stratagem. One sometimes has to read and see something a few times before it sinks in. The anecdotes used as examples for behavior I thought was quite interesting ,and well chosen, and fit with the theme. All in all a helpful book that might change a few lives.

Change is hard, and changing the whole way one views themselves and the world is going to take work. There is no magic bullet or supercure, just work, acceptances, and the knowledge that a person has to face a lot of unhappy thoughts to get through. I do appreciate that Kuburic admits that it will get darker for a time, especially as one has to address trust, trauma and family pain. But that dawn might be one of the most amazing days of a person's life when they get through it. I hope this book helps people.

Thank you NetGalley and Random House for this eARC in exchange for an honest review.

I am familiar with and resonate with the Buddhist concept of "no self". This book, written for millenials (which drew me to it), is quite the opposite of that belief. Yet, I found that the two concepts intersected a bit as I read.

I appreciated this book and was glad for the opportunity to read it and see another theory of the "self", though I resonate much more with the concept of no self, as it leaves more room for unrestricted growth instead of "searching" for one's whole, rigid "self" as this book emphasizes. Intersection occured in the parts where the author spoke about authenticity and the self, and how the self is not like a rock (unmaleable, breakable) but more like water (ever-changing and resistant to outside influence).

The writing itself was predominantly easy to understand, but at times became wordy and puzzling. The chapters felt very repetitive and were monotonous to get through.

I thought a lot of points made outside the discussion (read: obsession) with the self were helpful. The book definitely had some good information.

Thank you NetGalley for this ARC in exchange for an honest review.
This is one of the best self-help/self-discover/self-reflection books that I’ve ever read. I will be purchasing several copies of this book to give to friends for birthday and Christmas gifts.
The thing I love most about this book is that that it doesn’t come off as cliche when presenting deep insights. This is the type of book where you read, reread, and then immediately want to talk to someone about what you just read. I appreciate you, Sara Kuburic! Please write more and send me all of your ARCs :)

"It's On Me" by Sara Kuburic is a remarkable and introspective read. With profound insights and practical advice, Kuburic empowers readers to take ownership of their lives and emotional well-being. Her compassionate approach, combined with personal anecdotes and relatable examples, makes this book a valuable resource for self-discovery and growth.

Thought provoking book… it’s definitely eye opening for self loss or finding one’s self to begin with. I think the best way to claim your authenticity or true self is to devise meaning in your life. This was a complicated idea made simple in this book. Five stars for it.

an area I’m not familiar with, I wasn’t sure what to expect. Kubric takes care to set a firm foundation for her readers in the first few chapters so that the real-life examples she provides later in the book are clear. She provides questions that allow her readers to engage in productive reflection with each concept. She handles an important mental health topic in a serious yet approachable manner that makes it suitable for everyday readers, academic researchers, and everyone in between. An excellent introduction to the topic of Self-Loss.

I LOVE THIS. This is what we need. Loss of self. Genius. It’s so relatable. And touched me right where I wanted it to.

I really enjoyed this book and learning about self-loss. In this book you learn that if you want to make changes in your life you need to take responsibility for your actions and choices that create your reality. Self-loss is defined as our failed responsibility to be ourselves. Once we face ourselves and are aware we can take actions to find meaning in our lives. This could include learning to regulate emotions, setting boundaries, and creating space by decluttering out mental and physical environment. A very inspiring book. Thank you to NetGalley and the Publisher for an ARC.

I absolutely LOVED this book! So insightful, and lots of great prompts for self-exploration. I would recommend this book to anyone struggling to find empowerment in their own lives!

This easy to read yet profoundl book uses the cioncepts of existentsl philosoiphĝexplains the self-loss, the negligence of our responsibility to define our true .identity.and answer the questions "who am I" and "why am I here?" We have the absolute freedom to define ourselves through our actions and there is no respite from the absolute responsibility for. Our actions. It is bas faith to deny one's freedom br pretending as if it was taken away. Rarher, we are author of own lives. This is the best self-help book that I have read in a long time. It is pertinent to our present in that it is essential to find one's own identity regardless of society's expectation.

“It’s On Me" by Sara Kuburic is an eye opening guide to identifying self-loss and taking responsibility for our lives.

Kuburic guides you through how to take responsibility for our life choices and discover our true self. Her book leads one through process of self-reflection, acceptance, and discovery of our authentic selves.

This was the first time I read about the term self-loss. Usually I hear all about self-love and self-care. I enjoyed Kubric's informative book. Thanks to NetGalley for the ARC. Five stars. I learned a lot of tools to help with my own mental health.

I really enjoyed this title! I think it'll be SO good on audio when it is released. It was a good read and had some good examples and topics that I really liked. I guess this author is popular on social media and a USA today author. I'd definitely be interested in following her and learning more because I really enjoyed this.

"It's On Me" by Sara Kuburic is a powerful and enlightening guide to identifying self-loss and taking responsibility for our lives. Kuburic, an existential psychotherapist and USA Today columnist, presents a new vocabulary to help readers understand the experience of self-loss and offers effective tools to recover from it.

The book highlights the importance of facing ourselves, even if we don't like what we see, and taking full responsibility for our choices and actions. It's about discovering our true Self and living accordingly. Kuburic helps readers answer the essential questions of "Who am I?" and "Why am I here?" and guides them through the process of self-reflection, acceptance, and discovery.

Through her unique process, Kuburic teaches readers to experience but not feel overpowered by their emotions, establish a healthy connection with their bodies, set boundaries, declutter their environments, and find meaning and purpose in life. The book is a revelation and an empowering guide to stop sleepwalking through life and live authentically.

Kuburic's insights are valuable and transformative, and her writing style is engaging and accessible. Overall, "It's On Me" is a must-read for anyone feeling disconnected or unfulfilled and seeking a way to take ownership of their lives and become their most vibrant and authentic selves.