this was a good book, it just wasn't for me.

thank you net galley and the publisher for an arc in exchange for an honest review.

"It's Not Your Fault" is a compassionate and insightful book that helps readers understand the root causes of their self-sabotaging behavior. The author draws on her own experiences as well as the experiences of her clients to provide a clear and concise explanation of how trauma from childhood can lead to subconscious patterns of self-sabotage. Day also provides readers with tools and exercises to help them uncover their subconscious patterns and develop new, healthier ones.

I found this book to be helpful and informative. I especially appreciated Day's compassionate and understanding tone. She really gets how difficult it can be to overcome self-sabotage, and she provides readers with a lot of practical advice on how to start the healing process.

Well, let me tell you, "It's Not Your Fault" is like a total game-changer! This book digs deep into all the crazy ways we mess up our own success and happiness. It's all about figuring out those sneaky subconscious reasons that hold us back, which often go way back to our childhood trauma. But don't worry, it's not just about surface-level tactics – this book takes you on a journey to explore how all that old stuff affects your life and how you can make a real transformation.

You know what's cool? It's not about lacking willpower. It's more like not knowing ourselves well enough. Laura, the author, is like a trusted friend who's been there and done that. She totally gets you. No more trying to tweak your habits and ending up in the same old rut. This book shows you how to break free from self-sabotage and create the life you actually want.

If you've been let down by regular self-help stuff, this is the real deal, bro. No fluff, just heartfelt advice and practical tools to rock your world. So grab a copy, kick back, and get ready to crush it! #ItsNotYourFault #NetGalley

This book felt more like a conversation with a very well-educated friend versus other self-help books out there. That might be a con or a pro depending on how you best absorb information. Regardless, this book was very informative and I did find it helpful. I would recommend this book to someone who’s looking for an introductory to self-help books because it’s easier to read in comparison to others on the market that might read more like a textbook.

I really appreciated how this book emphasises practical and honest responses to trauma and adverse childhood events. It's clearly well-researched and informed by the author's own experiences. Overall, I was very impressed by the way this book breaks down various areas in which adults with a history of abuse can struggle in life, work, and relationships. The information provided was clear and helpful, the personal insight empathetic and relatable. I think knowing the author also comes from a background of childhood abuse made it easier for me to trust her and to respect her writing.

My one respectful suggestion would be regarding the references to God, religion, and Higher Powers. Bearing in mind that the book is targeted towards adult survivors of abusive childhoods, I think it's important to consider how many people are survivors of religious abuse. Personally, I found the sudden references to God etc. jarring and triggering, especially when combined with the difficult/upsetting subject material. I don't think that people should have to wait until they're "healed/recovered" before feeling safe enough to approach otherwise very well-written recovery books, so my suggestion would be either to reword/remove these references, or to put a clear note at the beginning of the book emphasising that the author takes faith seriously (which is absolutely her right, but may be harmful/hurtful for some readers if they begin reading without knowing this beforehand).

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing an ARC of It's Not Your Fault in exchange for an honest review.

This book felt more like a conversation with a very well educated friend versus other self help books out there. That might be a con or a pro depending on how you best absorb information. Regardless, this book was very informative and I did find it helpful. I would recommend this book to someone who’s looking for an introductory into self help books because it’s easier to read in comparison to others on the market that might read more like a textbook.

Thanks to Net Galley I was able to read this book before it’s published .

This is a beautiful book for those who are always on the lookout to make their lives better, to improve themselves and their lives, to heal, and to live their lives in a more fulfilling way.
Written with love and compassion, it walks you through so many chapters and themes – I wish there was a book like this one available to me some 20 years ago.
It is validating and acknowledges that, well, this is what this life is, but there are ways to deal with it and you can do it.
There are some questions to help you dig deeper.
The book is beautifully written. I am sure it will be loved by many of us who are always doing the inner work.