Thank you for the advanced reading copy. After reading the prior book and now this book, I thoroughly appreciate the direct way she outlines what to do/say. There are very good points as to how couples can increase their pleasure, and how to get their ‘mojo’ back. Would be great for couples in a slump. Very much appreciated this advanced copy.

DNF'd

I feel so bad not finishing this book because I loved Come as You Are and have so much respect for Emily Nagoski. But I couldn't finish Chapter 5 or beyond. Maybe I'll come back to it later in life, it just didn't resonate with me now.

This was a fabulous book! And Nagoski does a wonderful job narrating the audiobook!

It gave me so much to think about in regards to how my husband and I navigate our sex lives. The chapters on context and it’s a boy!/it’s a girl! Had the biggest impact on me.

Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for an early eARC in exchange for an honest review! I loved Emily Nagoski’s, CAYA, so I was excited to read her newest book. I thought this was an interesting and very thoroughly researched follow up to her previous work. There is a ton of actionable, supportive and inclusive information here for long term couples, regardless of sexual orientation and background.

I also appreciate Nagoski’s inclusive language and sensitivity to these topics, and to write it in a way that is well researched without being a snooze fest. She has thought of every perspective here, and made it accessible. I will look forward to her next work!

As always, I learn so much from Nagoski's approach to popular science and increasing our understanding and autonomy over our bodies. Will read anything she publishes!

I appreciated how this book really spelled out certain things that may be preventing long-term partners from having the sex that they want, specifically how our bodies change with time and circumstances and how to help rectify that. My only gripe is it did feel a bit surface level at times, but overall, I think could be a great resource for couples.

Thank you to the publisher and NetGalley for an advance copy in exchange for an honest review.

One of the only non fiction books I’ve read this year and it was so interesting. It definitely made me think about my own self. The only downer was the repetition towards the end. Understandable, to say the least.

Anything further and I am giving away too much. Just read it. It’s so interesting and makes you think. A win win.

Will fully recommend this book to couple's clients as they come to therapy looking for a more fulfilling sex life. So appreciative of Dr. Nagoski's work and approach.

This book is obviously well-researched, as Emily Nagoski is a go-to expert on sexual health. I liked the focus on sex in a long-term romantic relationship and the importance of "co-creating a context that makes it easier to access pleasure" (chaps. 1 and 2). The chapters on emotional floorplans were helpful concepts to understand what gets you in the mood, although I feel like the author over-complicated it at times (chaps. 3 and 4). As a sex therapist, I have quoted her several times: "pleasure is the measure", "what do you want when you want sex?", and brakes and accelerators. I also agree with challenging sex imperatives (chap. 9) and gender stereotypes (chap. 10). There are a few issues with the book that make me hesitant to recommend it to my clients. She writes about and for neurodivergent and genderqueer (which the author identifies as) or poly/non-monogamous people more often than she writes about and for neurotypical married heterosexual folks. I kept waiting for her to address how having children changes your sex life (a very common problem!) and she spent only one sub-heading on it. However, there are SEVERAL stories on poly couples or queer couples (including one about how to make time to get away with your third partner), topics that aren't relatable to my clients. It's fine to address readers that are in the minority and normally aren't represented, but just market the book as such. I hesitate to recommend the book as a whole to my married, mostly Christian therapy clients, and instead will refer to certain chapters or concepts.

I really enjoyed this book. I found it really interesting. I liked the perspective of making sure that everyone is having a good time. My favorite parts were the tl;dr sections at the end of each chapter. It made it easy to digest in small chunks.

Emily Nagoski’s Come Together is a thought provoking book. It can open in depth discussions of sexual connections. In my opinion, I believe it would be a great addition to any psychology collection. I would recommend this to other mental health professionals as well.

Thank you NetGalley.

I loved Come Together! Such a handy book for bonding with your partner (or partners) in the bedroom. I like that this focused on sexual health, not just "how to get your rocks off" but how to have a deeper understand of your body and your partner's.

An important view of sexual and relational health. Good companion to Come as You Are, though not all too different from the Come as You Are Workbook.

This book was an auto-request for me because I love Nagoski's approach to sexual health. This book provides practical and inclusive guidance to people trying to connect and to nurture lasting attraction. A lot of this I already knew, but the way Nagoski puts it all together inspires reflection on the little things that make a relationship work. I expected more science and data in the book, and was a bit disappointed with some of the touchy-feely stuff especially toward the end. Overall though, I got something out of reading this book, and will continue to read Nagoski's work.

As a huge fan of Emily Nagoski's first book, Come As You Are, I was elated when I was chosen to read an ARC of Come Together. As someone who has been with their current partner for seven years in a monogamous relationship, where our sex life has changed across the years, I was fascinated and uncomfortable and found solace in the incredibly well researched data and evidence.

I would 100% recommend this to everyone I know, especially others in long term relationships who are looking to connect more (and better) with themselves and their partner.

At times this book was a validating, comforting hug and at other times it was a challenge to sit in my discomfort and get curious about that discomfort. I both liked this book and disliked it when it called me out...which I know is the point. Dr. Nagoski pulled from her own work and the work of others to provide advice. Some of that advice was very practical (like if you want sex towels, make a handy spot for sex towels) and some of that advice was a little more philosophical (like map the floorplan of your mind to figure out what's adjacent to sex).

Thank you to Ballantine Books and NetGalley for an ARC in exchange for an honest review!

I absolutely love all of Emily Nagoski’s work and this book is no exception! It is packed for with research based and helpful information that will help any couple! The book focuses quite heavily on emotional and mental states that impede pleasure. Highly recommend along with the other books the author has written!

I love Emily Nagoskis work and this book is no exception. I love that she is inclusive of asexual and aromantic sexualities and how evidence based this book is while still be inclusive, kind, and comforting. I will use the strategies she recommends in this book.

I'm a HUGE fan of Nagoski's work, and this is a wonderful addition to her oeuvre. It's enormously practical-- at some points, a bit simplistic-- but sometimes you just need someone to tell you something you already know in order to actually DO IT.

This book hammers home a lot of the same messaging as her previous book, Come As You Are. I enjoyed Come As You Are immensely, and while the repetition of the same simple concepts in this book got a little tiresome, I still enjoyed the messaging and the reminders that we are all "normal."