Grateful to have found this book when I needed it most. It’s outside of my typical reading genres, but it reached me at a time of crisis when loving someone was hurting me

I needed this. Sadly. As a child who was on her own I never learned how to maintain relationships. I love people but I keep my distance.
However, I have had a happy marriage for 20 years because we both put the kids first and that gives us no time to fight or break up and a common goal. So that's fine and I don't need to change anything. Romantic relationships are not everything there is and we should keep that in mind. Honestly, our belief that romantic relationships are everything is bad for society and communities. I truly believe that can damage your kids because you cannot focus on your partner all the time. You can't. And it is also why some parents allow their partners to abuse their kids. Or maybe I feel this way because my parents put their respective partners first and as a result I was left to care for myself and my brother. I am still caring for my brother.

I am trying to build a life and my partner is a partner in that, we don't need to have a lot of great dates and hold hands all the time for that.

Great book. Absolutely essential for us broken people.

Dive into the profound insights of "Loving You Is Hurting Me" by Laura Copley, a masterpiece brimming with wisdom, practical illustrations, and an empathetic tone. Dr. Copley's meticulous contemplation on the subject shines through as she unravels the intricate threads of healing from emotional wounds and steering clear of toxic patterns. A must-have for couples therapists and anyone seeking to break free from trauma's grasp and forge a path to healthier, more nurturing relationships.

Dr. Laura Copley, a licensed professional counselor and trauma researcher, dissects the heart of toxic relationships, unveiling the unhealed trauma wounds that underlie them. With compassion and insight, she challenges the prevailing stigma attached to trauma survivors trapped in these dynamics, offering an alternative narrative that steers clear of blame and victimhood. Drawing from a decade's worth of research and her therapeutic experiences, Dr. Copley charts a roadmap to untangle the web of toxic emotions born from trauma bonds. I highly recommend!